hi Ive just recently found out Im pregnant for the third time and Im really worried about using my surgeries midwife. My first midwife she was great really on the ball about any issue I had high blood pressure with the first and a difficult labour as I had a large baby, when I found out I was pregnant with my second child I carried on with her but then moved 20 miles away so changed to my local doctors surgery midwife she seemed OK at first but didn't do any off the checks the other midwife done she just done the blood pressure and urine sample and occasionally listened to the heart beat, my previous midwife sent her all my notes and even a note about my previous pregnancy.
Any way I was alot larger with this pregnancy and told the midwife I was concerned about the size of the baby to which she told me not to worry and that she thought the baby was 7-8lb which I thought was great news seeing as my son was 8 13oz, i was planning to have her in a birthing unit nearly an hour from the hospital, though when I was visiting my mum I went into labour 3 weeks early when I went into the ratcliffe hospital my blood pressure was up and during labour my daughter got stuck by her shoulders and panic ensued and I went out cold with the pain, was a natural childbirth with only gas and air my daughter came out not breathing she weighed 9 13 1/2 ozs and they told me that my midwife should have picked up on the size they looked at her notes cos I carry them everywhere, and they didn't look happy with her checks. when i returned home i never saw the midwife again and went to the birthing unit who told me if I had her there they wouldn't off been able to do anything and would of had to send me to the nearest hospital so Im glad I went into labour when I did
I just don,t know what to do shes the only one based at the surgery Ive not even booked in with the doctor yet, do I change surgeries the doctors are really good Im around 8weeks now
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Firstly congrats
Book in with your doctor and explain your worries. There may be some sort of other arrangement he can make. Or where possible you could book in with an independant midwife though this tends to be quite costly depending on your area
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CommentAuthorcharlottelee
I opted to use a midwife clinic at the hospital when i had my second for the same reason. My first was born disabled and the midwife should have picked up on it while i was pregnant so understandably i didnt want to go back. My doctor was very understanding and happily refered to a different one.
Go and see your doctor and like modmummy said they should be able to sort something out
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CommentAuthorcharlottelee
oh and congratulations
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CommentAuthorMrs.Caz.Lewis
aww congrats hun :) i remember like it was yesterday when i found out i was pregnant, now im 6 months! enjoy it while you can :D
talk to your doctor about previous experience and see if he can put your mind at ease. hope that they gave the midwife a big b0llocking xxx
Going to ring the doctors now, just worried that they will pass me on to an even worse midwife, seems you can get really great midwife's and some really bad ones
CommentAuthormadison_uk
the midwife's been there for years and seems she cant do no wrong, just never want to see her again or id get banged up for kicking her arse
CommentAuthorMrs.Caz.Lewis
surely she got b0ll0cking for being so placent and nonchalont with your pregnancy? shes a midwife, babies and pregnancies are meant to be her thing, she cant just fob off the tests and everything cos whats the point then???
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
what do i say to the doctor cant really s lag her off, hes a great doctor shame he cant do the checks
CommentAuthorJodyx
Congratutalions hun on the baby news. Its hard what to say to the doctors isnt ?? XXX
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CommentAuthorcj
congrats hun, an we had a few bad midwifes they dont always get things right they told us our son was going to be 15lb 5 born an he was 5lb 15oz that the w2b hardly had any water an she did she was measuring 40wks at 32wks just express your concerns just explain why your worried and im sure they will put your mind at ease x
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CommentAuthorGriff
Congratulations over your bundle of joy! I'm with the girls express your concerns to your GP or practice nurse, they will be able to mediate this for you xx
CommentAuthormadison_uk
thanks cj h2b told me not to bother with them at all he dosent like them poking and prodding, and wants me to have this one in Oxford too only problem is we live in Cornwall and my parents now live in Wales lol
CommentAuthormadison_uk
have booked an appointment for thursday with my doctor so hopefully he can sort something out secretly hoping that the midwife has left lol
CommentAuthorlittle_88
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congratulations madison_uk.. firstly on an antenatal if you are low risk you should only need your blood pressure and urine checking it is these two things that can point out conditions of hypertension or pre eclampsia, there isnt really anything else we can do routinely. but occasionally listened to the heart beat.. this is wrong.. your midwife should lisen in at every antenatal appointment .. with a doplar or a pinard .. (looks like a trumpet) ..
The only way as midwives we can tell if you are having a large baby is by measuring the growth of your abdomen done after or around 28 weeks every time your midwife sees you .. the problems with this is it is very subjective and midwives can measure very differently.. if you were measuring highly above the lines in your growth chart then your midwife should of referred you for an antenatal scan, although im my experience i have seen women induced for small weight and women going on to have 6 7 8 pounders...
There are other factors to have nearly a 10 pound baby at 37 weeks mite indicate that you had gestational diabetes and i would suggest that if there is a family history, or you have a high bmi you mite want to go for a GTT test (glucose tolerance test)..
But you can definitely change midwives not every woman is going to get on with there midwife and i would suggest you just changed surgeries if your happy to take the extra car journey... i'm not sure how much your GP can do as they really have little to do with pregnancy care... I would suggest seeing where you nearest gp surgery is from you and ringing them to book an appointment with the midwife there :D ...
ive seen a few women change due to them not getting on with there midwife.
hope that helps!... xx
CommentAuthorKayteeG
Congratulations! Definitely make sure you are with a midwife you can trust and are happy with, yu don't want any extra stress during pregnancy! My midwife was really good - I was huge with my daughter and she was very concerned about the size of her (her daddy was 10lb 8oz, so I was panicking!) She kept sending me for growth scans and consultant checks (I was measuring 47 weeks at 38 weeks pregnant!!!) However the consultants wouldn't give me a sweep or even consider inducing me - just told me that baby could get stuck and I'd need forceps!! They wanted me to go naturally. Fortunately, she wasn't the giant we thought she would be and arrived a day overdue weighing 9lb 3.5oz (I had polyhydramnios!) Good luck hun! xxx
CommentAuthorprincessnat1977
Congratulations hunni, I hope the doctor helps, I am sure you can be refered to the hospital midwife or another in the area. Keep us posted xx
CommentAuthormadison_uk
the whole time I saw her she never measured my stomach let alone felt the position of the baby, have no diabetes in the family but my family usually has large babies could be down to genetics. I did ask her why she never measured and she just said that you don't have to and its not accurate anyway she never asked me questions like my last midwife either like have you felt the baby move, have you got swollen ankles etc, was a quick in and out really, hopefully I can go to some proper midwives who take an interest and have a bit more trust in them.
CommentAuthormadison_uk
setting off to the doctors so nervous about what to say its unreal, hope it all goes ok
CommentAuthormadison_uk
great news been to see my doctor who was really great about the whole thing even spoke to midwife unit for me while i was there and i have just had a phone call from them with a new midwife whos seems very nice lets hope she is. They have also said that if im worried at all to come in on a drop in to go over any concerns and have said not to worry as they will be keeping a better eye on the size of the baby this time round and that what happened last time should never of happened and apparently the midwife in question has since retired though i think pushed may be a better word for it lol. So im all happy now so i can just concentrate on having a new addition to the family
CommentAuthormadison_uk
thanks everyone for your advice x
CommentAuthormadison_uk
had a very good day today met my new midwife who was excellent very understanding and will definitely feel more relaxed and happy with her, feel like i can relax now and just concentrate on the bump lol
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
How long did it take for you to get a midwife appointment? x
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CommentAuthorKayteeG
Glad you got it all sorted hun - now you can just enjoy everything to come! Good luck x
CommentAuthormadison_uk
Nearly two weeks she was on holiday but came and saw me as soon as she could at home so wasn't too bad
CommentAuthorKayteeG
Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly from now on then! x
