I only ask as I'm a little unsure on what to do - just ask for money (but doesn't that sound rude) or ask for vouchers of some kind (but doesn't that sound impersonal) any ideas, thoughts, suggestions please!!
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
We're not putting anything into our invites tbh!!!
If people want to get us a gift or give us money, great!!! if not, not the end of the world..we chose to get married and chose to invite them...all i ask is that they can make it :d
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CommentAuthorToops
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Actually that sounds really reasonable, I do just want all my friends to participate and enjoy themselves.
CommentAuthorKesha
we have a wedding gift list, purely because I want people to not have to spend hours looking for a gift if they wish to buy us one. The list is there to help them choose a gift but it doesnt say they have to buy us a gift. I know my family would rather buy something we want/need rather then they choose something and it gets put in a cupboard for years! I also did a list to stop the same gifts being bought more than once.
CommentAuthorToops
Kesha, did you choose a store eg John Lewis for your wedding list or did you do something else - I'm in a similar situation that I believe some of my friends will want to buy us something.
You can get holiday vouchers these days - we done this for my niece and she had enough for a fab 2 week all inc honeymoon! :0)
CommentAuthorsbride
We are asking for money towards the honeymoon. I think most people would rather give money then worry about what gifts to buy. We are gonna put a poem in our invites.
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CommentAuthorToops
MrsM, Actually a friend mentioned holiday vouchers, do you get these from the internet or travel agent?
CommentAuthorkendy
as we both have our own home's we dont need anything so we'r having a wishing well card box, giving our guests silver envelopes, asking them not to write anything on the outside, put a donation inside as much or little as they like and post it in the well, then donating it to when you wish upon a star as they helped my 2 ill sons xxx
CommentAuthorsbride
thats is lovely minime, a really kind thought x
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CommentAuthorLedZepLover
We are just asking for honeymoon money, and we have a little poem to ask politely. I think it is all about the wording, if it sounds polite then no-one will be offended x x x
CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Heres a poem from a lady who sells these cash gift cards on ebay, I dont know if you are interested but they may be nice to incorporate into your wedding invites.
We really hope you can join us, on our special day You'll make our memories complete in every single way We do not have a gift list, and we know you'll understand Our house and contents are complete with pots and plates and pans But should you really want to give and celebrate this way A gift of money would be lovely for a rainy day
I think this is a polite way of asking. We are using this poem but changing the "a rainy day" to "our holiday". xxx
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CommentAuthormummytoad1
Hey my wedding is on the 10th june, I went to debenhams and created a list with them, then anyone who asked me for a list i sent it with their invites asking them not to buy from debenhams as its too expensive but gives them an idea...seems to have worked for us as everyone is buying from debenhams lol xxx
CommentAuthorEriksfjord
We've got a debenhams list where people can buy something or put money on a gift card. We did this as people said it would be easier for them as they can do it on line and it will be delivered to us!
CommentAuthorSuffolkSteph
Quick question then.... Were getting married away on our own.... If people want to buy us a present then we would love them to put towards the Honeymoon... do you think though that as we are not inviting anyone to a wedding then they wont want to buy us a present....?
I am not expecting presents as we are going away but I know that some memebers of out familys will want to get us a gift...
I was thinking about sending a card to everyone with our wedding date on so they can think of us on our special day... but now I write it it sounds well naff.......
I'm a bit confussed now....
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
we will be having 2 lists one will have a couple of things on there that we want but the other one will be a poem, (that i got of a post ages ago) asking for money towards our honeymoon xx
cant wait to renew my vows, love my hubby sssssooooo much xx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
We have a list at John Lewis.
Some people have sent us various gift vouchers already.
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CommentAuthorToops
Great loads to think about and thank you all for the suggestions and food for thought.
CommentAuthorMrs Sazra
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We're creating our wedding list at House of Fraser tomorrow. Can't wait to be let loose with the little scanner!
CommentAuthorRoxii
We're not having a gift list, or asking for money or honeymoon wouchers. We're simply leaving it for people to make their own minds up as to whether they even want to buy us a gift. I see it as.. If I was sent a gift list to a wedding that I'd feel like I HAD to buy a gift, even if I didn't really have the money.. But If I didn't get a gift list I wouldn't feel like it was nessessary if I couldn't afford it. So i'm hoping that by not sending one if people are struggling then they do not feel that they have to get us something. Because I would hate that!!
CommentAuthorToops
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Roxii I thoroughly agree, don't want people to feel they have to get a present, as mentioned before I'll just be happy to have everyone to party with me :-))))
CommentAuthorMrs Sazra
The only reason we're having a list is that we've both lived alone for 10 years and have everything practical for the house. So this is our treat list. We will be making sure there are lots of differently priced things on there though.
CommentAuthorToops
Yes I wouldn't mind that actually a treat list as we to have all the practical stuff. SNAP Sazra - just had a quick peek at your photos and we have similar engagement rings - great minds :-)
CommentAuthorCeCe
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No wedding lists for us..I don't like them..think it is cheeky specifying what you want..UNLESS you and your hubby are a new home owners/ co-habiters.
My guests are travelling long distances and staying in accomodation (at their expense) for our wedding..so we are telling NO pressies!
CommentAuthorfuturemrsstockwin
we are just asking for people to put in to a honey pot then that will help pay for the honeymoon. i think its best to ask people just to give them a guide so you dont end up with tons of toasters lol x
CommentAuthorToops
Yes that is true, don't want loads of toasters :-) True CeCe, it does seem rather cheeky!
CommentAuthorMrs Sazra
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lol Toops, great minds indeed, your ring is lovely!
CommentAuthorLou lou
we are just adding a poem to ours asking for either honeymoon vouchers or money towards honeymoon xx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
we might start gettin stuff if only i can get invites sent out lol
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CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
Dee... That's a nice little ditty! I wasn't planning on a list, we have everything already and as we hadn't planned on a free bar, I hadn't thought to do a list. Not really fussed about gifts, as long as everyone has a good day, I'll be happy x
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
thats my thoughts hunny xx
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Twilight - its' like my own personal brand of Heroin...
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I have OTD - Obsessive Twilight Disorder :D
CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
BrideBecca - 3 months to go, how exciting!
My BIL2B got married in France last week, and they asked for money, and they got 2900euros, they are planning a honeymoon with it, which is nice. There was only 50 guests!
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
wow !!! lol h2b and i said no point.if they awnt to give us a gift or cash thats fine but if not then fine too
money will go towards a honeymoon i think! even vouchers would be great but w'll see lol xx
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Twilight - its' like my own personal brand of Heroin...
Edward Cullen - The Hottest Vampire since 1901 !!
I have OTD - Obsessive Twilight Disorder :D
CommentAuthorKimi
We've requested cash/vouchers towards honeymoon.
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorShellster90
I've popped a little cash request card with a poem on into their invitations :)
CommentAuthorLittlegerald
We're doing a honeymoon gift list with Debenhams....we're booking it in a few months and we will pay it off a little bit at a time anything our guests pay for will be a bonus xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Alsbetty
we have said if you would like to buy us a present vouchers from a certain travel agent would be lovely
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CommentAuthorvixen
we anit having a wedding list so cant help ya hun..lol xx
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
ditto vixen lol
whatever we do get wil be a bonus xx
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Edward Cullen - The Hottest Vampire since 1901 !!
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CommentAuthorToops
Thanks all for the input, this is much appreciated :-))))
PS: Good luck with all your arranging xxx
CommentAuthorMrsB
we are having a honeymoon one due to the fact we got 4 toastie makers for our engagement party!!! xx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
lol MrsT....u never no when u might want to make 8 toasties lol
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Edward Cullen - The Hottest Vampire since 1901 !!
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CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
I think we will also ask for contributions towards a honeymoon.
CommentAuthorpouchi-loo
i have not put nothing in the invite because at the end of the day we will be greatful for whatever we get. for we the greatest gift i will get at the end of the day is a marriage.
CommentAuthorcatch
we are not asking for anything, we will take what we get, it's second time around for us and we pretty much have all we want, my family ( sisters, brothers) are giveing us euro's as they know we always go away on holiday every year, so that great for us we are truely greatful xx
CommentAuthortasha
we are looking into booking our honeymoon with virgin and we have a virgin in the debenhams so we can do a gift list for a couple of things for the house and then put the honeymoon onto that too so that if people want to buy us something its all in one place!!
CommentAuthorMrs Sazra
Just got back from scanning our list, it was so much fun! :)
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CommentAuthorDaffy
We've gone with Debenhams. We are having a gift list and choosing things we would like, but also a gift card which people can put money towards. x
Daffy
CommentAuthorSabriel
I'm thinking we're having a charity gift list, most likely with Cancer Research, as we have both had people in our family affected by the disease and we have all the stuff we need for a house as we live together so yeah, we are just asking the guests to make a donation on our behalf ^_^
