Hey girls, I got engaged in August and was really excited. Although we are getting married in 2013 we are having a engagement party in December and I have picked my bridal party and h2b his. I have my oldest friend from primary school who lives in guildford and although she lives far away we keep in conatcat via book and txt but its impossiable to ever talk wedding stuff now shes been down for the weekend and shes gone today texting as she was on her way home saying sorry we didnt meet up! I undertsand she had family etc but she was the one who said for me to be about today to meet lol. Another bm is my friend from work whos alot older then the rest of us and doesnt feel like she fits in and thinks she will look stupid in a dress compared to my other friends so i think she thinks by her being distant and ignoring all wedding talk i will think again about my choice. My other friend lives in locally and she is great at suggesting things and is the complete oposite to the other 3 becase shes like "oh il get my mum to do your flowers she brillent oh and my nan can... etc lol" bless her heart i love her to bits but i want her to be there with me lol not up half the night making food and arranging flowers etc shes also happily buzzing in her own new love life so it can be abit hard to talk weddings. Tbh the most chat and fun i get is from here. The most upseting one off all is my best friend who is my MOH and i hardly ever see her anymore i havent seen her for about 3 months coz she always makes excuses up when were about to meet and recenrtly come back off holiday engagaed herself so shes all into that which is fine but she wont talk to me about mine lol and is all close guarded when ask how things are going. Theres was a wedding fair near her house the other week which she had said we could go to together but then went with her bf instead havent spoke to her now for about 3 months other then the ocassional distant msg which she takes days to reply too. I dont have many friends and thought i had made good choices with the 4 i picked i just wish they would be a bit more surpoting im dreading hens night etc they dont know each other spertaly so they will all meet first time at the party. I want to go try on dresses and talk flowers and colours venues etc but have no one!! really starting to get to me now :( xxx

I know how you feel, my MOH lives over 200 miles away, so does my other bridesmaid. but I can also see it from their point of view in that it's a long time away so they probably won't be as excited about it as you are. We often forget that people have their own lives and just because ours might revolve around wedding plans, others aren't! Best thing to do is just to work on talking about things other than wedding plans with them first as you don't want to seem as the only reason you are talking to them is always about the wedding. You might find that helps.xx