i am worried that the people i want at my wedding might not show up and the people i dont want there will turn up. i dont want my mum, brother, sister and step family to come but they have said they will do anything to make me suffer (i wont let them see my daughter because they have been convicted of child abuse. and i didnt have a good upbringin and i dont want my daughter to suffer the way i did). i am so stressed. i have found some people that will be bouncers and i am thinking of putting something like a cinema style ticket in the invite and put that they wont get in inless they have it with them. do you think that i am going over the top? do you think i am worrying too much? PLEASE HELP =)
CommentAuthormillz090
I wouldn't stress yet, leave the wedding subject wit them for a while and don't tell them the date, location, etc and hopefully they will forget. Hard situation though cxx
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CommentAuthorNicholaP44
it must b hard 4 u hun, but yes i agree with millz090, tell them as little as possible!! x x
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
Don't tell them any information, when you send out the invites tell the people you want there the time and location ie the town and on the day you could send out a group text with the venue details thats one way they wont find out, or just tell them not to relay any information to other family members, though by the time your wedding comes around they wont do anything and will have forgotten about it all
CommentAuthorTori
I would send out false information to let it get to them so that they think it is the week after. It will be too late once they turn up xx
I don't think your over the top if they have said there going to make you suffer your reasons are valid I an I applaud you for taking action to ensure the safety of your children throw them off the scent with false info and keep the ticket idea also inform your venue how serious this is and that you don't want trespasses on the most important day of your life good luck hope it works out x
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CommentAuthorKristina
I dont think you are over the top with anything. Just tell them little as much as possible.
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CommentAuthorSam
Is there no way to get a restraining order? Other than that you really need to stop all contact with these people and anyone that doesn't respect your boundaries regarding your family.
CommentAuthorLeighS
I think by having a ticket invite wedding is a good idea. Also having people on the door as they can sort anything problems out shoud they occur at no risk to you or anyone else attending your wedding. If you feel safer too it may be wise to look into getting an injuction order on them so if they did turn up they can be arrested for breeching the order. Do you have any proof of what they having been saying about making you suffer, say text messages or e.mails? if so keep them as evidence as it will help should you so down this route. As others have said here make out you are getting married a month or so later than they think or even make out you have already got married 6months or so before . Good luck. xx
CommentAuthorlizzylou
No i don't think you're being over the top. I'd keep as much of the details for yourself for as long as you can. For people that live locally you could just invite them with the date and not even put the venue. Say it'll be a suprise nearer the time and then just give them a rough idea, that way no one can let slip. Those coming from a far might need to be told though. x
