I would be very anoyed as well. I am not a big drinker but will have a drink when I want to. Your MIL2B was well out of order. Hope that she apologies for her actions x

I love a drink but only when I'm in the mood which isn't very often. That is awful, what if you had gone to drive later on or had been not drinking for a specific reason such as being pregnant?!! People are so stupid sometimes.

It is a regular occurance that we go out somewhere and I won't drink mostly as I can't be bothered as it means I won't be able to drive later for work the next day etc or we don't really have the money for taxis. I refuse to drink just because someone else wants me to, like you my other halfs family all drink too and it's like you've just spat in their first born's face when you say you don't want a drink.

The next time you see her I'd be very matter of fact that she could cause a serious accident or cause harm to your health by doing something so stupid, how can she possibly know that you aren't on medication/pregnant/intending to drive? I'm raging for you!

I'm not a big drinker after having a very bad experience with alcohol and ended up in hospital. I was treat like a pile of poo until the person who spiked my drink came to the hospital. What would your MIL2B have done if you were driving? If she's kind enough to offer to buy youa drink she should at least get you a drink you'd like, not what she'd lke you to drink! If she does it again I'd be tempted to embarras her by leaving any drinks she buys you on the table and go to buy your own. She can't be trusted the silly woman. You wouldn't make her drink lemonade all day so she shouldn't make you drink alcohol. Good luck, hope your h2b gets through to her x

i think i would be very annoyed. My family are all big drinkers but i would never force somone to drink when they dont want to. What would she have done if something happened. And like abbey said would she have told you if you were about to drive

Firstly, Omg, you don't look old enough to have a 17 year old! lol.

That is my point exactly, you shouldn't need to tell her that you are on medication or any other reason. You don't want a drink and that should be taken as said.

I'm the exact same, I won't drive for at least 24 hours after having my last drink "just in case"

OMG! Isn't spiking illegal? I'm not a big drinker either as i hate hangovers more than anything.

That is awful of her. I'm fuming on your behalf!

i'd have poured it over her head!!!
thats bang out of order and could have caused who knows what sort of trouble if you had been on med's/pregnant/driving. You dont go around telling everyone what medication you are taking so she wasnt to know that you havent been taking something- even if its just painkillers. Mixing ANY medication with alcohol could potentially be fatal, dependant on what meds and how much alcohol.
As for drinking and driving, everyone knows what the consequences of that can be!
next time bring it up in front of everyone and embarrass her, she deserves it for being so stupid

i always find that big drinking friends of mine think i'm not having fun if i.m not drinking, like i'm missing out on something, maybe position it like that with her and h2b and they might take heed......or just lie and say your driving or something :) xx

There's nothing wrong with not liking to drink, and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.
I've been fortunate in that my fiance and his best friend (best man) are both teetotalers. I occassionally have a drink but I'd rather eat a chocolate bar for my calories than something that is going to make me ill. I've a very low tolerance for alcohol and suffer from "instant hangover" - just a few sips of booze can give me a stonking headache, sore muscles and nausea. So i tend to avoid it.
My In-Laws-to-be are big wine drinkers, but never put any pressure on eirthe of us to drink - in fact they buy that Shloer sparkling grape juice stuff so we can look like we are drinking wine, even if we aren't :P
My Dad on the other hand is always trying to pressure my fiance into having a drink - but he doesn't have much success. He's never gone so far as to spike drinks though!

I'd definately have words with your H2B and see if he can have a word with her. I'd make the excuse of medication in any situations you think she may get pushy again.
Depending on how well you get on with her, I might bring up the drink-spiking if I were you. Have a quiet, non-confrontational word with her in private saying you appreciate that she wants you to have fun, but you can do it without alcohol, and you noticed that the drink she bought you before had vodka in. See how she reacts. She'll probably not do it again, but if you think that will cause future problems with her, then just stick to alternative excuses and ranting about her on forums like this where we can back you up ;) xxx

She suggested going for a drink and H2B ,in his tactful way said 'so you can spike Sue's drink again!'
She denied it and made up some story about how I'd got it wrong. The problem is that she was drunk so can't remember what happened and so her story makes no sense.
MIL2B is very annoyed and wants to talk to me. Read that as have a go at me.
I told H2B that he should have been a bit more tactful in how he brought up the subject but unless the barman got it wrong, which is unlikely, she is in the wrong here, not me.

Well if she has a go tell her the possible problems she could have caused as listed here!!!

I dont drink anymore! I use to drink loads but when you start polishing off a bottle of vodka between 2 of you before you go out you know you need to quit I useto do that every sat and on a thursday Id go to an all inclusive £11 entry place and drink all night! then I started going out and getting drunk tuesdays too :/

Now Sometimes I get hassled about not drinking but when I got with Karl 3 years ago I gave it up! He cant drink as he has mental health problems and He gets it all the time too!

Even New year we went to a friends and he said he would have 2 just to join in etc he had one and was going to wait till just before midnight to have another and my mate just opened him a beer I was FUMING! and so was Karl! He gets depressed when he drinks and as it was 1 year to the day since he lost his father figure he really wasnt in a party mood!

I dont know either why its such a big deal! Alcohol isnt important and people should leave it to be a choice!