First I better tell you a bit of history!
My h2b's family have always been hard work, to say the least!! His ex wife is a constant thorn in the side, she drinks, dates real A*s-H***'s and is never there for her 2 daughters, is always phoning or texting h2b and having a go at him about stupid things. The rest of the family overcompensate to the girls for this and the girls are spoilt and selfish and the youngest is an absolute nightmare. But that's another rant entirely LOL.
The 2 daughters are aged 17 & 20, the 17yr old has lived with my h2b for the last 3 years after her mum threw her out when she was 14. The eldest lives with her boyfriend and had her first little boy when she was 17 and is now pregnant with her 2nd child. They are both very demanding of my h2b, in both time and money, he is always paying out for something. They are never grateful for anything we do for them, they expect it, yet they are always saying he is never there for them and he is selfish and thinks only of himself, which is far from true. If I wrote here all that is wrong I would be writing for an hour!!! I put up with it because I love my h2b and eventually they will grow up properly.

So now to the reason for my rant LOL
As most of you know, we are getting married away in Gretna Green, just a small family wedding. Everything was fine, few hick-ups along the way but nothing too bad, and there have been times when his daughters have really annoyed me but I've kept my mouth shut, for instance when we told his youngest daughter we were getting married the first thing she said was, well you better still have the money to get my car & pay for my insurance when I pass my test, no congratulations nothing, and thats the way it's been right through the planning.
My son, who is 21 bought his own car and his own insurance, he is thrilled to bits for us and is so proud he is giving me away, he is always asking how the arrangements are going. I've been enjoying organising everything. Until this week!
First the youngest girl told us last week she wasn't coming to the wedding because she is in college and is on placement that week, she didn't want to miss her placement, that upset my h2b. Then we were told by his eldest daughter (she's 5 months pregnant, and will be 8 months when we get married) that she didn't think she would be coming, because she didn't realise the wedding would be on a Weds, even though it says it on the invite, and she has her uni lecture day on a Weds and she doesn't want to miss that, also she is worried that she will be ill or go into labour, she also said her son who's 3 would be bored stuck in a hotel for 3 days!!
AAAARRRRGGGGG!!!!
She told h2b that he was selfish because he talks about the wedding and never asks about the baby and her, how she is and hows she's feeling, which isn't true at all, he does talk about the wedding but he certainly always asks how she is, he rings her everyday! She says he's never there and has no relationship with his grandson, I have him all day for 2 or 3 days a week, and h2b will always come home from work to spend an hour or so with him. He has a very good relationship with him.
DOUBLE AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGG!!!!
He was so upset with them both, we have talked to the youngest daughter and it looks like she is coming now, thats one good thing.
The thing with his daughters is everything has to be about them. Now my h2b is saying he doesn't want his eldest to come, he says that if she does and she get backache or feels unwell or really does go into labour then she will blame him and it will ruin our day, he does have a point and I think it's probably best she doesn't come. But I know that it has really hurt my h2b, and although in some ways I am angry at him too because it's his and his families fault that they are like this, I do feel so sorry for him 1 or both of his daughters won't be there.
We may be able to fill the hotel room and the meal which we have paid for, I will ask my aunt and uncle who I am very close with if they would like to come, and I'm sure they will be thrilled. His daughters always manage to turn everything around to be about them, always create a drama about everything and I'm so angry with them both right now.
Really sorry this has been a long one, but I suppose lots of things have built up inside me about the girls and although I can tell my h2b anything and talk to him about anything, and he does know his daughters are spoilt, I needed to vent to friends.

Im really sorry to read this, and they sound a night mare. I'm not surprised your feeling like this. Maybe it's better if they don't come, they will only try to turn your day into theirs. I would defiantly invite someone who really would like to come eg your aunt and uncle. Try and talk to h2b, he must be feeling awful. Best of luck x x

Family can really be a pain in the a**. I'd really just leave them to it, it's their choice at the end of the day.
It sounds like they're stirring the pot to create drama and get more attention. It may be best if they decide not to show up.

Thank you everyone, I know your right that they would be best not coming, but I know my h2b will be disappointed they're not there, but then he'll even more upset if they do come and ruin the day. He does stick up for me if they overstep the mark with me, which a good thing, but then I probably wouldn't still be with him if he didn't. We'll see what unfolds this week. H2b said this is why he just wanted the 2 of us to go and get married. But I am close to my family, my son is my world and my best friend. I brought him up alone after his father walked out on us when he was only a few months old, so we are very close and I would never want to get married without him being there, so that was out of the question. I stupidly thought that they would be made up to being going away for a few days all paid for, and new outfits too!!

omg ..... he needs to tell them both to grow up... the eldest made her bed by having one child and expecting another and the youngest can get off her backsdie and earn the money for her car ...... my youngest is 17 next month and has just started at bath collage ... this involves he getting a train over and back everyday ..who is paying for her fares ? she is all last year she worked and put her money aside so that she had a full year train fair .... she woks both saturdays and sundays and even asked for money for last christmas instead of gifts so she could add it to her pot

That's awful hun. I know how difficult people can be. When I first got engaged, we were still living with my parents, & my sister had recently broke up with her boyfriend so I couldn't talk about my engagement at home without her kicking off at me.
So I asked her to be my bridesmaid, which she was thrilled about at first. I also asked if her little boy, my nephew, would be a pageboy.
Then, a few months down the line, there was a huge family fall out (I wasn't even involved!), & she told me to stick my wedding, she didn't want to be involved with it. :( So selfish, I put it down to jealousy.
Worst thing is though, I haven't seen my 2 year old nephew in 3 months now, I miss him so so much. I lived with him, watched him grow up.. It's terrible.
So yes I understand families can be extremely difficult & sometimes talking just doesn't work. They sound very selfish & spoilt. Sounds daft, but the best thing to do is let them get on with it - that will bother them more than you kicking off over it. No emotions, arguments, anything. Good luck, I hope you get things sorted. xx

My friends two children were like this, so she started a diary and put in each time she asked about her grandchildren how things were each time she rang them wrote to them sent cards brought presents ect and it was a lot, they came for xmas and both started on at her that she was never there for them never did this that or the other, she had enough and put the book on the table and said this is how many times i have not been there for you, in it also was time she had asked for maybe a lift for shopping ect that were not forth coming, the children were both horriffed at their attitudes, they are not perfect now but both have changed their ways a bit, maybe it will help xx

sounds like 2 spoilt brats y should u n h2b pay for her bloody car n that at 17 n 20 they need there silver spoon out of there a rse they need 2 grow up... n as for eldist with littlen if ur having him wtf is she gettin at sayin h2b has no realsonship lol.sounds like they both need a slap i agree with mym ud b better off wiout em at ur wedding x

They both sound like a couple of spoiled brats. I would personally talk to your H2b and maybe get him to try and talk to them both and just let them know how unreasonable they are being and hopefully make them see how hurting their behaviour is! Either that or you also put your foot down about getting the younger one the car and insurance. If she cant appreciate the things shes given then dont give at all! It makes me so angry!

Glad you're sorting it, hopefully she will buck up her ideas.. well, both of them, I suppose they can't be totally blamed for turning out like they have, you give kids enough of what they want and never say no, they turn into Varuca Salt :/

Your son sounds like a credit to you, at least you've brought up a well rounded young chap :)