So the h2b and myself decided to postpone the wedding yesterday as we can't afford it. I had to give up work again because of my depression so we are going to be living off of his wages and it's not feesable to save for the wedding.
I just feel so angry at myself for not being able to stick at a job because of this stupid condition and I just feel like I have disappointed my h2b. He has reassured me that, of course he's sad, he isnt disappointed, he just wants me to get better.
I know we made the right decision and that we will get married one day, but I just feel so sad. :(
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Oh hun. You got to take care of yourself first! X
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Awwwwww hun ..... can i just say as someone who has been through depression,it is easy to be angry at yourself but IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
try setting yourself little goals each day ....eg walking to shop and back keep a notebook and write in it when you feel the need,there is no set amount to write just what ever you feel be it 2 pages or 2 lines, this is not for you to show anyone else unless you feel like it but it will start to show you how far you progress.
as for saving why not have a jar that at the end of each week you put any coins you have in (less than £1) this way you are still working towards your wedding ... keeping things positive.
Just a thought, but if it's making you feel bad, would you consider doing something very small and low-key, so that you are married, and then having a vow renewal at a later date that's more a 'proper' ceremony?
Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up about it. Depression is a very real illness, and it isn't your fault; your health is more important than a wedding.
Yep Lala giving the right advice as always :). I've never had depression (luckily) so can't imagine what it's like but it sounds horrible but you WILL get through it.
Like Lala said; put money aside each week; maybe instead of buying a sandwich from the shop; make one at home and put the money you didn't spend on it in the jar. That's what we've been doing anyway and our little jar has about £30 in it at the moment as a little extra help :)
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CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
Thank you, ladies. It does mean a lo that you are all so supportive <3
We have a little jar we put coins in at the moment but I think that it will be filling up quickly.
Barbie, I hadn't thought of that. I might suggest it to Ryan.
xx
CommentAuthorkatielea100
Hey Hun I totally sympathise with you I'm suffering from pnd at the moment I decided not to go back to work after having Connor and feel like weight was lifted! When we decided to postpone the wedding I went worse! We then decided to do what we're doing now the small ceremony and a evening reception that will just be like 1 big party! I feel loads better and slowly feel like it's disappearing From my experience I'd still go ahead with the wedding I hope your feeling better soon! Xx
CommentAuthorFranM76
Big hugs hun - your health is much more important. Like Barbie says, there's always the option of a small lo-key wedding and then making up for it when you can? I feel for you, I really do. We're all here for support tho :-) xxx
CommentAuthorCatherineR
So sorry to hear that you are struggling, it's an awful condition and I fully sympathize with you. You need to concentrate on yourself and your OH, getting yourself back on track and focusing on the more important things right now than the bigger picture. Little and often with not too much pressure! Lots of love from someone who understands xxx
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I have had depression as well so I can fully sympathise. Fortunately mine was not so severe that I lost my job, although for a while it was a real struggle to go to work. If I could have given up work I would have done. Are you getting any help from your G.P. with it?
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CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
I went through a similar thing in 2012 where I had to leave my job because of it and I was a lot worse then. I am on meds and things and I was getting better but I seem to have fallen back into it :/ So I am going to see my doc next week to see what we can do.
I spoke to Ryan about a more intimate ceremony and we are gonna discuss it when he gets home from work.
xxx
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
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Sorry to hear that you have had to postpone and I hope that you are able to have a smaller ceremony as suggested by Barbie.
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CommentAuthorFernP61
Your health is more important at this time, do whats best for you xx
CommentAuthorNicky2988
Aw hun, i'm sorry :( Make sure you're healthy first so you can properly enjoy your married life together. Hugs xx
CommentAuthorBethanyS
So sorry to hear this, but I agree with all the other girls, your health comes first. x
CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
Sorry to hear that . You will sort the wedding again once your better Hun x
CommentAuthorMrs M Wade
Your health is more important :-) my surname is House too until I get married x
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CommentAuthorLauraK7
Def look after yourself first xx
CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
Thanks you ladies. I love coming on here and seeing all your messages <3
My mil actually suggested we ask about pushing the wedding back a year. We are going to talk to our wedding planner at the Marriott about it because if we can it means we don't have to worry about paying for it until next year and we still have a date.
xxx
CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
Just wanted to let you all know that we have a new date for the wedding! We will be getting married on the 27th of May 2016 now and it is still at the same place. I'm so happy we didn't have to cancel it!!
xx
CommentAuthorsarah
That's fantastic!
CommentAuthorMelanieH10
Yay! That's exciting, it gives you something positive to aim for. At the moment concentrate on your health hun, depression is a horrible illness I really feel for you. You will come out the other end it's never easy but you will get there.
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
Yey that's good. Concentrate on getting better :) x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Aww that's brilliant x
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CommentAuthorLauraK7
Yay exciting xxx
CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
Aww that's fab! So glad you didn't have to cancel, as MelanieH said it will give you something positive to aim towards. Concentrate on getting better hon xx
CommentAuthorVerity
Great news!! :) I'm really happy for you xx
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
Fab news!
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
So pleased for you!!! Xxx
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CommentAuthor**MrsRock2B**
That's awesome news!! , hope u get better soon :) x
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
So pleased for you hun! More importantly, how are you doing? x
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Yeah great news :D
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CommentAuthorFranM76
Great news. How you feeling? xx
CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
Up and down, today is a down day :/ xx
CommentAuthorBethanyS
That's great news about the wedding! X
CommentAuthorEmmabear
Wonderful news! So happy you're keeping so positive. You'll have loads of time to prepare the most perfect wedding. Nothing keeps your mind off the horrible sad-badness like productivity, and having something to look forward to.
CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
Awe fab so happy for you xx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Fab that you have a date now, (day after my birthday). Sorry to hear you had a down day yesterday though. Hope today is more cheerful for you.
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CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
I am feeling better today, partly because I got offered a part time job yesterday :D
Woohoo! Doing what? I bet that's helped things :) xx
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CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
It's working at the new morrison's they are opening in Bristol town centre as a team member. It's not much, but it's something ^^ x
CommentAuthorCatherineR
But that's still a job and also part-time which I think in a way is better because there isn't so much pressure on you. Little steps remember :) You'll be grand! When do you start? x
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Well done you!!! X
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CommentAuthorAlmostMrsHouse
Thanks Missweedles! ^^
I know, I'm so happy and I deffo agree about part time being better. I start on the 14th of April so only about a week away now!! I'm so excited!
xxx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Congratulations! They must be expanding, we've got a brand new one in Cardiff as well.
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CommentAuthorLaurajanevintage
Soooo pleased for you!!! That's positive to keep you smiling Hun!!! Xx
