We are in the early stages of planning our wedding. I'm an only child and the oh has one sister.
I really would like her to be bridesmaid but my oh also wants his step dad to be his best man, as he does not have anything to do with his dad and no real close friend.
However we are worried about how his mum will feel about this, as she would not then have her oh next to her. We are only having a small wedding. I know we won't know till we ask but just wanted your thought and opinions
Thanks in advance
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Talk to them ..... Mum would only not have hubby next to her for the ceremony .. You can all sit together for the reception ... Why not ask MIL to do a reading ?
I think you're not going to know until you talk to them so arrange to go and see them and explain what you are thinking and go from there. At the end of day, you need to know if they'd be happy doing it to start with before asking them officially. Hope you get it sorted x
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
Thanks, a reading is a brill idea, his mum lives that sort of thing and I would have never thought of if. We are going to see them tomorrow so fingers crossed.
I think we are just nervous bout asking as if they say no my oh wont have a best man and I won't have a bridesmaid.
The fear of the talk is always worse than the actual discussion! Everyone involved will be happy as it is your day, and they will want to make you happy!
Hope the talk went okay!
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Well normaly your mums husband (your dad) walks you down the aisle and so would not be with her anyway?
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
It's the oh mum not mine, my mum knows she will be by herself, my parents are laid back were as oh are lovely but may have more if an opinion than mine. it's just because we want to pinch the oh's sister for bridesmaid and her partner for best man(oh step dad)
I thought we were seeing them today but its not its tomorrow.
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
You could ditch the traditional seating and sit both mothers together? Is OH's sister her daughter? If so she'll probably be really happy to see her daughter be bridesmaid. Maybe you could ask her to sign the register.
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
That would be a great idea. Yeah it's her daughter.
We have another issue my oh only has 6 members on his side of the family, I have about 50, but they live 200 miles from where we are getting married but I'm going to still have about half of them there.
Do you think it would be wrong to scrap traditional seating plans for the ceremony as if not there will be 4 sitting on the oh side and about 25 on mine, that's without including friends.
CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
We have finally spoken to his mum and she is fine with everything. Feel so much more relaxed now x
CommentAuthorMel D
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You don't need to have the traditional seating plan for the ceremony. We didn't, in fact it wasn't even mentioned and I noticed from looking at the pictures that our families were all over the place and mixed in with each other. His dad was over behind the bridesmaids, and I think my mum was behind the best man.
I've only been to one church wedding where we asked if we knew the bride or groom, and were given an OOS according to that, and told which side to sit on. The bride and groom had OOS's in different colors!
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