This morning one the news they were talking about the rise in the number of sham marriages , they were focusing on those who were doing it in attempt to stay in UK ....
What are your thoughts?
Do you know anyone who in your view has a sham marriage ?
I don't honestly think I do. Naturally we see a number of different cultures come through my work, not as many as some places though, but even if they are not married, they are with people of their own culture.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Although the news is talking about trying to stay in the country there are other "sham" marriages ...... Maybe getting married to cover up an attraction to same sex Etc
I know of a sham marriage for the reason of someone getting to stay in this country and this girl was in love with this guy has had a child with him and then he threatened to run away and take the child with him when he split up with her, she was young and stupid and regrets it now but don't agree with it at all Xx
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
I agree lala,
Althought the ones that make the news tend to be about staying in this country there are other sham marriages. I haven't experienced one in my group of friend but oh knows a lady who married a man to save face with her family even though she had a GF.
I suppose where it is frowned upon to have a same sex marriage/relationship, many cultures will do this just to save face, like Mrs H says.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I'm against it if it's so that someone can just stay in the country, but if it's to cover up being gay or whatever then who am I to judge. It's their lives, they can do what they want x
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
I don't know anyone who is in a sham marriage, but I know a couple who are genuine who have had to jump through lots of hoops to convince the authorities that it isn't a sham. The husband comes from Gaza and the wife is British. She teaches English as a foreign language in an adult education college, which is where he was studying. I got to know them well and was at the wedding, and there is no doubt in my mind that they were genuine. The vicar at that church, the same one that did my wedding, has had one or two occasions where she has been suspicious. On one occasion two Nigerian brothers came to her, each with a fiancée from Eastern Europe who didn't speak English. The vicar asked for an address to visit them at home, and when she went to the address no one lived there. I am against any marriage which is not for love, as I believe that marriage is a sacred union which should not be cheapened by people using it to stay in the country. I can see why people might do it to cover up homosexuality in cultures where that is illegal, and even dangerous, but I hope that in the U.K. that is seldom an issue.
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CommentAuthorGemmaB596
I agree with Elinor Claire. I believe people should only marry for love. I'm also angered by people that take part in sham marriages because they make things so much more difficult for genuine couples who only want to get married! My partner is from India, he has had his indefinite leave to remain and been living here, going to school and working over here since 1996. We have been together for over 5 years, living together for 4 and a half of those and we are being made to jump through hoops to prove that it will be a genuine marriage. Last I checked, people don't get ILTR and live in a country for nearly 20 years before deciding to have a sham marriage. Due to the changes in the Immigration Act, we are (meant to be) getting married in church in July, but have to wait until May to get a letter from our vicar to take to the superintendent registrar with all out ID and immigration documents to have an interview and apply for a special licence to marry, which are only valid for 3 months... and even then they don't have to grant us anything. It's being made to sound as if they can choose to refuse us a licence without any good reason for doing so. Meanwhile, if my partner was British, the vicar would write our names on a banns form and that would be that - booked and ready to go. Grr!
CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
I don't personally know a sham marriage . I also agree marrying for love :) and like Gemma mentions genuine couples seem to get the problems due to sham marriages, I think the problem is to stop them from happening means more red tape and time consuming things which if someone wants to abuse the system I'm sure they will find a way which again will hurt the innocent genuine couples :(
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CommentAuthorJoannaS
I don't know of any sham marriages either but my sister is a registrar and they offen have the police at the registery office when they think they have a sham marriage about to take place they are always arrested and she says they are never wrong. All you have to do is watch them when they come to give notice and then on the day of the wedding she says.
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
i don't know of any sham marriages but my MOH did say to me that my wedding would be a sham as we are doing the legal part of it 16 months before the actual wedding just to be able to live together. My OH is in the forces and will be posted very shortly we have a house together already but to be able to live on camp we have to be legally married although our wedding is booked for next year. We have been together for 7 years got a beautiful little boy and another one on the way... I don't feel like my wedding will be a sham ok so we will be legally husband and wife but literally going to the registry office with a couple of witnesses so no wedding day for the legal stuff just signing some papers and then our official wedding will be next year as planned xx
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CommentAuthorJoannaS
that's not a sham marriage that's being sensible. I was an army wife for a long time ex hubby was RE and we married quickly so I could go with him to Germany or else we would have been separated for months on end
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
to be honest i think its her way of putting me down she has recently got engaged to a man she has known since may basically because she is pregnant if putting me down makes her feel better about her own relationship then i worry for her and to be honest i do whats best for my family not to please other peoples opinions lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
when it is an agreement between friends this is different, but I don't agree with the sham marriage trade where people receive money in exchange for marrying someone to bring them into the country. I say this because I was prepared to marry my sisters friend in australia so that I could get a visa and stay there. Ultimately now I am glad I never because I would never have my my gorgeous and wonderful fiance. But in all honesty I have more problems with men who buy brides from russia and thailand. Those girls are either scam artists or are just desperate and neither situation is good to be in.
CommentAuthorVelcro
tell her to get stuffed princesspixie ):<
I'm not really sure why anyone would agree with a sham marriage tbh, I don't know of anyone personal in that kind of situation though.
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