Hi, I'm 36 and preparing to marry for the second time, although it will be my lovely man's first time. I am really struggling to decide on the style of dress to choose, not wanting to look like mutton or making him feel like I'm not making the effort as I've done this before. Please help, any suggestions and guidance would be fantastic.

Thankyou, the more I think about it the more I think I need to just go and try on dresses and see what happens. x

this is my 3rd time and h2b 1st time . im doing the whole works this time around as first time was a shall we say shot gun wedding lol and second time a quick registrar ceromony lilac dress and backhome my dress is cream this time x

Hello Nicola! I will be 36 as my name says when I get married in 2014 and although this is my first (and last) wedding I too am having the same thoughts.
For example I saw this gorgeous dress in John Lewis one day while walking past and I just had to go try it on. When I had it on I just had to take it right off again I thought I looked hideous. It wasn't a bridal gown but it was a long flowing pale gold dress. The shop assistants were all oh that's lovely but I knew it just wasn't. I thought the dress made me look a lot older than I am!

I'm beginning to think its harder for us to find a dress than it is for younger brides :-( I want to look my age and I just don't know how to! I need wedding fashion advice lol

:-) I think we have the added problem of trying to seem too young as well, were kind of stuck in an age limbo lol. I decided right after the incident to not bother until a few months before the wedding. Can't wear a suit either as we're not that age too and no offence to anyone.
Actually I must say its the opposite for me as I'm the first timer and he's a second timer, but his first wedding wasn't much of a wedding as in the ex didnt make an effort so at least I don't feel like I must live up to that :-) yeah I think we should def keep in touch :-) maybe we could be online shopping buddies ?

Make some appointments hun and try on dressess/ As far as the mutton as lamb thing your only 36!!

Xx

it's both our 2nd times too and I'm way older than you (am 50 now - will be 51 when we marry - he'll be 48 I think hehe)..

I definately do not want to look like mutton so I can understand where you're coming from. I've chosen a tea-length dress in ivory with lace overlay and likkle pearls... it's obviously a wedding dress, but not one that only young'uns can get away with .

as the other ladies said go try lots of styles on and, if you come away with a more traditional style frock and feel wonderful in it then that's the one to go for regardless of your age :)

We got married August last year - and it was just over five months before my 40th birthday. I didn't give a thought to my age when I went wedding dress shopping. Even though we had a small wedding as well, I still went for quite a big dress and the only reason I didn't have the full train as well is that we got married at a small venue and it wouldn't have suited.

The only thing I didn't want was a strapless dress because personally I don't like them - but I don't think age really matters when you're getting married. After all, it's your day and you are the bride so wear what you want.

omg i got married for the 2nd time this year and if you consider yourself mutton at 36 god knows what i must be at 48 !!!!!!!
the dresses i wore are in my album if you want a nosey

I'll be 33 when we get married-my first & his second. I would have been happy to have a small, simple weddding but as his first wedding wasn't a big affair he wants more of an occasion tbis time. I thought about a tea length dress but ultimately now it looks like i'm going for full on tulle skirt! I think you shluld just go & try on a selection of dreses & go with what makes you feel amazing.

Thankyou all sooo much, great advice..... going to go and try on some fab dresses a nd see what happens. Cheers guys. xxx

I bought my dress today lol second hand but it gave me really good vibes so I thought what the heck. It's going to be modified though but its a start :-)

This will be my 3rd time and H2B's first time, however this is the most exciting time by far for me. I'll be 43 when I get married, H2B will be 48 the day after. I think trying dresses on is the only way you'll be able to decide. I've ended up going with an elegant champagne colour dress, it has a very small train, it is satin with a chiffon overlay and has straps but I'm getting floaty sleeves added to it as I want to hide my bingo wings!!! I found strapless dresses really unflattering and 'too big' for what I was looking for. I hadn't given colour a thought but found that the champagne type colours suited my complection much more than white or ivory