Wedding Forum - Nobody seems bothered!!...

When I phoned my mum and told her that I had gotten engaged she was like "Oh congrats". When we went to see my H2B's parents they were like "That's nice" and moved the convo on to something else, and the same thing happened when I called my dad and stepmum. I know that like people don't want to talk about it for hours but 5 minuets wouldn't have hurt anyone.
Now we've actually set a date they still don't seem all that interested, I mean i speak to my mum online and show her stuff on ebay like dresses for my little sister and older sister, shes just like "Oh, that's nice" and when i showed her some favors that I had brought she was like "It's like 18 or something months away". When we told my h2b's parents that we had set a date, they just asked what day and nothing more was said!
Just seems like no one wants us to or cares about us getting married! I cant share my excitement with anyone apart from with my H2B. Its not like anyone if both our families have gotten married in years. Id be the first in my family and he'd be the first in his. So I would have thought that they'd be excited! :(

Its hard when you get engaged because its such a modern thing now to get engaged and it doesnt always lead to a quick marriage. Maybe the parents arent excited because it is such a long time away. We got engaged 2 years before getting married after being together 6 years and we didnt really get any fuss but that suited us fine.

Im sure the parents will become more excited as time goes on - if not, elope!

That's such a shame :( do you have any other family members or close friends you can talk to instead?

Well you can always talk to us lot on ukb :) and hopefully family will become more interested as time goes on

Its sometimes difficult for families to take it in, the MIL the most it seems.
However as the months tick by they will get more into it.
And as Joanna said, no better place than here to chat endlessly about it all.
A word of wisdom though, dont share too many of your wedding details to friends and family.

Engagements used to last only a couple of months, a lot of people over a certain age don't really understand why people wait so long to get married. Most likely get excited closer to the big day.
Just like the other ladies said, we love weddings here on and we'll be excited for you

Aw hun sorry to hear that :-(

Maybe concentrate on discussing exciting ideas with friends and bridesmaids for the time being?

Plus as everyone else has said ... TALK TO US!!!!!!!!!

xxx

That's what the ladies on UK bride is for! :)

I empathise hun, but perhaps they always anticipated you'd get engaged & weren't surprised by it? Also, 18 months is a long time away (for non-brides anyway! Lol!) and they're bound to be excited when it gets closer.
Plus count yourself lucky - how many brides on here are ranting about parents trying to interfere with their plans, poo-poohing their ideas, trying to inflict their choices on the bride?! So at least your mum IS saying things are nice, rather than "what on earth made you choose XYZ?! You should have ABC"

hun m with you on this ..... none of mr lalas family even said congratulations

anytime i mention anything to my mother the resonse was ... you got ages to go dont know why you looking now ...

so i stopped saying anything .. then got accused of not involving her .. lol

I suppose ill have to wait and see then lol!

I would decide on your bridal party and get your girlfriends involved in picking dress, shoes etc, I'm sure they will be more excited and enthusiastic and then you'll just have to wait for everyone else to catch up! I have had similar reactions and felt a bit deflated but my friends that are going to be bridesmaids make up for everyone else!