Hi ladies, I am having 3 bridesmaids (2 sisters and best friend) and it is too difficult to choose a MOH so I was thinking of not having one. If I choose to do this, who does the duties on the day? ie; walking with best man, signing the register, sitting at top table, dance with best man..other things I probably haven't thought about. I think the before wedding duties would be OK as they would just work together as they all get on really well, and to be honest I am a bit of a control freak and will do most things myself anyway.
Or..would it be easier just to choose one? I know I would choose my younger sister but this would upset my older sister (as I'm sure she assumes the role would be hers as she is eldest..) and I would then have a huffy bridesmaid on my hands.
I really cant decide so any opinions are appreciated! Thanks x
CommentAuthorLauraF89
I am having 6 bridesmaid and 2 are my best friends and the others are my sisters. I am also not having a MOH but if i had to pick one officially then i know it would cause a stir, i think one of them thinks she will be MOH but the person who i would have as MOH already knows she would have been it if i would have decided to properly have one. I will share the duties across them all but i think it will end up being my friends that will help me out or my mother. As for signing the register (not sure how it works in the church) i don't know who the lucky one will be!
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Probably your best bet is to list all the duties and decide who would do each one best. For example, one might be really good for organising the hen do, another for helping you do the dress shopping. If you're following the tradition of chief bridesmaid dancing with best man, have whoever is the most confident dancer to do it. You don't have to do that bit of the dancing at all though if you don't want to. If one person does the dance, then a different one can walk out with the best man, and the remaining one could sign the register. If you need the train to be carried that could be one person on the way in and another on the way out. Can all the bridesmaids sit at top table? Or could you maybe have a small table with just bride, groom and parents? Someone will need to hold your flowers, but maybe you could get your mother to do that.
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Another thought is that you don't have to have a bridesmaid sign the register. My two MOHs will both be busy with the choir at that point, so I've asked my aunt to do it. It can be anyone. You could make a game out of allocating roles maybe. Put everything into a hat, and draw them out, allocating the jobs to each bridesmaid in turn. Done with a bottle of wine to share it could actually be quite fun, and it removes any decision so that no one has any reason to be offended.
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CommentAuthorluratraloora
I'm not having a MoH and I've got 4 bridesmaids, 3 of whom are friends and other who is my cousin's girlfriend. I'm giving them all different duties depending on what they are good at or would enjoy. I'm also not having a bridesmaid on the top table, I don't want to pick favourites between them if that makes sense. :)
Thanks ladies! listing the duties and either choosing who does what best or picking out of a hat is a great idea.
I am unsure about the top table as we haven't decided on the setup yet, I have just thought about the fact that all 3 of them have kids (youngest sister has 1, best friend has 2 and eldest sister has 3) and will more than likely want to be sat with them so perhaps I could even have a 'bridesmaid table' where there kids and partners are sat altogether...hmm so much to think about
CommentAuthorLoisD91
I'm the same, with 5 BMs and am splitting duties. I don't think I'll have the dance with the best man or anything that formal though! For dinner, I'm giving them a table each so none will be on the top table, so they will 'host' a table of guests - I liked that idea because it also brings the wedding party out a bit to all guests. I'm also asking my mum to sign the register as I don't think mums get to do that much!
CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
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I have a MOH but to be honest she has the title as my oldest and closest friend, I'm not handing out duties, but any help they do give will be greatly appreciated! They will all be sat with their partners on a seperate table too.
When my MOH got married herself she had four BMs and gave us all one thing to do. One did a reading at the ceremony, one signed as a witness, one did a speech (I got given that 'honour') and one carried her bag/bouquet when required. It all worked out quite well and everyone felt they had sething important to do without feeling they had to do something that made them uncomfortable - as the two who signed register and carried bag didnt want to do public speaking!
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
I am not having a MOH...2 of my bridesmaids refuse the title and the other is my FSIL and we are not THAT close so I don't want to give her that title although she is doing ALOT of stuff to help out like trying to find cost effective favours or design invites. If you don't want to single one out dont xx
