My h2b and I are having a no children wedding, and even though there is 2 years to go...So many people are stressing me about it. 1 uncle even said that weddings are family affairs and if we're not inviting children, why are we bothering?! :-(. Our Venue isn't child friendly and has a max capacity of 100, (if we invite children the guest list will be 140). It really upsets me that people can't understand that it isn't because we don't like children, its just not do-able. Anyone else having this problem? I thought it would be nice for them to have a day off.. Grr Sorry but this is really getting me down.
CommentAuthorAmyK
Don't blame you... Plus the cost aspect can be phenomenal! Are kids really going to appreciate what it means to you, as much as other adults you could've invited in their place? Perhaps put it to them that its a chance for the parents to really enjoy themselves without worrying about keeping their kids happy for the day.
CommentAuthornadia13
The only children we are having is my 3 nephews who are 10/11 & 14 and my 11yr old niece who is a bridesmaid and my flower girl will leave after the photos so her parents can enjoy them selfs!! We have told every1 else no kids and they have been very understanding!! But I guess they all know I'm not really in2 children ( other than my nephews & niece) I think it's unfair them giving u a hard time as its your wedding it's up 2 u who u want & who u don't!!! X
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
You're not the only wedding in history not to have children at their wedding... You think of yourselves, don't let uncles/aunties/friends guilt trip u into it.... Stick to your guns on it! We're not having children either, just my 3 as flowergirls, not even inviting my niece as there could be three/4 more by time we get married so cut the line straight away... All guests will be able to get a babysitter, if they say they can't even with this much notice they are just being awkward, just say it's no children and if they can't get a sitter then they can't come either lol ....
Hate rants like this cos it gets me started on how selfish some family/friends can be when it's ur day not theirs x
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CommentAuthorDanielleH98
Lots of people have different opinions about children and there is no right or wrong answer so it's your wedding go with what you want! We're not having any children either but then there is not many we would invite. Good luck! Xx
They have plenty of time to get a babysitter, and I think you're quite right that a lot of parents will appreciate a day off.
You will never please everybody though, sometimes you just have to stick to your guns xx
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
We have the oppisite problem to this. We are inviting children (will be about 15 in total) and are having other family members moaning that there WILL be children there! You will never please everyone hun, so do whatever pleases you and h2b, it is your day afterall! xxx
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CommentAuthorsarah
I live children at weddings, but I also understand why people may not want this. You're venue isn't child friendly so it should be clear that it's an adult only wedding. Sometimes I think people like to complain just for the sake of it , after ask there are 2 years to go!
CommentAuthorvodkachick
we are not having children at our wedding......my grandson is being our page boy but after the meal he will be going to his daddys for the nite (mummy and dad are split up) so I have said if my own grandson isn't going to be there then nobody elses kids are we will be sending out the invitations well in advance and putting in a little note about no children so those with children will have plenty of time to sort out the babysitter.....my friends all think this is a good idea as lots of parents like a nite off from the kids
stick to your guns...its your day hunni x
CommentAuthorBobsi
We're not having kids there either. I want people to enjoy them selves not worry about the kids or fall over them if they are running around. Which bugs me at the best of times.
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CommentAuthormadhen
Yes, having exactly the same problem. I feel your pain - but my advice is to stick to your guns. It is absolutely impossible to design a wedding that is 100% perfect for you and your h2b and every single other guest/family member/friend/third cousin twice removed that you can possibly think of. It is YOUR DAY. If you want to restrict children, that's your choice. If people have a problem, tough luck. We are doing the same, and yes some people aren't happy. But these are people who automatically assumed as soon as we got engaged that our wedding would involve their kids - we never told them it would. I firmly believe that young children do not fully appreciate the significance of a wedding day, certainly not as much as friends our own age who we've been through important stages of our life with. So don't let it get you down too much. You've given people plenty of time, they have no cause to complain. If they want to huff about it and not go as a result, more fool them, they'll live to regret it. Chin up!! ;)
CommentAuthormadhen
Can I also add that the uncle who thinks there'll be "no point" without the kids probably isn't the person who'll have to look after them on the day, run around making sure they're all right, they're not destroying anything, take them home early if they get cranky....
H2b's sister got married last year and there were kids there, including his other sister's kids. The younger one was teething and her mum was bridesmaid so she kept having to go away for photos etc. So basically, the mother of the bride spent the majority of the day in a quite side-room trying to get a teething baby to stop crying. It completely ruined her day, she was livid. The other sister, the bridesmaid, ended up having to go home early. And I know when it's family children it can be very difficult not to ask them, but it just shows why you really don't want to have any more there than are absolutely necessary!
CommentAuthorMrs C to be!
We decided against kids, luckily we don't have any in the immediate family, or cousins, the few we have are teenagers. However that said we have lots of friends with baby's/toddlers and one 6 yr old. Like you we have advised as we don't have kids, we don't want them there. All of our friends are more than happy to have a night off. And to be honest, I want the to kick back and enjoy themselves, not worry about feeds, nappy changes and occupying them.
It's your day you need to do what you want to do, and I say tough to the others. Good luck.x
CommentAuthorsussie
We are having kids, but I can almost guarantee that by half 8 most will have disappeared. I anticipate there will be mine left, my cousins 2 ftom devon and my other cousins 2 from norfolk, all though those 2 are older than toddlers
CommentAuthorPenguinJ
we are not having children either, other than my oh nephew who will be the ring bearer (he will be 3yo)
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CommentAuthorMrs van der Lee
we're having very few children at our wedding, max 5.
h2b and i dont really like children so.. there we go..!
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CommentAuthorEllenH27
Thanks girls.. Nice to know that others are in the same boat... We know we can't please everyone, but things just get to you at times. Support much appreciated. xx
CommentAuthorJillianL47
We're only having my h2b's nephew at our wedding. He is our page boy. We are having 50 guests, so there is no room for children. Plus at at least £35 a head for children, for food and drink they won't eat, there's no point.
CommentAuthorHelenW
Were hVing about 10 kids. Majority are family though and I know my brothers/sisters are arranging them to be collected/dropped off in the hr room turnaround before the evening so they can have a nice evening. My son and h2bs daughters will be there but they r old enough to be running around without needing supervision xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I was limited to 90 people sit down, I had a few children at the wedding but only close family ones, and also my MOH had her two and my close friend's daughter was there. There were a few of my friends who I had to ask if they would mind leaving their kids behind as I was limited on numbers and they were more than happy to as it gave them the evening off.
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CommentAuthorNevlar
theres only going to be one child there an thats only because he will only be few months old!! children are sticky and get in under everyones feet! i want the parents coming to have a good time and have to struggle the next day with a hangover!if it was me i wouldnt want to bring my child! weddings are such a long day couldnt cope with moaning! plus noisy children and a quiet church thats a no no for me x
CommentAuthorCarolineW10
Yep same problem...... i thought my sister who got married last year would be very understanding but no she blew her top! I havent really mentioned kids to be honest, on my invites ive just put parents names and im going to wait until they ask me about their kids (i know they are planning on bringing them) I will at this point say no we are not planning on inviting children, we dont have the money/the space or the patience for them (may leave the patience bit out) What i have said to my sister is if she is bringing her baby, and it starts screaming she will need to leave the room, it will be her loss at the end of the day because she will miss the wedding! Its made even harder because my sister is my maid of honour and her husband is our usher! I have also pre warned her that my mum is not going to hold the baby and risk missing my wedding if she/he cries.
Its such a hard subject and i wish i was more confident in saying no. As for the uncle saying is it worth it if children dont come?> id answer erm yes its my wedding not some childrens party!
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I've only invited the children of close family as my h2b has a little boy and my fg is my 6 year old niece. In total we have 7 children coming (possibly 4 if his brother declines the invite - long story). I can handle a small number and all the children and parents involved are well behaved that if a child does start playing up they will be taken away during the ceremony. I haven't had any negative feedback on the children issue as most people understood and would rather arrange a baby sitter so that they can let their hair down. With the wedding so far away hopefully people will come round to the idea and realise that as much as it's lovely to have kids involved, they don't understand what an important day it is and there is nothing worse than a noisy child during a ceremony. I had this discussion with a friend of mine who has kids and told her I felt really bad for having this attitude but she laughed and agreed that she's been to weddings and got frustrated with noise. I hope you get it sorted hun.
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CommentAuthormrsV2013
I understand exactly what you mean. I don't really have much choice about kids as some will travelling from the states so they won't be able to get sitters. And there would be no chance I'd leave mine out but because I've said yes to kids I have 20 kids at my wedding. I've only got seating for 80. If you don't want kids just tell them tuff
