So my mil2b asked me what colour was the theme for the wedding the other day and said she was going to match her outfit with it, when I was talking to my mum I told her she had done this and my mum got really annoyed saying it was tradition for the mother of the bride to pick first. She said she was going to match the colour as the colour is blue and to be fair my mothers whole wardrobe is blue. So mil2b has sent me a link for a website this morning with a dress in the two contrasting colours of our theme silver and blue and a blue jacket. It does look lovely, and I told her so. Worried about telling my mum now as she will go mad. Can they both wear the same colour, as long as I keep her away from the dress mil2b has picked? It's stressing me out. My mum is acting like its my fault x x
CommentAuthorsusan1990
oh god i had the same problem with my mum and mother in law my mum was exactly the same! in the end my mum has had her outfit made specially so no one else will be wearing it and we offered to take mother in law shopping so we new exactly what she picked and she pulled out a dress the same colour that my mum has got and my mum was like oh thats the same colour as my dress, so she put it back. lol my theme is blue and silver aswel! mother in law has gone for a dress with shades of purple, lilac and navy so looks really nice. my mum would have gone mad if they were in the same color but i think aslong as its not the same dress it alright, my mums dress is exactly the same colour as the bridesmaids :/ but she has got a really nice diffrent coloured jacket that she will be wearing over the top x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
EEEKK!! Could you not politely point out that your Mum was planning on wearing those colours and would she will be able to chose something different???
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
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I see your dilemma... maybe hint to her that your mom was planning to wear those colours, and find out if she's fussed as to whether they are similar or not? Or maybe go with and pull ones out that slightly vary from the colours? .
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CommentAuthorTori
Or better yet tell her your mum has already bought her outfit in those colours that way she can't try to get in there first
I have the same problem its like a mini competition to see who looks the best my mums even having her makeup done by my makeup artist on the day lol, I just hope they don't choose the same you can imagine the fall out, if you know what your mil has chosen id say to your mum don,t get this as she's got it or encourage her away from where she bought it from, my colours are blue and silver too lol
CommentAuthorJill
Both of our mums are wearing predominantly black dresses but they both look completely different. My mums is a bandage style dress with cream and latte bits through it, fitted to the knee with cream cropped jacket and cream accessories. h2b's mum is in black fit and flare dress that comes into small folds under the knee, chiffon with white between the folds and a black bolero with silver accessories. They both look completely different while both fitting the colour scheme.... maybe they could do something similar? x
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
MOTB is supposed to get first pick my MIL2B wouldn't even look for an outfit till she knew what colour my mum decided on. Usually I would say it doesn't matter who wears what colour but if your mum is upset she didn't get first pick maybe it would be safer telling your mil your mum already picked a blue outfit.
Our colours are blue too lol
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CommentAuthorJill
I would add though that it's definitely mother of the bride that should choose first... that is traditional - my gran tells me this everytime she tells me about my uncles wedding many moons ago, when she wanted to wear navy but mother of bride was wearing it then had the cheek(!) to wear something else after my gran got green haha x
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CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
But it's her son's wedding as much as your mum's daughter's wedding so it's understandable that they both want the same colour. Couldn't they just get different styles and then the colour being the same won't be as noticeable x x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
thankfully my hubbys mum doesn't wear purple so i was safe and went for navy red and cream and my mum wore purple ivory and silver so we were safe :-) but the tradition does say that the MOB gets to pick her colour unless otherwise stated by the bride
i would just tell MOG that the MOB is wearing the same colour and she may not want to wear the same and change anyway (HOPEFULLY)
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CommentAuthorSam
I'd stay out of it and let them hash it out between themselves. They'll probably be nicer and saner if they discuss it between themselves rather than using you as a go between.
CommentAuthorLaura JaneW
Can one not wear blue with silver and the other silver with blue? Lol. Seriously though,i dont think its going to matter as long as they are not the same outfit. A recent wedding i attended,both mothers had blue on.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I don't think it will be an issue as long as they aren't the same dresses.
Lol could you imagine fathers of the bride and groom at it...hey, I'm wearing a black suit! You can't wear a black suit too!
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CommentAuthorsarahjo89
i didnt even know this! hopefully my mum wont be aware of the tradition, she already causes such a fuss i cba with her having something else to compain about! why cant they wear the same/similar colour? xx
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CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Im sure the dresses will not be the same so i dont really think it matters, if you know what one looks like go shopping with the other and pick them out something lovely xx
CommentAuthorLynP
I don't think it matters as long as it isn't the same style. In fact I'd be happier if everyone wore something in our colour scheme.
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CommentAuthorSam
Lyn could you imagine how amazing the photos would look like if everyone was wearing colours in the theme :)
CommentAuthorDonda
My MIL2B beat my mam to choosing her outfit, usually my MIL2B takes forever to shop and choose and outfit, but apparently she walked into Debenhams, saw the outfit, fell in love, tried it on and bought it. My colour scheme is Burgundy, ivory and gold, MIL2B has got an Aubergine outfit, tiered dress with matching jacket. I was dreading telling my mam, but she was fine about it, she just said "well at least now I know what colour not to go for". We went shopping the week after and she found a gorgeous dress and jacket in a cream, beige colour that looks amazing on her, so I think my mam's the closest to my colour scheme :)) As long as my Mam got to get an outfit that she really wanted then I'm happy :) xx
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
Well she's bought a dress, and it's silver with hints of the blue in and the jacket is blue. So im sure my mum will be able to wear her far colour of blue after all. So all might be saved. And I thought choosing my dress would be the hardest x x
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yay :D
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
My mum isn't going shopping for her outfit until nearer the time my mil2b has shown me the fabric and style of dress she is getting made. When I told my mum this she seemed a bit miffed because she was just going to buy something ready made. I felt sorry for my mum because she looked so deflated and it's typical of mil2b to want to stand out (even though she's apparently very shy). I wouldn't mind so much but mil is living off her pension plus a monthly amount that h2b puts into her account to help her out. She is always living above her means so having a dress made is probably going to cost a bomb. I've told h2b that we are not paying for it but I overheard her telling him how much it's going to cost and he's such a softy.
Traditionally it's mob who chooses her outfit/colours first but I've told my mum it doesnt matter because she will look beautiful no matter what.
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CommentAuthorTamster
I think you have hit the nail on the head Shirley girly! she's your mum and she will be beautiful in your eyes so tell you mum how much she means to you and tell her how lovely she looks when you see her in it, two people could wear the same outfit and look totally different anyway different style, shades etc it will all work out in the end don't stress about it tell the truth to both of them they may work it out themselves good luck x
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