hello all,

I am a getting married next year and i want to change my name to Berry :-) but i want to keep my maiden name Leah coz i have my daughter who is Leah (due to the fact when i married her dad he took mine but is now married again and has his wife's name! very odd long story! haha) when i told my H2B about this he took it as an insult, he said i didnt want his name i wanted to have Leah-Berry do you think i'm being unreasonable? i just want to make sure my daughter has the same name ish as me! she did want Berry but that wouldnt happen with her dad so she has said she will wait til she is 18 to change it herself (which is pointless if she gets married haha) i am glad she has my maiden name coz she's still got the recognition of my family and not her dads family!

let me know what you think please! thanks alot guys and girlies xxx

i think so too thanks XjoX x

you could maybe suggest you both have that as your names, then you are giving eachother your names... if that makes sense

That's a good idea cowchop :-)

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all hun.... and I think Leah-Berry sounds lovely too :-)

its a good idea..... my son with my ex his last name is debenham-bladen, i was gonna be bladen-genders when i marry nath but my ex has agreed to lettin me change my sons name to debenham-genders so im just gonna be genders when im married, my son with h2b is just genders tooo (but he has bladen for a middle name) xx

I've had this with Ross & Honey
Ross wants to stay Tempest and won't budge, refuses double barrelled too - fine by me
Honey's coming up 5 and changes her mind every 2 minutes - she's been Greenwood since I split with her dad, but commonly, not legally. This week she wants to stay as Greenwood.
I've then got Ronni on the way who is also going to be Tempest
I don't know which way to turn anymore!!
On the one hand I stay Greenwood, this is going to upset Ross and possibly cause mass confusion with Ronni which obviously I don't want but Honey's happy. I change my name to Tempest and Honey gets left feeling like the odd one out, I don't want that either.

Anyway, you've got to do what you feel is right for you and your little un and don't worry about the hubs not liking it, if he loves you he'll respect your decisions and the reasons for.
xxx

she's always had my name no issue there dont worry :-) xx

How old is your daughter now? When my daughter was 3, I changed her surname from my ex's (we were never married) so that she had the same name as me. I am trying to decide whether to double barrell or not but my daugther (now 10) has said she wants to change her name again to h2b's surname so she is the same as her baby brother. It makes sense except that she'll've had 3 names by the time she is 11! I completely understand where you are coming from but all I can say is do what you feel is right for you not just now but in the long run. xx

double barrel your name it will look all posh as well lol

I think if you kept leah it would just be like you having a middle name of leah and inless you said Leah berry ppl wouldnt know. My sil is taylor- holbrook, she didnt have any kids when deciding that, and now the kids are just holbrook like their dad!
I dont know if to keep hickey coz well say Jenna Taylor, lol.... Its not an insult to your h2b, i always feel sorry for my cousin he has a different name to his 3 half sisters and step brother, mum and step dad coz they all have the same last name.

I think you shouldn't be expected to change your name if you don't want to.
I really want to change to h2b's name, but he keeps saying he doesn't want me to feel like he's making me!
Maybe he should take your name, if its such a big deal to him!
Hugs
xxx