my friends daughter had her hen do in Ireland we went friday to sunday .... didnt HAVE to buy any new clothes and it cost me under £150 ...

just an idea you could ponder on

you should just have 2 hen do's. one local and cheap for those that cant attend the main one. you shouldnt change your hen do just cus of those people x

Nowadays Hen Do's and Stag Do's have become bigger affairs than they ever used to be. It used to be a night out in the brides home town for a hen do and the night before the wedding. Now they have become something a lot more than that and some people are against it.
dont get me wrong, I want a hen do away and have booked a large house in lincolnshire which we will all stay in and bring activites to the house.

I think that £150 is a reasonable amount and is what I would pay for a hen do without question. I do draw the line at £300-£400 for a weeking in Marbs as that can just be ridiculous.

I agree that £150 is too much for a night out with friends. i wouldnt pay that at all.

For my friends hen do in a couple of weeks, I am paying £100 for a buffet lunch, beauty treatment, "goody bag", t-shirt, transport from aberdeen to edinburgh and an overnight stay in a hotel and club entry in Edinburgh.
I think it will then cost be £50 for evening meal and drinks on the night out.
So, I think £150 for all of that is a really good deal and was more than happy to pay it. But if it was £150 for a meal and night out in a local pub then I would not go, regardless of the entertainment!

Mine is £150 per person and that is for hire of the house for 3 nights (people can stay as long as they want, 1 or 3 nights), all food and drinks which we will buy in bulk before we get there and acitivites for everyone.
I personally dont think it is much as it is a full weekend away all inclusive with a pool and jacuzzi and topless butlers. phwoar.

I suppose what I am trying to say is that it is hard to put a figure on how much one should pay for a hen do.

OK, now you've broken it down I think they're being unreasonable.

Essentially, their costs are £52, plus money for food and drink; a meal can cost as little as £10 depending on where you go (eg a pizza at a chain restaurant with a soft drink costs from £8), and they don't have to buy alcoholic drinks. As for having to buy a new outfit, WTF?! Never heard so much nonsense in my life!

Sounds to me like they're making excuses; in which case, I'd be inclined to still do it, but only with those people, like your sister, who actually want to.

Thanks guys. Was really worried that I was being selfish with a few of them saying it was goin to cost too much. But your right it won't cost much as we'll just go to a pub for a pub lunch which is no more than £10. And we won't be drinking all day as we won't get there til 3ish and by the time we go for food and a look around then back to the hotel to get sorted it'll be 7.30ish when we go out. I'm going to text everyone tonight and give them the option of coming or having a night out at home a few weeks before then at least I'm not leaving anyone out.

Personally I do think it's a lot even when it's broken down like...

Y friends hen cost me £100 and I could only go because it was my birthday money that I used...

Sorry Hun xxxx

That's really cheap if you just include accom and travel..... I'm sure they would want new clothes regardless anyway so I can't see how it would be much dearer than a local night out :/ anyway, if they are claiming it to be too expensive, why say they'd need new clothes?

There's no logic sometimes.

is that £150 for everyone, or each?

&150 each but luckily all working and booked it months ago so people have a chance to save

I don't think you're being selfish at all! Your hen do is a reason to do something a bit different and why would u wanna be all samey and go where u always go!

I don't think it's selfish my sister in law to be went abroad for hers and did a local one for those who couldn't afford it. Especially if it was planned ages ago they could have put money back and probably have an outfit In their wardrobe they could wear. Like marrying.ryan. When people start agreeing to go others won't want to feel left out. I couldn't attend my sister in laws because my oh spent loads on the stag do and I regretted not putting money back because they had an awsome time x

Personally I think £150 would only be ok to ask bridesmaids to pay that, I wouldnt go on a hen do costing that much unless a bridesmaid, prob £50 is my limit lol!!
Im having a bridesmaid weekend away to Cardiff, 2 nights in a hotel, cocktail making including lunch and a dreamboys show including dinner and club entry, its costing £100 per person. There are some really good bargains out there if you look hard. Im then having just a night out for all the other ladies, so they can spend whatever they can afford on drink and club entry if they want to!

I dont think its fair people r using the excuse of a new outfit etc - everyone can dig an outfit out of their wardrobe or borrow from a friend etc! xx