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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    Hi guys

    Id thought id found a great deal, two togs and a video person for £1k, after him emailing me for weeks upon weeks (like he was desperate for the work)

    Now weeks later when i was about to finalise it all he tells me he only video's until 8pm!

    that doesnt even cover the night time or after the food is out and the party is in full swing.

    It is normal for him to seem do desperate (like if i dont email reply immediately ten mins later he thinks im in a huff and tells me so in the msg)

    and B is it normal for videos to end around 8 ish....im wanting one until about 1030/11 ish?


    im confused but hes annoying me that hes so pushy...
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    • DonnaH39
      CommentAuthorDonnaH39
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    Tell him you are not interested. You are clearly not happy with the service he is providing or with him as a supplier. You need to feel confident with your suppliers and you don't sound confident with him.

    Just tell him straight out that you have decided not to book him. If he continues to message you them ask him to stop.

    You are right it is not normal for a supplier to behave that way




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    My videographer finished after the 3rd dance so about 8.15ish most finish after first dance (In my area anyway)

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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
      Got married 4 years ago
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    I know most photographers leave before the party is in full swing, but honestly why hire him. £1k is a lot f money for somebody who is like this. He doesn't sound very professional at all.

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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    Ours is staying til about 9/9.30 once all the bit bits are done like cake cutting etc. but enough so they catch some of the dancing. I'd dump him, sounds like a spoilt teenager tbh and not worth your time!

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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    Thanks guys thats what i thought, wanted to make sure i wasnt going mad.
    I've asked him no thanks as polite and as nice as i can lol... do i drop the F bomb lol

    Im now desperate for a new tog and video in surrey area for cheapish :(
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    I'll message you with mine as they travel and travel too :)

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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Ohhh thankyou hun, would appreciate that
    xx
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    • CatherineR
      CommentAuthorCatherineR
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    No problem :) just sent! xx

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jan 7th 2015
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    Move on to som else hun sounds weird although I thought mout photogs etc left around 8-830 ish, ours did... good luck xx

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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    ty hun,

    i've had a few replies so far, so there is some light for me lol
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    • Mrs Richardson 2B x
      CommentAuthorMrs Richardson 2B x
      Got married 28 months ago
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    Ours is amazing!! Coming from 8am until 10:30pm to catch all prep, they're also doing the video and our album traditional but in comic book style, ( we're geeks and proud lol). They travel and are very reasonably priced for what they are providing, ( not sure he realizes but I'm surely not gonna tell him lol). His 2nd is also going to do the guys prep, there's a digital package also, Amazeballs right?! I'd be happy to send you his link if you like?xx

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    • thefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Mine is arriving early morning to take photos etc while I'm getting ready and will be there until 11pm, although he is doing a photo booth for me too.

    If h is not willing to negotiate on time at all I'd get rid x
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    Ours did finish after the first dance, so around about 8:30. I think that is fairly standard, although they should be more flexible if they want a decent amount of work. The grovelling is offputting though.

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    • IrishLion
      CommentAuthorIrishLion
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    oh ladies if you could let me have the details id appreciate that v.much

    i politely told him to do one, and then he send me snooty msg bk.... well good luck you'l not get this service cheaper.... sad news for him is that i will hahah

    xx
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    If he cannot provide you with what you want, tell him you are not interested even at the price he is offering.

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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    I had a tog messaging me like that and the same thing happened, was about to finalise it all and he then refused to e-mail me back, took him 3 months to reply to an email and i didnt even get an apology! safe to say i didnt go with him and booked with someone else and now i'm super happy! lol

    if hes like this with you now and you dont like it, imagine what he'll be like after the wedding or after hes taken the money etc. If you've got any kind of doubts go elsewhere. Remeber they need you more then you need him. xx

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jan 8th 2015
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    You did the right thing.. Sounds a bit seedy to me!

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    • Mrs Richardson 2B x
      CommentAuthorMrs Richardson 2B x
      Got married 28 months ago
      Posted: Jan 9th 2015
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    Ha!! Twat!! The jokes on him because not only can you get it cheaper, you can most definitely get more bang for your buck AND a better person to deal with!!xx

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