So this is one of the first posts I've done here, but feeling very, VERY annoyed and h2b is at work so needing somewhere to vent!!!
Have been trying to compile a list of addresses so I can send out our save the dates, and about a half hour ago I spoke to my parents-in-law-to-be to get a couple of addresses of people they want to invite. That is annoying me enough as it is, the fact that they are insisting on us inviting people that neither of us have ever even met before (including someone that I'm sure just sits across from h2b's dad at work!!) and we're having to pay for it all. But what's annoyed me so much that I need a rant is that when I went in to ask for these addresses I was asked if I had addresses for people that I've not even got on the list but that they want to invite. I said they weren't on the list, I hadn't been given those names and then we got to discussing how many people are invited and they began to rant that h2b is, in short, inviting too many people and that he needs to consider that other people might want to invite some people! I was so shocked that h2b's mum said that that I couldn't even answer!!! I don't feel like it's really my place to say no you cannot invite these people and that it's our wedding because they've been really good to us, and have even let us move into their house so we can save as much money as possible for the wedding.
And this isn't the first time she's said something that's p*ssed me off so much. She came with us to look at venues because h2b didn't have a license and I'm not insured to drive her car, and in one of the places we were looking at she pretty much said our wedding is a trial run for her daughters wedding and that they'll learn from the mistakes made in this wedding and stuff like that. They're really lovely people but I don't know how to tell them to back off and let us have the wedding WE want!! And it doesn't help that all my family is in Australia and we're moving there in March but coming back here for the wedding in August, so pretty much needing to have everything organised before we move!!!! It's times like right now that I really wish we'd decided to get married in Australia because my Mum would never say I want this person invited or do it this way or anything like that.
And h2b sees my side of it, but quite probably wont say anything to his parents about it because he doesn't feel like he can tell them to butt out!!
And just as a side note, the total number of guests we're inviting for them stands at 14 so far!!! Is it just me or is that too many???
Anyway, rant over for now, has made me feel a little better but still annoyed by the whole thing.

yeah i would put my foot down too!! no way would i stand for this!! x

are they havin a laugh, they only get to invite family that ur h2b has forgotten about, and thats with your approval not theirs, a've allowed my mum 2 friends thats it as for the other guests thats h2b's and my choice no one elses, it's not her wedding are her daughters so why use her son as a guinie pig, put ya foot dwn hun and say a friend each no others

very true he should stand upto them, and make his feeling known as your the ones that are fitting the bill if his parents what that many friends then put it to them that they must pay for them.

Have had a rant to h2b so hopefully he'll talk to them about it. No not hopefully, he WILL talk to them about it!! He just doesn't want it to end in an argument with them. So fingers crossed we can cut down their guests by a lot!!!!

I know the feeling to well of the story with in-laws hun. My h2b's are terrible. Spit there dummy out if things don't go there way. We lived 2 mins down the road from them for 4 years, and they hardley came to see us, it was always US having to go to there's. But we moved about 3 months ago now, and they have not spoken to us since, as we are now closer to my mum. She's never liked that I have a very close strong relationship with her. We even had are sons christening just after we moved, they never even told us if they were going to show or not, but they did and they didn't say a single word to us. Just feel for my h2b really and the kids, but with the way they have acted, I don't want nothing to with them.
Just remember hun, that it's your day, you invite who you want, that's the whole point. But if they were insisting these people who you don't know were to come, then I'd have to them that if they would like to pay for them, then they can come. But you need to put your foot down.

she sounds horrid hun,its YOUR wedding, so invite who YOU want. Put your foot down with her now or she will be dictating after your married. Take control- and breathe x

Listen up lady and listen up good - don't you dare feel like you can't say anything to this horrible woman. Yes, she's been good and given you somewhere to live but to say this is a trial run for her daughter's wedding and then demanding that people you and the hubs have never even met get an invite when it's you paying for it is disgusting! The woman is bang out of order and you need to get your foot down like now!!
Gently point out that if she wants these people there then she is to put her hand in her pocket and pay for them or the alternative is they only get an invite for the night do.
Sweetheart, don't let her ruin this for either of you, it's about you and your hubs and not about anyone or anything else!

What is it with these idiot in-laws *grrrr*
xxx