I am so angry today and need to vent !!! .... when we got engaged my SIL2B had a rant at us and refused to talk to me since as i didnt ask her to be my Bridesmaid, i chose my 2 best friends instead. Anyway she was apparently very hurt and upset so stopped talking to us - we have ages to the wedding yet so she will come round and im not backing down so left her too her little strop, at 32 you would think she had grown up !

Anyway today, she texts me saying she is poor as her boyfriend has ran off with her money and left her with nothing and no food and needs to borrow some money... i was fuming. She doesnt work, never has done, severly over weight and lives on benefits. She had a nice heart but doesnt help herself and i dont have much time for her as think she needs to get a job and stop with the self pity and the world owes her a living apparently!! So i text her back saying 'Sorry i don't get paid until next week and all money budgeted for this month for the wedding and holiday' and her reply was 'Cant you take the money out your wedding fund? Im not coming anyway so use that money for me instead?' How bloody rude !!! Too right she isnt coming or having money from me.

Sorry i needed to vent as really angry today !!

She is very selfish, I bet your glad you did'nt ask her to be your bm now.

My entire dad's side of the family are rude ect, my dad wasnt even told his brother had died, he found out through a friend, so i think its safe to say they wont be invited to my wedding.

But hope you dont feel angry for too long, its not fair that she is asking you to do anything like that!

Hope your day gets better if not, *sending virtual hugs your way* :)

Thanks ladies... its funny how people's true colours come out !! xx

Why do some people act like they deserve to be given things and youre the unreasonable one to say no? I dont get it. Id just say: No, if you are in such a bad way you can get a crisis loan from the job centre. What a cheeky mare


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def down the right things Millz090

Tell her you WILL help her-once she gets off her backside, and gets herself a job! She has to make the first move. Tell her ou put up with any melodramatics either. None of this " woe is me, who will employ me?" etc..... She needs to prove to herself and everyone else she is worth helping!

Love,

Jeremy Kyle:-)

with an attitude like that she doesn't deserve to come and how cheeky doesn't speak to you in months and then asks for me she as a right bloody cheek lol wheres the rest of her family I'm guessing she tried them first and used you as a last resort.

Its like Jeremy Kyle combined with Eastenders, Haha !! She is 33 and never really worked a day in her life, when the government hand benefits out so easily to over weight, lazy people then why would she want make an effort to work?

She text me, her sister and brother but funny enough she didnt text my H2B (her other brother) as knows the answer as i tend to be the softer one but H2B put his foot down and said no ! ah well its one less for me to pay for at the wedding so saved me nearly £50, thats extra money for the honeymoon pot !! xxx

She sounds like a selfish little c0w!!
Dont back down hun, its none of her buisiness who you decide to have as your BM's.

It really winds me up when people get funny about these things, it really is pathetic & childish.

As for asking you for money, especially expecting to take it from your wedding fund is awful, who does she think she is?

Hugs xx

I could rant about people abusing the benefit system all day long!!

I could rant on about benefits too as got some strong opinions but only winds me up more. In my opinion i am already paying for her by working and paying tax and her claiming benefits so not paying out twice !! I could give the benefit office a few benefits frauds names too but Karma will catch them eventually so i dont need too, Haha xx

omg thats so cheeky i wouldnt have texted her back she sounds like a right slob sorry x

OMG What a cheeky moo!! Sounds like to me she need a huge wake up call!! As for asking you for money, Especially expecting to take it from yours and h2bs wedding fund, who does she think she is!! I would have told her to get off her lazy backside and find a job but then again the answer would have been 'Iam there no jobs out there' x

she would be happier with a kebab and a bag of chips anyway! lol

Thats a terrible thing for her to say, she sounds complete nightmare and I bet your glad shes not delighting you with her presence on your wedding day let alone being a BM!

Id be tempted to text her suggesting she used the money she would have spent on your wedding present- money you are sure she must have set aside, to buy herself a suit and start attending job interviews!!

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What money would you be giving her from your wedding anyway? About £20 for her meal? I don't think so lol.