The non-mother mother figure of the H2B hates me. She's told me that i am no where near good enough for him, i'm totally out of my depth, not worth anyhting etc etc. She has also made the H2B choose between me and her, and slapped him round the face for choosing me. The H2B has decided that this is irrevocable, and results in her not being invited to any part of our day,a nd to an extent I agree, but her son is very close to the H2B, a younger brother figure, if you will, and as he will only be 16 on the date we get married, i highly doubt he will be allowed to attened. any advice? <3 xxxx
CommentAuthorVx Debz xV
I'd send an invite to him, or make him an usher, that way H2B can keep an eye on him, he will feel important (and you'll sock it to HER) :D x
CommentAuthorSuz80
Agree with Debz
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
she's a controll freak. I dont know wether to invite her, and just keep her well away from me, of not invite her, and risk him not being able to turn up? xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
At 16 he should be fully able to make his own decisions in life!
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
I wouldn't invite her, she made her decision by forcing a choice to be made, which didn't go her way... as my grandma used to say, she made her bed.. May seem harsh, but thats me. It's your day! .. Let H2B deal with it, and explain his reasoning. Though as I said if he has a role, I think she'd find it hard to block his appearance. x
CommentAuthorGeorge
Oh the lovely topic of 'Mother in Laws'! Haven't had an amiable conversation with mine for 8 years and am getting maried to her son in 10 months time! Gonna send her a colour swatch through the post I think, would'nt want her to clash. What a state of affairs! Talk more about this another day if you'd like - have plenty to say -, but it's 12.15 now and I'm feelin the need for sleep...
CommentAuthorVx Debz xV
I'm feeling the same, but about my own "Mother" ... MIL2B isn't too bad, though she doesn't seem overly interested
CommentAuthorCeCe
....16 years old should be old enough to attend his brothers wedding without Psycho Mummy.
If she says he cannot attend then HE has to start realising what she is like and how he needs to learn how to either put up with her OR tell her to wind her neck in!
CommentAuthordizzydora4
there is no way i would invite her. She sounds horrid and i wouldn't want her there to ruin the day hun. She sounds very immature x
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
i wouldnt invite her, i would defo tell her to shove it bint, i agree with dove make him an usher hun and just take it from there xx
cant wait to renew my vows, love my hubby sssssooooo much xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
Send him an invite tell him where to be picked up from on your big day you deff should not have her if neither of you wont her she will just course problems which you don't wont!!
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs Nicol
i agree with debz make hime part of the wedding so he has to be there... :)
CommentAuthorRelfy
The grils are right, give him an importaint role for the day that way he has to come. As for the mother, i would tell her that she doesnt have to like you, but out of respect for your h2b she should at least be able to put her differences behind her and get on with you. h2b has made it clear how he feels about you and she should respect that if she wants to be a part of his life. xx
CommentAuthoronewilson@btinternet
sorry couldnt resist but just say 'get lost please' - that's polite is it not! seriously though, after what h2b non-mother said I wouldnt invite her. If she is so outspoken then I would be worried something would be said and ruin my day, unless you can come to some sort of truce before. also think it's a great idea to have 16yr old as usher and then if hb2 non-mother not happy then she'll look bad x families drive you crazy eh??? im sure everyone on here has a story to tel......oh might start a new thread about it.....lol
CommentAuthorkitkat
We have made my H2B 9 year old son our ring bearer and arranged for him to come with the best man from overseas - there was no way he was going to let his mum say no to allowing him to come him and so I am sure a 16 year old will be able to make his own decision and get himself there!
CommentAuthorclaireclaire
How horrid this is to hear! i hope you work it out i just feel sorry for the little brother who might miss out on your special day because of her stupid attitude xxx
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
for anybody still wondering; this situation has still not been resolved, and i am now recieving threatening texts from her. We live in the same [rather small] village, and she is threatening to "punch me in the face" next time she sees me; Is it just me, or is this exceptionally immature? Thanks for the advice ladies! & onewilson- truce? hahhahahahaha. no. I tired being nice. I'm nice playing nice. I give up playing nice about the time i feel too scared to walk up the shop without the H2B. <3 x
CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
I agree with Debz.
I cannot believe she is threatening you! You can actually get the police involved with that. Harrasment. Honestly, she seems very pathetic!!
xx
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
i would get the police involved but i wouldnt want to cause her son the disruption; he's an amazing lad, but shes doing a VERY good job of turning him against both me, AND the H2B whom he grew up with. She's twisted, I swear. <3 x
CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
She seems extremly twisted! If she keeps threatening you though its maybe the best thing.....even if means a restraining order.....its really nice you're thinking of the boy, but you have to think of your safety too :S Oooh this has worried me! Why are people so nasty?!?!
xx
CommentAuthordizzydora4
have you shown the lad the threatening txt that has been sent? might stop him turning against you and h2b? x
CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
dizzy; hadnt thoguht of that, but its a great idea :] General Update on Situation; She's still a threatening abusive idiot, things are no better, if not worse. I, however, am no longer that bothered; she can be an ignorant cow if she wants :] Thank you all for all of your advice ladies :] <3 x
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
my mum would send awful txts and make prank calls on me. rather than show her that it was getting to me, I didn't reply to any of the txts. I answered the phone to the witheld numbers, but did not say a word. Just left the phone on top of the table, walked away from it and watched TV. It took a couple of months, but she soon stopped doing it. I think she stopped because she was wasting her credit!!
I would however document to the police that this woman has made a threat to you.
Met 18/09/03
Engaged 06/09/08
Getting married 05/09/17
