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    • LMC
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    Hello, I am trying to organise my hen night but it has become a bit of a nightmare. At first I was going to let my bridesmaids organise it but I am a bit of a control freak and wouldnt let them! Now we have been all discussing it together and came up with an idea, but when I went to book, it wasnt available. One of my bridesmaids was looking up hiring booths in clubs but as both parents and aunts are going I just didnt think that it was suitable, she has said now she will let someone else organise it and now isnt not answering my messages about other ideas. Another bridesmaid came up with the idea of afternoon tea but my mum has said that its a hen night and afternoon tea is boring and she cant drink during the day. We were going to do afternoon tea then book into cocktails bars etc for drinks but she said no and has now said she not going. Removed herself from my bridesmaid facebook book page and decline the hen night invite. This is really stressing me out. My final plan is: Afternoon tea, book into cocktail bar afterwards for a few, karaoke booth afterwards for 2 hours then book into another livier bar around 8pm where we can have some pizza/nibbles to fill a hole and dance away for the rest of the night. Parents probs leave and if anyone is still able, then move on to a club if we want. All this will cost aroung £22 (excluding drinks). Do you think this is ok, would you be happy with this? And is anyone elses mum being difficult?
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    • MichelleC961
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    If it was me I woukd just sack of the afternoon tea and would do a cocktail class at about 6pm that includes nibbles- would be 2 hours or so- then book into other cocktail bars and into club- that's main.y as I'm not a fan of afternoon tea- I know it's difficult to let go but I would go through ideas with your BM and then just leave it for them to sort- it's usually their job and I think I would be a bit annoyed too if I got told I was organizing it and then suddenly it was taken off me- I too would prob ignore you for a bit until we could both apologise but I'm quite stubborn! Lol xx

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    • LMC
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    I didnt really explain it very well. I didnt tell them that they couldnt organise it, just that I couldnt cope with the not knowing and didnt want a surprise so we were coming up with ideas together, but when nightclubs were mentioned I said no, thats not what I wanted. The parents are 62 and 66, and I just dont feel like clubs on a Saturday night was suitable, plus its not what I want, but now one of my bridesmaids (my sister) and my mum are not talking to me! I feel like I need to do what they want and they are not listening to what I want. Its all very stressfull!
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    • MichelleC961
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    Ahhh - makes sense- sorry was probs me just not understanding.

    My best advice is to sit both of them down and talk to them- be honest and say that it's silly to fall out over this, all as you wNt is everyone to have a good night but yiu wouldn't feel comfortable doing xxx and feel that the evening should be split into sections so people can come and go at appropriate points- explain that you still want them to organise it but just using some of your ideas as well as their own- hope you sort it-xx

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