Hey, was wondering if I could get some advice...one of my mates is planning to get married in the same year as me (or that was the plan) but has hit some money trouble. I feel guilty about discussing my wedding with her when I know that she really wants to plan hers (she's more the marrying/homemaker type than me) but I keep saying to myself that it's not my fault that they are having money trouble.

To top it off, she still thinks that she is going to be cheif bridemaid...but we fell out quite badly last year and I sorta replaced her with another friend who has become my best mate essentially we are soul mates. I could never get back the closeness that we had, and there is no way that she would be a bridesmaid, but I don't know how to break the news to her, I just know that it will mean we fall out again. Help please!!!

She's not the most reliable of people (bless her) and she fell out with her father quite badly (they still not talking and prob never will) and tried to stop me inviting him, but he is my H2B's uncle so I can't not. We have a very volatile friendship at best and she had a habit of pulling out at the last minute and I really don't need that when the wedding is a few weeks away (obviously preparing for worst case scenario).

on the girl front.... take her out 4 a meal and tell her then? u need reliable people to help u etc! on the dad front hmmmmmmmmmmmmm ( my h2b biological dad has hardly owt to do wiv him n hes not invited) i wud take him to one side and just tell him! say how u feel about ure 'dad' to him and its who u want!

i have this problem my moh was supposed to get married last oct but they fell out and it all cancelled and not together full stop and i feel like i would be rubbiing her face int hefact that im still getting married! ANd i havent had courage to talk to her about my wedding and she hasnt asked but i dont want to upset her so am having her as moh but my other best mate who is alwwyas asking as cbm!still best mates with moh so doesnt matter it just a title anmyway they all do same job really (i think)

ahh well in that case i guess they both cbms lol

I would give her a special role keep your cbm but have her as a moh and give them each different roles but give her things that it doesnt matter if she doesn't getthem done. As for your dad just tell him that your step dad had more influence on developing you as a person so it feels right that he should give you away xxx

ca ca i wudnt pick a moh yet u hav 4 years to go! things can change soooooooooooo quickly