Hi guys, i need help...I've been wondering over this for literally months now.
First issue is that I have a biological father who ive only seen a few times since he walked out, and is recently badgering how he and his other family (half brother and sisters) should come to my wedding again ive only seen them a few times at judo competitions so its not like ive went out my way to see them. I want to say no and have but i think hes wearing me down... but he definately wont be walking me down the isle if i do decide for him to come.
Second isssue is that I want my brother to walk me down the isle instead of my dad (not one above). My dad is awesome and has done so much for me but I still really want my brother to do it. I think its because i feel close to him as of the idiot biological person is for both of us (if that makes any sense att all). So who to pick or can i have both of them do it at the same time?
Confusion?! HELP!
CommentAuthorVintageChic
If you don't want your bio dad there then don't hun. Let him whinge all he wants but at the end of the day if you don't want it to happen don't let it.
As for your Dad and your brother, why not have one walk either side of you? Lots of women do it x
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CommentAuthorKirstenD30
Instead of inviting the them to the whole day why. It invite them to the evening reception instead? Plus you can have your brother and your dad give you away. It's your wedding so have it the way you want it :) x
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
U agree with Vintage here.
I didnt want any of my paternal family at my wedding and they didnt get an invite. Simple. A lot less stress for me on the day.
I also had my dad (not my father) walk me down the aisle with my Grandad.
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CommentAuthorMrsRatcliffetobe
I'm not having any of the peternal family there either, I know theres going to be a huge row when the invites go out and they dont get any but the fact is they have never been there for me not part of my life so why should they be a part of my day?! Stick to your heart hun, the last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable or stressed on your big day. And why not have them both give you away or maybe ask your stepfather to make your father of the bride speech?
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I'd have them both walk you down :-) I wanted my dad and my brother to walk me down but my brother said it's stupid lol.. He has very odd opinion's my brother..
I'd have both of them if I were you ;-) xxx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I have the same probs regarding my dad and some other family in my world loyalty and effort make family not blood! Which is why 2 of my mums best friends who are like my aunty and uncle are on mu list with family but my dad an his family and my cousins on my mums side are not on it whatsoever! If my cousins asked i may sway a but and invite them to evening doo but no way the main even ad they have not been bothered with us in years! And i know when our friends invites go out there will be moaning we have lits of friends but cannot afford all of them for the main day so are inviting the top 10/12 but the names keep on changing recently as seem to be drifting apart! But most will be invited to evening doo!
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CommentAuthorRhiannonS24
Have your step dad and brother do it hun. With ur bio dad if u dont want him there tell he to f**k off. Its ur day dont have anyone there that u dont want. You just gota stand ur ground. But if he does bug u that much u could just have him to the evening due x
CommentAuthorThe-Future-Mrs-B
On my side of the family I'm only inviting my mum ( I don't have any brothers or sisters ), my aunts and uncles they all peed me off when my dad passed away 2years ago as my mum and i sorted out all the funeral stuff and they got the hump as I didn't involve then in this process so they were not very supportive, so I am not inviting them to my wedding just because they are family.
Invite who makes YOU happy, don't feel obligated because they're family etc, have who you want to walk you down the aisle.
:)
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
I went to a wedding were the bride had a two father situation and she shared the responsibility... Her paternal father walked her into the chuch and then her father who brought her up walked her down the aisle.
Mayube you could have your father (non-paternal) walk you to the aisle and do a handover to your brother?
Other that that you could ask your father to do a reading.
With regards to your paternal father, i would tell him out right to eff off, he can't pick and chose when best suits him to be part of your life!! If he wanted the honour of being father, then he should have honoured being a father!!! xxx
