Im sorry i need a rant! i have been very good and only spoken about the wedding if he has nmentioned it or on here or to people whnen they have asked and oh hasnt even noticed!! Everytime i had mentioned it before he says to wait and the last thing was that im pressuring him!! WTF i havent even mentioned it to him unless he starts it since before christmas and when i said this to him he couldnt answer but he wont even sit down and do a basic provisional guest list we did one a bit back with people his mum said but he said that half of them he hasnt seen and doesnt really want there but that is it!! I know i have a long way to go yet and that men dont think these things take time to plan carefully (thanks to dont tell the bride and there 3 weeks!!) but apart from beginning of december when we had an email from dttb asking for more info he wont do anything!! We had an idea of our venue but he said he would contact them and the registrar etc (not done so no date) now he is saying that he thinks it is too far out!!! My family are having to travel for over 2 hours to get here and he is worrying about a 15 min drive!!! Im starting to think it all just excueses but i dont know why he asked me to marry him if he doesnt want to!!
He has recently started his own business which i know takes a lot of time and effort but he needs to put a little time in with me too (i knwo that sounds selfish but he sleeps till 1-2pm and then works till 4-5am so i rarely see him) and i have been staying with him whilst i recovered from an op but i dread the thought of going home as i know i wont see him!! he hates where i live and im fed up of doing all the running around!!
I know im extra emotional at the moment but this has been going on too long now!! I am getting so run down with it all i have nothing to do except plan this wedding and go to a singing lesson 1 hour per week and being on sick i cant do a lot of anyhting else!! i have tried doing hobbies like drawing or sewing even tried knitting!!! i cant keep my concentration!
I am at my wits end now and my family think he cant be bothered and that when i go home they hope he will come and see me my nan said he used to cookl for me what changed and my friends are wondering why he proposed if he dont want to talkabout weddings!!
I have tried to cut back, choose different venues that will save money i even suggested putting the wedding back so we could pay for where we want but he went off on one saying he wants there and that date etc!!!
sorry for the huge rant but i just want to cry and i know he will get annoyed about that too!!! I know this seems trivial compared to what some of you are going through but i needed to get it off my chest to an unbiased audience lol
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CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
nothing it trivial if it upsets you hun dont worry to much we are here to listen to your rants for better or worse and all that jazz LOL you really need to pin him down and tell him how your feeling if he truely loves you and wants to marry you then he will understand
tell him he if he dont pull his finger out you will cancel the wedding altogther that might knock him in to action xx
feel better hun
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hun! u need to sit him down and tell him how wat he is doin ( or lack of) is affecting u! basically u need to tell him buck up or thats it!
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I'd listen to Son hunni - I'd sit and tell him straight - huge hugs xxxx
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CommentAuthorlil miss sunshine
sit him down and talk to him do it now befoe it gets out of hand xoxo
Talk to him, tell him how you feel and if he loves you and wants to marry you he will buck his ideas up :-) it'll be fine Hun, you'll get married. My h2b needed a kick up the bum too, was so laud back until New Years Eve when he realised we're getting married this year, he panicked and has now been amazing getting involved and planning. He just needs a reality check xxxx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Great advise already given. You need to talk to him hun. It could be there is a problem he isn't telling you about. Maybe he is worried you can't afford the wedding etc while he is setting his business up and he doesn't want you to start booking things to find out later that the wedding can't go ahead because the funds are not there. You just don't know what is going on unless you ask him and you both have a heart to heart and be honest with each other. I'm sure that you can work things out. After all isn't that what being married is all about? If you can't talk to each other now then you shouldn't be getting married.
CommentAuthorlouise
I also think u definatly need to sit down and have a good chat with him hun. Now is defiantly not to early to be organising !! xx
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CommentAuthorBrissy_Bride
Maybe he does think it's too early to jump into the planning. You could try giving him a timeline etc book the venue xmonths before wedding, have finalised guest list x months before. Then he knows what to expect and when... Maybe it's a combination of him being busy starting his business and you having soo much time thinking about the wedding :-/. He won't talk to you about the guest list you have, maybe he thinks you have a provisional list already? Have you explained why it's important, or maybe you don't need to have it finalised just now? And also the venue and date he seems to think is sorted?
I understand things need to be booked as early as possible but perhaps you could work with what you have or focus on things that don't need soo much of his input? I understand how frustrating it is, but try not to be confrontational if you do talk to him about it, it might make this worse especially if he already thinks it's too much wedding talk :-/
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
If he really wants that venue and that date then he seriously needs to pull his finger out and book it. The good venues go 18 months to 3 years in advance. It may do him some good though to lose out on the venue for that date and you move the date as at least then he will realise that things need to be done much earlier. Sorry your having problems tho :( Hopefully he'll cooperate soon.... blokes aren't normally too interested unfortunately as long as they can just turn up!
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
spoke to him last night and he said he will sort out the guest list we do have a provisional one but that was mde up between me and his mum lol and he wasnt all thhat happy as some people he hasnt seem haha anyways he said he will sort it and yeah he thinks that because we said to the venue that we wanted that date and she wrote it in (although he knows they only keep it 2 weeks whilst you speak to registrar) i think maybe he does think she will keep it for us ah well. am going to sit him down and say to him i like to be organised even if we dont book anything properly yet.
I did try saying about putting it back but he doesnt want to do that so that is a good thing cos he dont really want to wait! :D at least i know he wants to marry me (eventually haha)
Thank you all for your advice xxxx he just a typical man that doesnt like to rush although he does things on impulse haha
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Maybe to him it does just feel like a long way off, he is a man after all ? If i were you i would show him a brides checklist, there is one on here somewhere and they are in a lot of wedding magazines, so that he can see the things to do asap... that might help him get into gear a tad. Good luck.
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
i ordered him a free one lol made it specially for him (special offer haha) and he just looked at it as if to say what have you got me this for lol haha still im doing as much as i can and just getting him to do the list so that i know how many people we roughly have and can sort out stationary etc (later anyway) and find venue alternates etc. this way i can just present him with my favourites and let him pick! that way he is involved lol
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CommentAuthorSpud
there is a groom equivilant website to this that you could suggest to him, that might get him a kittle more involved when other guys are talking abouth things, my oh wasnt too fussed bout it but wud happily let me sit and do stuff then this year hes been really involved, men are always a little behind lol. but definately just to have a proper chat with him so he knows how you feel xxx
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
he is actually on here well he joined but i dont think he has been on since lol ah well what is the groom equivelant to this site?? please and thank you xx
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i love you ry!!!
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CommentAuthorboo
I posted it on your wall x
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
thank you xx lets see if he can get interested chatting to other grooms to be lol xx
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i love you ry!!!
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