I didnt think id have any problems with family members....but it seems i do!
Im having round tables at my wedding and on the top table im having:
*Grooms mum *Brides dad *Bride *Groom *Brides mum *Grooms dad *Brides maid *Brides Step dad * Best man
(Picture this as a circle, so best man ends up by grooms mum)
BUT it seems my dad is getting assy as his new girlfriend isnt on top table......ive only met her once.... and hes having ago at me as my mums fiance (Who i call step dad) is on top table......
Mums been with stepdad for 7 years.....and hes done alot for me in thoses years and hes even brought me my wedding dress......where as my dad has been with girlfriend 5 months and as i said ive met her once for 2 hours, and she didnt say much as she dosnt speak English very well.
my h2b and i dont really want her on top table...but to keep peace im thinking of adding her to top table......and siting in this order:
*Grooms mum *Grooms dad *Bride *Groom *Brides mum *Brides step dad *Brides maid *Best man *Brides dad gf *Brides dad
This was he can sit with his gf and ive gone for a total mix up.
Anyone else having his problem?? Im tempted to scrap top table all together and H2B and i can just sit with friends.
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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Have what YOU want if he doesnt like it tough!!! sorry
OR have a sweetheart table with just you and h2b and sit everyone else in with the other guests.....cant moan that they are not on the top table then as there isnt one hehehe
I have my parents, h2b's parents (his mum n his step dad) us and our 3 children on our top table
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CommentAuthorAntonia9
to save this hassle i am just having on the top table, me, h2b, best man and MOH - That way no one can fight!
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CommentAuthormizzkt
yeah i know its mine and Bens day.....but my dad will kick off and i dont want my day ruined.
We have to have a top table as we have 90 guests and 9 tables that all seat 10. Thing is its only while were eating and its a buffett, so we wont be sitting there for long! So i might just stick dad and his gf on the top table, keep the peace.
Was just wondering if anyone else has this problem?
CommentAuthorElle23
I imagine i AM going to have this problem Dad has not said anything yet but i know its coming
They have been together about 9 months so far Not sure what it is but H2B and I just can't warm to her so it's a compromise to invite her at all, let alone have her on the top table! We are going to be very firm from the day he asks that she will not be on top table , she will be seated with dad's sister's who are coming from America!!
Plus, as we have 16 months, there is always the chance they may not be together anymore!!
Personally poo pants to him wanting her there, you don't know her so do what you want, if he doesn't like it tough it's only for a couple of hours
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CommentAuthorMel D
we had all the parents on a table of their own, and then me & dan with best man & bridesmaids and their partners.
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CommentAuthorClareS
Just tell him you'll be sorting the seating plan nearer the time. That way they'll either still be together and you may have got to know her more or they may have gone their seperate ways. Afterall you hardly know this woman and he's expecting her to have such a prominant place at your reception! Thats putting a lot of pressure on their relationship at an early stage. How does she feel about all this? is she wanting to be there on top table or is it your dad being mr protective of her and stamping his feet in a paddy lol Either way try not to stress about it x
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CommentAuthormillz090
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I think you have loads of time until the wedding and in that time you may get to know her more and wont mind her on the top table or they may split up as only been 5 months so think its too early to be stressing yet.
My parents are both re-married and my H2B lost his mum when he was little and his dad is remarried so we have 3 step parents... i dont particually want my step mum on our top table as dont really know her however adore my step dad but i know my dad wont like my step dad there and not my step mum (exactly the same as you). I sat down with my step dad who is married to my mum for 8 years and amazing with me and likewise paying half the wedding and explained it was too awkward to have everyone there so all step parents or none at all so fair on everyone and he was happy to step back and sit elsewhere to stop me stressing. xxx
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CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
youve got to do what you feel is right. its your day please yourself and h2b no one else. i know this is easier said then done but you dad should be pleased for you instead of worrying about his gf. however i can understand if she doesnt know anyone and will be sat with people she hasnt met as that could make her feel awkward. maybe suggest to your dad that she can sit at the top table but you would like to get to know her first xx
CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
My dad is not coming to my wedding as he walked out on my mum 18mths ago and has not talked to any of us since, but even if I was talking to him there is no way I would have his girlfriend at the top table. Top table is for people that are special to you and have helped you through life, wedding etc. I think it is wrong of your dad to dictate to you who sits where. It's your day and I'm sure no one dictated to him on his wedding day about who sat where xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
you have ages to go hun ... they may not even be together ... i have had to re-do my seating plan so many times .. i started with everyone i invited and have just done it it ( for uk wedding in June) according to the invites i have had. I didn't want to have a traditional top table so we are having a round table like you and on it will be us .. my four children ..and the couple that are coming to America with us . My parents are on another table as they have had no input into the wedding i didn't see why they had to sit on the table with us ...and of course mr lalas parents are even coming so that solved that one lol
