without going into it me and h2b were emotionaly blackmailed into having my sister and foster sister as bridesmaids (origionally just my 2 daughters) anyway they have given me no end of troubles and got so fed up i was ready to scream so thankfully things quietend down last week in the car with my sis she says what you doing about a hen night i said well surley thats not my job to organise she replies well if you picked a moh you wouldnt have a problem i wont pick a moh as i wont pick between my daughters as she well knows so anyway just had a call from them (one of them on the phone the other in the background ) telling me they have planned a night out for themselves before the wedding as a sort of reward for all their hard work (what bloomin work ) im welcome to come if i want but obviously its not MY night out its theirs they were just telling me so when i arrange my hen night they can budget for both lol if it wasnt so sad id laugh as it is im in tears not thaqt i expected any different to be honest jus think it sucks xxx
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
oh my word this is similar to me, whilst drunk my h2b asked two of my friends (not close at all) if they wanted to be bridemaids on our big day one of them was so excited she started crying and put it all over her facebook. The other used to be a really good friend when we were younger (i mean like 6/7 young) so instead of 4 bm's i now have 6. so i feel your pain here. I just cant believe they think theyve done enough to warrant "THEIR" own night out! its ridiculous!!
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CommentAuthorKaz
I would ask them what exactly they'd done and arrange to out for a meal with some mates or H2B, then tell them about your fantastic hen nite that they missed! And it sounds like neither would have been up to the job, how old are they? They're obviously over 18, perhaps someone should point out its ur day not there's and u're right to want a big deal made of you! Sorry hun, so angry for you i'm waffling again!
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CommentAuthorFass
That's a bit out of order. It does not sound like they are being helpful at all (I've read your previous post), so why they feel they should reward themselves is a joke. I really feel for you hun.
Can not wait to be Mrs Wickham
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I am only having 1 bridesmaid and she has been given 16 months notice to plan my hen night. She has been given instructions about not having a big boozey night because thats not me!!!
That is disgusting!!! Don't put up with being treated like that!
I'll rent out my sister - she is my bridesmaid with her 2yr old daughter as flowergirl and honestly is organising my hen night and ........ life already! We don't get married until April 2012 lol xxx
Wedding Day - 16th June 2012
CommentAuthorjanetx71
thats just the thing they havent done a single thing not one me and h2b have done everything ourselves they are just so selfish it makes me sad but hey i dont care about a hen night sod it i never had one at my first wedding so i guess ill survive maybe go out for a meal with h2b and my 2 girls sounds like a nice idea i just sort of feel like they are having my wedding without me does that sound silly xxxxx
CommentAuthorMrsMcleish2B
It sounds to me like they are jealous and thats why their being like that and almost trying to burst your bubble. They are best ignored, carry on as normal and focus on your dream day and spending the rest of your lives together. After the wedding you can distance yourself from them if thats what you decide to do. Try not to be upset though hun their not worth it xxxx
Wedding Day - 16th June 2012
CommentAuthorKaz
Have you got their dresses already? Cos I'd put them in awful dresses within my colour scheme!!! lol, sorry just being b****y! But seriously they are just jealous as MrsMc says and everyone will be looking at you not them, just make sure that in the speeches everything you and H2B have done is attributed to yourselves and they will be noticeable by their absence! xx
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CommentAuthorMrsMcleish2B
Fab idea Kaz I'm loving your style!!! O and get them AWFUL gifts....... if your even getting them anything at all! xx
Wedding Day - 16th June 2012
CommentAuthorjanetx71
lol kaz i like the awful dress idea but yes i have already got them it just feels so strange ive had 3 friends text me now to say they have been invited to the bridesmaids night out and asking whats going on i cant even be bothered to answer h2b says he is making a point of saying in his speech that he would love to thank everyone for all their help but seeing as we did it all ourselves we get a big pat on the back xxxxxx
CommentAuthorMrsMcleish2B
I REALLY want to get their number and give them a call!! How dare they treat you like that it's just plain mean and nasty! I would take the dresses back and get your money back then take your h2b and children out for a meal with the money! I'm angry for you hun. Do you have a friend that could take over the hen night arrangements and I would arrange it for a different night on the quiet and not include them one little bit! If they ask you why they weren't invite simply say you thought they'd already had their own 'hen night' without you. No matter what you will have a fantastic day just keep that in mind xxxx
Wedding Day - 16th June 2012
CommentAuthorKaz
Excellent Janet, they'll be really embarrassed hopefully!!! xx
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CommentAuthorjanetx71
i know kaz he makes me laugh cause he will say it as well lol i know its just the gren eyed monster thats making them like this but its got so bad that on the day i was going to get my hair and make up done by myself they dont want to look like clowns apparently (i mean for heaven sake) and thay hoped i can manage the dress cause they will need to get themselves and the little ones ready my dress is corseted so no chance of that but my very good friend is going to come over and help me cause they are so bloomin useless which im really grateful for as she isnt in good health but at least a friendly face so between her and my 2 girls im sure its all gonna be fine xxxx
CommentAuthorMrsV2b
why dont you ask your friend to be MOH, i know it is short notice but you could maybe pick up a dress online cheapily, and go out with her and your girls for your hen night. Hen nights dont have to be big alcohol fulled or expensive, just spend time with them. If you cant work it for her to be your MOH then spend your night or day with yoru girls. What i am saying is that it sounds like you have some nice people around you, ignore the ignorant ones and concentrate on them and your h2b :)
getting married on 29th June 2013
You cant please everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love smillies :)
CommentAuthorSheWolf
I think you should fire them as bridesmaids! They sound awful! x
CommentAuthorMrsV2b
i also think your h2b needs to be carefull by saying no one helped, as your friend who is helping you in the morning of the wedding and others who may have helped may feel insulted, but i can totally understand why he wants to say it and dont blame him.
getting married on 29th June 2013
You cant please everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!
love smillies :)
CommentAuthorKayteeG
How ridiculously pathetic! It's funny really isn't it - you think you don't have to put up with this sort of stuff once you leave school...
CommentAuthorada
I am so sorry to hear this I got angrey reading it. They are being so childish and need a good slap. Not sure how old your girls are but what about just a day out for you and your friend who is hellping you xx
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
Ugh, how childish and ridiculous of them!
I'd say plan your own hen party for you and your girls (perhaps a trip to a theme park?) and don't invite them. Or, like MrsV2B said, ask another friend to be your MoH and organise a night out with her... and don't invite the other two. They have a lot of nerve to believe they've earned a night out based on their "hard work". Idiots.
CommentAuthorEnny
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sorry to hear that u having such trouble with ur sisters... somehow glad i haven't got one ... dont think i will be getting this sort of stress as my sil2b is going to be bm just to involve her a bit but she wont be able to do much as she has 1 and a half lil ones... (2nd not born yet) but my moh will be doing bit more to support me as she is doing already :)
but i agree u should have ur own night out hen night how u want it without them :)
CommentAuthorkimmy
Sack them!!!
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Urgh! Sack them!! xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
how ridiculous? i wouldnt go to it!
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
why are you allowing them to do it to you hun,they sound like selfish spoiled cows and like hell would i allow them in my wedding party,put your foot down stand your ground and tell them were to bloody stick it!!
