sat writing this in tears but i think im calling my wedding off, i dont feel he really wants to and his only doing it cos its what i want he doesnt really care what sort of wedding we have and has no intreast in the arrangements i feel like im pushing him in to it.

His mum and brother and his partner pop in yesterday and no one mentioned the wedding or the plans i feel like they dont want us to get married either considering its the first wedidng to anyone of her sons she doesnt seem very happy or excited about it, plus i dont really feel like they want me as part of the family she is always texting her other sons partners/gf but only text me if she needs to i dont have a mum my self as she died when i was 11 and i have moved over an hour and a half away from my own family to be with h2b so dont seem my family very often now just dont see what the point of it all is

Hi Krissy
You sound like u need a big hug or lots of chocolate :)
Have you tried talking to him about how your feeling?xx

babe, this is normal for famils & h2b wiv so much time befoire. Mine was just like this! he is just cumin into it now ( now everythings booked n done) chin up and have a long talk before deciding to call anything off!

Hun I could have wrote that very message this time last year. I felt exactly the same. Steve shown zero interest and his family never spoke of it and only talked about the other 2 weddings going on....1 wasn't even a member of family but a work colleagues daughter. I felt completely alone in wanting the wedding. However 12 months on things couldnt be different...with Steve anyway. He helps with everything now. He's the one that starts the wedding conversations each time and I am the one that is too stressed with the 'to do' list to talk about it. lol

Like many ladies on here it mainly sounds like because it's 18 months away...for your h2b it just doesn't feel real or urgent just yet. Most men have the idea a wedding can be organised in a few days so really don't get why you would already be excited with 18 months to go. Take some time to talk to him about your concerns before calling it off as if you do go ahead with cancelling it, he may feel like there is a deeper issue or reason for you not wanting to go ahead with it.

As for his family stuff them! Steve's parents are still treating our wedding like a holiday (wedding is abroad) with the inconvenience of wasting a day of it on our wedding! At the end of the day you are marrying him and not his family. You are definately not alone with the in law issues...theres many of us on here with those. xxxx

I was going to say it's probably because you've 18 months to go - I had a moment too around 10 months before when I felt like I was doing everything myself, moaned to the H2B that I needed help, and all of a sudden he was booking things left right and centre! I'm sure the two of you do want to get married as that's why he proposed and you accepted, but getting geared up for something which is a while away may be hard. Have you even thought about maybe bringing it forward and having a smaller wedding instead? It's not all about the day, it's about the two of you sharing your lives together that counts...

krissy i was exactly the same!! my h2b wasn't interested but taking a little more to do with it now, but not much. as stevie_dee said, most think it can all be done a week before the date and have no interest in colour schemes or flowers. most are happy to turn up lol

his family (with th exception of one of his sisters) couldn't give a feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeck!!!!!!! and i hate them for it. i dont have a mum or dad and i moved an hour drive away from my family too. screw his family!!!!! you'l never change them

i think it may be a little early to call off anything. speak to him, but i still wouldn't expect him to be falling over himself to get involved with picking invites, coordinating flowers and centre pieces

remember, there are books full of mother in law jokes FOR A REASON!!!!!!! lol

Talk to him and find out how he feels, forget all the rest of the family, your not marrying them. If everything is OK between you and him that is all that matters. As for people not being interested that is normal, thats why I come on here because no one else will understand like all the girls on here and i'm sick of boring the cat with it LOL xx chin up it will be OK.

Aw big hugs.

Mine talk about it alot more now its getting closer. I do like it when they take an interest, but its also quite nice when I just get on with the planning on my own. You have your own ideas and you don't want people sticking in their opinion all the time..some ladies on here could tell you about that I'm sure! Sometimes people talking about can stress you out if they are saying have it like this or have you remembered that.
Before you cancel just remember that most of us ladies, pushing on 100% I would say, are the ones in the relationship who do the majority of the planning, and as others have said..the man perks up when it gets very close!! Also remember what a wedding is about-2 people marrying each other because the love, trust, cherish each other and want to be with each other until death do them part. If this is not what you both want then you shouldn't be getting married.
I'm waffling on here, hope it makes sense! Good luck xx

Krissy I feel so bad for you sat in tears hun :( sending hugs and hoping things get sorted, but I would agree in saying talking about it before calling anything off is a good idea. Hope your ok! xx

Aww so glad your talked it through and everything is ok.

aww hun, glad to hear you are feeling better - but you are not alone, men rarely get involved! i had a similar conversation with my h2b but its because they just want you to have things how you want it, and probably feel like they would just get in the way or something.... men are funny creatures! lol i think your doing the right thing though, do the planning what you have scheduled then have a break and show h2b some loving! lol x

Awww Honey... Are you seeing a pattern with all the responses?? It's normal to feel this way, we all have... and men are all the same, i wish for the days when my H2B had no opinion, because he keeps interfering now!! ;-) But at the beginning he got fed up with me talking about the wedding bless him, they just dont get excited straight away, it's only been in the past month or so the H2B has started asking questions, asking if have done this and if i had done that... My response is... Well if you had listened when i was doing the planning you would know wouldnt you! :0P Don't call it off sweety.

And In-Laws well, MIL was quite quiet at the beginning until i involved her, she may not want to tread on your toes hun, FIL just keeps out of the way of MIL and I when we are together, i think we give him a headache!

It was actually my mum that didnt show much interest at the beginning, and that really upset me! and H2B was quite put out by it too, now however she is really interested in whats going on!

For everyone else, it is a long way away, It's completely different for us though, but we are busy planning.

Don't fret and if you want to talk wedding, we are all here, and LOVE talking about it!

Keep Smiling! xxxx

Awww so glad it's all sorted out :) Xx