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    • EmmaG605
      CommentAuthorEmmaG605
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
     
    Hi guys.

    Just after your advice on what you have or will be doing in regard's to paying out for your bridesmaids.

    I have 4 bridesmaids and am paying for their dresses. We have not told our bridesmaids what else we will be paying out for them as yet but we think we will agree on paying for their shoes and their throw if needed.

    What are you all doing when it comes to hair and make up? I would like them all to have their hair and make up done professionally but do you think its only fair for me to then pay for a trial and to have it done on the day for each one of them also?? I'm afraid if I don't pay for the trial and they choose not to use it then they may be unhappy with how they look on the day.

    I'm also then unsure if to pay for the likes of getting their nails done, again I would like them to all have nicely painted or manicured nails, I am also unsure about jewellery unless I do this as a thank you gift.

    There is so much you can pay for and just would like your views and opinions.

    Thanks! x
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
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    My moh paid for her own hair and makeup, was more than happy to and was the one who suggested it.

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
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    I paid for the dresses and the jewellery/accessories. I'm not fussed about them having professional hair and make up done as they will look lovely anyway. I said if they want professional hair and make up doing then they are very welcome but they would need to pay for that themselves. They said they were all happy to just do each other's hair and make up and we will be having girls nights in to practice together :)

    We're getting our nails done before the wedding but everyone will be paying for themselves.

    I think if you have an exact image of how you want them to look then you should be prepared to pay, but if they're allowed a bit of a free reign then they might be happier to contribute.

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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
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    Yep agree with Flossie.

    I did not want them with all the same hair styles,one of my daughters had her hair done at the hairdresser only because she needed to have it cut anyway so combined it, the other two done their own, and my moh paid her own. I got their dresses, necklace/ear rings and tiara.

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    • FayeJ67
      CommentAuthorFayeJ67
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
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    I'm paying for dresses and hair.

    My bridemaids are buying thier own shoes (with a specification from me that they should be silver and comfy).
    My 2 juniors/flowergirls do not need any makeup beyond some lip gloss!
    My adult bridesmaid would kill me if I made her get a proffessional manicure/nails as she can do a far better job than most nail technicians and far more arty.

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    • Myranny
      CommentAuthorMyranny
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 14th 2016
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    I've got 3 bridesmaids and I'm paying for their dresses, makeup and hair because that's what I'm "dictating" to them. They got a bit of a say obviously and I've asked what they were comfy in and stuff but I had final say and so was for me to pay.

    I'm not paying for them to have a trial though. When the bridesmaids dresses arrive we're having a day in with tea and cake and we're going to play around with some YouTube tutorials. Between us we have a tonne of makeup and hair accessories and shoes and so we're going to practice a bit and take photos once we find what we all like and will just show they to the hair and makeup artists respectively. Plus it's another fun girly day for us.

    I've mentioned getting nails done, but more in a girly friendly, shall we go get our nails done sort of way and they've all said yes but they'll be paying for that themselves because they can have whatever they want, and they'll be paying for their shoes because the dresses are floor length so I genuinely don't care if they're in converse. Lol. xx
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2016
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    I think that if you want them to have their hair, makeup and nails professionally done then you should pay. If you aren't fussed about it then it's up to them if they do or not as they are paying. In my opinion anything that you want particular for bridesmaids or groomsmen should be paid for by the wedding couple.

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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2016
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    I think you should pay for the dress and any clothing accessories such as a stole/ muff etc as a minimum. We are going away to get married so not having any BMs but I would have saved and paid for hair and makeup too. I think that's part of the whole morning girls getting ready and pampered together.
    Agree with all the above that if there's something specific then you should pay for it, and if you are not too bothered is shoes, jewellery then they can wear their own.
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    • MrsEmmaP
      CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2016
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    I paid for their dresses, jewellery etc and they are paying for their shoes, hair and make up. I was going to pay for their hair and make up but their mum's all offered to pay so that helped us out a lot.

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2016
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    I think as a general rule anything that you insist on you should pay for. I paid for the dresses and stoles, and for necklaces. With hair they all had such different styles that they weren't going to match anyway, so I said that I was paying for mine to be done, and if they wanted there's done by the same people they could but they would have to pay. They were all quite happy to do their own. The same went for makeup, particularly as I only wanted a natural look. With shoes I let them choose their own, as the dresses were long enough that no one was going to notice footwear, and I was more concerned that they were all comfortable and in shoes that they were happy with. I think they all wore shoes that they already had. I was once asked to wear quite tall heals as a bridesmaid and I was terrified of the walk down the aisle, as I always wear flats.

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    • KirstyR386
      CommentAuthorKirstyR386
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 15th 2016
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    We are paying for dresses and shawls but the girls are doing their own shoes. All I said for shoes was silver heels so they can wear something they already own if they want or buy new. We are also paying for hair but the girls are doing their own make up or I said they could ask the MUA to do it but would have to pay which they are fine with.
    We have jewellery as their thank you gifts which I will give them in the morning so they can wear on the day. X
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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jan 16th 2016
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    I am seriously considering making (!) our BM dresses and will pay for shoes and such probably. My friend who is a hairdresser will be doing our hair and I'm still deciding on a makeup artist or not. Neither me nor my two adult BMs are girly girls so I'd like to treat us all, and my three teenage BMs would find it thrilling. I'd like to cover as much as possible if the budget stretches.




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    • VikkiH53
      CommentAuthorVikkiH53
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 18th 2016
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    Myself and H2B have agreed that we don't want our bridal part to be out of pocket just because we want them as bridesmaids/best man etc. We are therefore paying for dresses/suits and shoes. With my bridesmaids as I don't mind how they have their hair they can either do their own or as I'm hoping to get my hairdresser to do mine (reminder to self must ask him!) then they can pay for theirs to be done, or do their own.

    I don't think I'm paying for a professional make up artist as I never wear make up and at my sisters and best friends weddings in 2013 we did our own and it looked fine.

    Also paying for the fathers suits although we've fallen in love with some but it will cost almost £700 to hire so we're having to rethink.
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    • MrsThomson2B
      CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 19th 2016
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    I am paying for dresses and giving them money towards shoes. accessories willbe gifts, i am paying for hair and make up however if they want trials they will need to pay for that themselves. xx
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    • Baker2Be
      CommentAuthorBaker2Be
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 21st 2016
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    I have 3 bridesmaids. I am paying for the dresses and I have asked them if they want to have there hair and make-up down on the day then its £50 each which they will pay for. Accessories will be gift. (I gave bracelets with bridesmaid charm when I asked them)

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    • LornaB75
      CommentAuthorLornaB75
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jan 24th 2016
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    the only thing i am paying for is dresses. if they want their hair/makeup/nails done and if they want jewellery they can pay for it themself as i dont actually need them to have it dont so its up to them.
 
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