H2B just phoned to say him and his mother are going to hand in the forms to the registry office tomorrow. I was looking forward to doing this just me and him but she always stick her orr in. She runs him everywhere. I thought this would be a special thing for us to do and I am really upset he is going to do it tomorrow. He is off a wednesday and I am off mon or fridays so its awkward to get a day off together but he can change his days off quite easily.
Im so fed up that she ALWAYS has to be involved......grrrrr. Am I overeacting? I feel genuinely upset, I was so excited about my shoes and sweety jars and all that stuff last night and he just wasnt interested :-(
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CommentAuthorAntonia9
i dont think your out of order - i think they are out of order! i wouldnt be happy hun, speak to him and tell him that your upset! x
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
really? he seems to think its just a case of handing in forms but giving notice means more than that to me. He is working to 9pm tonight so I wont even get much of chance to speak to him :-(
sometimes his mother really gets on my t1ts
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CommentAuthorAntonia9
mothers can be busy bodies! id be fuming hun, giving notice is important xx
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CommentAuthorweemindyxx
ohhhhhhhhh MG that would realy get on my nerves thank god i dont have that problem yeah i would try n speak to him about it if i was you.xxxx
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Maybe mention to him it upset you so the air is cleared as important to talk and he knows his mother annoys you but i dont see the issue, isnt it just handing some forms in? I would see it as saving you the hassle of doing it?!
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CommentAuthorSaraC1
maybe he doesnt realise it means sooo much to u?? some men dont seem to notice anything to be honest
CommentAuthorValerieM74
I dont think men look into things as much as we do when it comes to weddings. I would be upset by this too. I still have to hand ours but just waiting on h2b filling out his form then a getting a day to do it together. But I would defo be talking to him to let him know how u feel xx
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Its giving notice and picking up the marriage certificate. I had the day all planned out in my head because we have to hand in notice at the town near our venue which is really pretty. So I was gunna look for good photo places and then to a wee cafe afterwards. Its like a big event for me giving notice cos youre meant to do it together :-(
I think I am a bit sensitive today because I got my shoes yesterday and I was so excited and H2B was like "im a man, im not into shoes" and then I was asking him about decor and he was sayin "whats the point in asking me about gingham ribbon" I know he'd had a bad day yesterday but he isnt usually like that and I am so happy atm and so excited that its makin me a bit deflated.
I said to him that I wanted to hand in the forms with him and he was just saying well we need to swap our days off then! As if it was a big deal. We can swap when we want :-(
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CommentAuthorFuture Brookes :)
Yeah tell him what your feeling. Its yours and his weddidng! x x
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I thought you HAD to give notice together?
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CommentAuthorClareS
I'd have a word with him and tell him how important this bit is to you and you wanted to do it together, just the two of you xas already mentioned he may just be wanting to save you a job and not realised how much it means to you x
CommentAuthorClareS
Are you actually giving notice or simply handing some forms in instead of posting them? if so then the registrar will need to speak to you both, although they will ask you some questions whilst the other one is out of the room x
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
I would have a word with him, i also think you need to be there too, can you not find out what time hes going and get an hour off work xx
CommentAuthorCaitlinD
Awk that's horrible :( I would be really upset too - I would put my foot down and make him go just him and I x
CommentAuthorMrs S
i wouldnt be happy ether hun, tell him how upset you are, men dont think these things matter to us, but you ned to tell him xx
CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I would not be impressed at all!! But if you do not say anything to your H2B about it he is not going to know how you feel and then it will build and build in you and then you will blow your top! I have been there and done it! you need to speak to him and tell him exactly how you feel! xx
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CommentAuthorJacs
Did you post your banns at church? If not you BOTH HAVE to be there, giving notice is not just handing the forms in they have to ask you BOTH questions - infact it's a kind of interrogaton/grilling to see if you really know each other (after eleven years my h2b could not remember my middle name without prompting from our daughter but he did remember my birth date - shame I never get a present on the day!!!! Enough of my ranting!!!) So unless your h2b intends on marrying your mil2b I think they had better rethink their plans to include you! I really enjoyed the experience it made my forthcoming marriage seem more real and also I think you need need to wait about 14 days before they issue the certificate. If you want to be nice ask your mil2b to come along but make it clear she cannot take your place. Men aye, who would have em.....................er us!!!!!!
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
See I thought that we had to go together too, I am not really sure if its different in Scotland, I spoke to him last night and apparently his mother phoned the registry office and they said the stuff had to be handed in THIS week. But I think she is lying because they told me 15 day before the ceremony at the latest. So we still have 8 weeks to go so surely we have plenty of time. I cant phone them whilst Im at work which is annoying :-(
I told him yesterday that it was something I was looking forward to and he apologised and said he thought we had to do it this week. We made up and everythings good, so he isnt going today - we are going together next week :-)
We are having a humanist ceremony but all I know is we need to go to the registry office with the forms and our birth certificates, I thought we both have to be there too....I'll need to get my mum to phone them lol.
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CommentAuthormrsheavey2b
i dont think your over reacting hun i would b the same its some thing you would like to do together i get that hun i wouldnt like it if my h2b went and did it for me with his mother i would b upset as well xx hope you got it sorted tho xxxxx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Both my H2B and myself have to be there together when we hand in ours, otherwise it won't get done.
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CommentAuthorGlitterpix
we did ours this week, they told us its 15 days before the wedding that the notice has to be up, so technically the last day to do it is the 16th day before, and we had problems with my id so he gave notice one day, and me a month after.. but we had to both be present at both times for questioning on our relationship xx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Most places want the bride and groom together as they ask you both questions to make sure the wedding is REAL ie not for a gree card etc lol As much as she wants to go for you she wont be able to do this for you as shes not now nor will she ever be the bride so if they did go you would still have to go back to do this part of the process!
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