Hi there I'd really like some thoughts on private wedding ceremonies. My boyfriend and I have recently decided to get married and we would like to have a private ceremony with just our two sets of parents there with a big party/reception afterwards. We don't want to upset anyone but we aren't the kind of people that love being centre of attention especially with something so personal. My boyfriend is concerned that people might think this is weird! Even though its what we both want. So I'd love to be able to show him that lots of people do this and it can work really well to boost his confidence. Any thoughts you have would be so helpful. Many thanks. I look forward to reading them. J x
CommentAuthorEmily17
That sounds lovely. A small intimate wedding with the people who you love the most and then a massive celebration afterwards. Brilliant xx
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CommentAuthorMichelleC961
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Have you thought about a registry office close family wedding and then a blessing in front ofveveryone- that way you can still wear your dress for evening and they can still see you and then have a big party
Or go away somewhere just close family and then have big party
Lots of people are scared of being in the limelight, me included but OH and I are concurring our fears and having a big wedding
At the end of the day it's abiut what makes you both happy
CommentAuthorJoanneH843
Thank you both for your kind words x
CommentAuthorMrsC2Be
i think its a lovely idea and that people will be honoured to be invited to the big do afterwards. Its really personal and intimate and something that just you and both your parents can share forever :) xx
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I think it sounds lovely. Lots of people have small intimate ceremonies followed by a bigger party afterwards. Don't worry about what others think, it's your wedding not anyone else's. Have things how you both want it xxx
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CommentAuthorWundatigga
We're having what is considered a smallish ceremony (only 30 people - mostly OH's family) and then having a bigger party a few days later.
I'd have loved a small "elope" style wedding but OH wanted to keep his family happy and include them all as ours is the first wedding in the family for a long time.
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CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
That's what I'm doing! Just me, him, his parents and his sister. That's it. A wedding doesn't have to have loads of people to be special. It's your day, so do it your way!
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I don't think it's weird at all, I think it sounds lovely!
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CommentAuthorStaceyH989
It most definitely isn't weird and is done more than you think, not everyone does want to have a big ceremony and it will make the day more special for you and your parents.
I agree with Flossie have the official ceremony in a registry office and then have a blessing in front of everyone else if you wanted them to be included that way it can be done by a family member but isn't the official ceremony.
It sounds like a really lovely idea and its brilliant that it is something you both want to do xx
CommentAuthorJoanneH843
Thanks all for your comments, its nice to hear your thoughts. Very much appreciated x
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Definitely not weird. I had a friend who wanted to slip in through a side door rather than walking down the aisle. She definitely wanted a church service though and wanted our choir to sing, so small and intimate was never going to happen.
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