I just wanted to know your opinions on 'save the dates'
Originally I wasn't going to send any out, and just send the invitations closer to the date....but I have a spiteful family member, who has given me an inkling, or hint, that she may be booking her wedding for the same date as mine but one year before....just because I haven't booked the venue yet. But she knows that's my date!! And she knows the important reasons behond my date! I don't want to sounds petty....but it has really hurt that she would even consider doind this, especially as my wedding date was known before she was even engaged...
Am I overreacting here to say that I now want to send save the date's out for my wedding in 2012? To make sure that my date is mine... Do you guys think it is way too early, or will just be seen as organised?
Just wanted some opinions that's all....
Thanks!
CommentAuthorcasbride87
I would book the venue first before sending out save the dates, just so you know its set in stone, you could send out a save the date email now its never too early.
CommentAuthordizzydora4
i would send them out now hun as its so important to you. If she is not an immediate family member then i would not tell her any other details until its finalized x x
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I'm getting married on my cousins first anniversary. We booked our dates totally independently the same weekend- and didn't find out until a few weeks later. We only have a few guests- 12 including us- in common- and while people are aware, no one has associated the two together.
However, if you think it will be an issue- book your venue. Then your date is set in stone.
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CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
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Hey,
She is my cousin...who I have grown up with like a sister so the problem is almost all of our guests will be in common (at least all of our side of the family). It wouldnt be so bad if it is anyone else. It's just I know what she is like, if it was on her 1 yr anniversary then she would be trying to take the attention off me and my fiance....and although I dont want to sound selfish, it is our big day not hers!
If I am honest, it is typical her....and a couple of family members have actually approached me with the same thoughts that she may do this.....she always said (as pathetic as this is) that there is no way she'd ever let her baby cousin get married before her - and then funnily enough when I got engaged, 2 weeks later she was engaged to her boyf of 2 months....which would be fine if they were happy and defo wanted that, but apparently she talked him into it, it wasnt even on the cards.
I think I will send them out, because the date is definate (it is a case of if the date isnt available at a venue, then we choose another one!)
Thanks so much guys, just needed to get opinions I think.
If the date is definate I would send them out - I cant beleve ur cousin got engaged so quick after you tho x
Maisie Moo Moo
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
how annoying of her
i think i would send out the cards as well
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CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
It's the story of my life with her. I don't mind she's engaged, hell, if it was what they both wanted then it'd be wonderful news! But it was simply because I did, and she had to marry first. It's bizzare.
x
CommentAuthorclaire1984
sound like the poor chap was forced into asking her lol :-) x
Maisie Moo Moo
CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
haha, yes. And duped into having her baby...which she 'planned' but told him was an accident. When he already has 2 little boys he tries his hardest, but struggles to support. I feel for him, he's such a genuinly nice guy. I don't know, I love her no matter what because she is my cousin...but sometimes I dispare! *sigh* Never mind, it's too nice outside today for me to keep worrying! lol Just get the save the dates made and sent :) Something exctiting for me to do on this lovely sunny hot day!!
Hope you ladies are well :D
x
CommentAuthorclaire1984
yes enjoy the weather, and send them save the dates out :) x
Maisie Moo Moo
CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
hehe, you enjoy the weather too! I am gunna have to add an album for my save the dates I think....may need opinions on which ones to pick! I get carried away when I make things and I am bound to have loads of designs lol x
CommentAuthorclaire1984
i wish i was that creative :-) im out soaking up the sun as we speak x
Maisie Moo Moo
CommentAuthorCherryCoke_x
hehe, I am inside enjoying it with french doors open.....I burn sooo easy if I sit in it lol :) x
CommentAuthorLisa"n"Iain
i personally wouldnt send any out as i think its too soon but what i would do is book the venue and tell family and friends so they know the date!!
CommentAuthorlillylou
Your cousin sounds absolutely pathetic goading a man to marry her after 2 months- she clearly doesn't know the meaning of marriage. Maybe you should talk to her to prevent her entering an unhappy relationship, as well as sorting out the dates, you can make it subtle at first maybe and if you are like sisters maybe it'll all come out. Hope it works out! x
CommentAuthorCeCe
I wouldnt be sending out STD's 27 months before the wedding...they are likely to be forgotten.
CommentAuthor~* Jen *~
I agree with CeCe, a bit too early. I would let family know, and get them to write it somewhere in like a diary, or on a calender that they will rewrite until the date, but not quite cards and stuff yet. xxx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Just make sure all ur main guests know ur date is set in stone, and if she does get married before u then at least u can make sure ur wedding is 100000 times better than hers lol! xx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorEriksfjord
I think I would just send out the date to the people you know you will def want - as you may change your mind closer to the time! I think maybe you might need to consider magnets or something people won't lose if you want to send out save the dates now. I think I would just email/write to the relevant people and then send save the dates when you have the venue confirmed. Also you never know your cousin may not make it to her date - it does sound a little hurried!!!!
CommentAuthorKirsty
I would send them out too I have just handed out my first couple of cards today :-) xx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
what a cow bag !!!! theres always some people that need to go one over and think they are the best and must have..she sounds v.spoilt by sounds of things
do what u and h2b want..not wot anyone else wants and it proves that by already havin a few family members approaching you about it then ur not the only ones that think that about her so wouldnt worry xx
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CommentAuthorCeCe
Will sending out your STD's 'claim' that date as 'yours' and prevent her from having the date anyhooooooooo..sadly, I would think not hun x
