Wedding Forum - Anyone tired being told what to do...

about inviting people. Im so tired of people telling uswhat to do i have just drummed it into my mam she is not inviting anyone else then my aunt starts on me and now H2B grandad. We got an email yesterday saying we can't just invite one brother and his wife who were the only one that really had anything to do with us as it wouldn't be fair and instead of asking would you think about inviting the rest its you will have to invite them which ****** me off big time and if we were to invite them we would have to invite people from other side that we left out and then if mam found out she would kick off as she wants her mate invited but we said no as she came to our house and turned around and told me you are not getting married and im telling you now that you wont be. Its not that money is the problem as H2B parents have kindly offered to pay for the wedding its just seems like everybody has forgotten that this day is about H2B and myself and it should be who we choose to celebrate with us nobody else. Im so tired off it i even cried last night silly i know but im fed up.

Sorry for it being so long
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Please try and not let it get to u chick!
Its soooo annoying but at the end of the day u are the one with the invites so they call them u who to invite until their blue in the face but it doesnt mean ur going to listen!
My MIL is like that "oh can u bring this ex, oh can u bring this ex" errrrrrrrrr no love we cannot!!!!!
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I've kind of had the whole.. well you can't invite this person and not that person thing and my wedding is like a million years away! (ok slight exageration but.... thats what it feels like lol). But don't let it get to you hunni, you invite who you want to be there, don't invite people just to please others. Its Your special day with your husband to be, therefore things should be your way nobody elses. xx

Hey girls thanks for the advice. My day has been getting worse as it went on. Had mam moan at me again today saying that if so n so don't go i am bringing Carrie(her friend i told you about) told her she isn't as trying cut cost down so whoever not going will not be replaced then i went to my bank as i had no money in the account and it was meant go in yesterday guess what it was wiped out somehow somebody scammed my card so as well as having ppl on my back i actually have no money.
Hails i luv the response from your mam wish mine was like that.
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Tell me about it everything from the start was just wrong about this wedding according to people esp my parents taughtit would get easier but it doesn't. Next it be the sitting plan which im getting orders about so going keep that a secret til the wedding day.
The past 2mnths have been doing my head in.
We nearly lost our son to a severe allergic reaction his head looked like it been kicked a few times wit how swollen it was the ambulance gt delayed by 1 hr and then hav an emergency doc telling me he has lost patients to less severe reactions then this and it turns out he allergic to viral infections.

Then he started speech therapy and at his assessment we were told that he has severe dyspraxia and also think he has a attention disorder told me that he will not be able go to mainstreem school and willneed help for the rest off his life whichi think is **** as he doing very well now they kept going on and on about it so i was in tears by time i was leaving.

Then our daughter got really sick

Then mam and dad had a fight with me as wouldn't get loan out for them.
The worse thing about the money is after we have paid the bills this week H2B has nothing left either and its oursons birthday next week which is what some the money got taken was for how can youtell a 4yr old that he isn't getting a present from his mam dad and sister.
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sabs i'm dyspraxic, if you want any suggestions of the things my parents and i did when i was a child which really helped let me know. us dsypraxics have quite short attention spans as we find it hard to organise our thoughts, so we tend to flit from one thing to another. xx

Hey sabs, seems like you are having a little run of bad luck, it will be OK though, don't let the invites stuff get to you, as long as your kids are there it doesn't really matter who else is there, if you really don't want Ur mums friend there just tell her to stop going on about it, you have said no and you would appreciate it if she was there for you and your family instead of going on about something that really doesn't matter, put ur foot down with the grandad too, explain to him that you respect his view on the matter but you don't see why you should share the most important day of your life with people you don't see or get on with. you should go to ur bank about the scammed card, they should give you all the money back and they should chase after who it was after. big hugs xxx

thanks angeleyes,
went to the bank they cant tell me when i b able to get the money back im really hoping that its before next week. It seems like our wedding day is turning intoa circus and people have forgotten who it is actually about and what its about. This is where H2B and me differ i can put my foot down to whichever side of the family but H2B can only put his down with my side or to be more precise my mam.
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Sent FIL 2 b an email last night telling him exactly how i feelabout the wedding now and he sentme a back a very short reply that left me in tears for the night. I just want to call it off its suppose to be fun and your suppose to enjoy planning it knowing you be spending the rest off your life with the one that you love but im not its just one thing after another.
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