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General wedding discussion!: is it too soon??

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- CommentAuthormoodypryor2
would appreciate ppls opinions on this as my brother is makin me feel really bad about gettin wed, the thing is we lost our mum in jan, totally unexpected and awul, was found dead in a flat near where i live, anyway my brother thinks that as im gettin on with things it means i dont care and im not bothered by it all, i have tried to explain that unlike him im not gonna use it as an excuse to become a drunk and i shall concentrate on other things to keep my mind busy, its startin to upset me now though, my h2b says just ignore him, and that mum knew we where gettin married this year and was happy i finally found a good guy,in fact the last conversation i had with her she said "keep hold of that one",
- CommentAuthorlemondrops
- CommentAuthorSuz80
I don't think its too soon hun. I agree with lemondrops about your brother. It also sounds that you had your mum's blessing so go with your plans and just think of her smiling down on you both. xx
- CommentAuthorNicci
No i think your brother is being extremally cruel. We all deal with a loss in different ways. I think its important you go ahead and enjoy your day ,i understand completely it will be hard but you need to keep going-would there ever be a "right" time in your brothers eyes?

Im really sorry for your loss x
- CommentAuthorVida
My condolences. I think when it come to the healing of the heart it is a very personal matter. For you, life has to go on and that's how it should be, you'r still keeping you mum in mind and you and your H2B being together was actually her wish, and that's great. Think your bro on the other hand might be strugglin a bit more to cope with the situation... I do hope ur big day wbrings the 2 of u closer toether and even helps him gettin thru this har time. Turnin agains each other (however easier to do) may not be the best thing to do :) Sorry if i seem opinionated..just my view. Hope he changes his mindset and gives u the support u need for your wedding.

- CommentAuthormoodypryor2
thats ok i appreciate everyones opinions, i know he is findin it alot harder as he spent alot of time with mum, regretably i never spent enough, but if all this has taught me anythin, its that lifes too short so be happy while you can, i have not risen to anythin my bro has said, i have told him over and over that im here for him and h2b has told him if he ever needs a man 2 talk 2 he is here too
- CommentAuthorginge23
I dont think its to soon as the others have said your mum would want you to move on and as hard as it will be on the day for yous all its what your mum would want. Life is to short. My Gran passed away 6 years ago this year in the June and my sister got married in the August (we were very close to Gran) yes it was hard and we all had tears on the day but she would defo not have wanted my sister to cancel her big day. xx
- CommentAuthorNicci
Its awful losing someone so close (ive lost my mam and dad) and i think the worst thing is seeing how people fall apart. I have to admit i was like your brother-my life stopped and its only now ive finally learned to move on as i need to build a life for myself and my family :) DO NOT feel guilty about getting on with your life as your right-Life is no dress rehersal x
- CommentAuthorclaire1984
Its not to soon at all, im sure its what ur mom would want - ur brother should be supporting you not saying such cruel things x

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- CommentAuthoreebeegeebee
It isn't too soon, and from the sounds of it your mother would have wanted you to get married anyway. You can still grieve even if you are celebrating a happier event...such is the complexity of sadness.
However before getting too angry or discouraged with your brother, remember that he may just be dealing with his grief differently...family members frequently turn on eachother in the wake of someone's death. If you show him that you are devastated too, but are dealing with it in your own way, perhaps he will be more understanding...but if not, I am sure he will not be upset with you forever. As the pain heals he may be able to see through it and understand why you would still want to have your wedding now.
Good luck though, and so sorry about your mom :(
- CommentAuthorLedZepLover
I don't think its too soon, as long as it feels right for you and your h2b. I'm sure your mum would be so pleased that you are going ahead with the wedding and I'm sure your mum will be on everyones mind as they think how pride she would be of you. Maybe your brother is just feeling a bit jealous, what with you coping seemingly better then he is? Whatever his problem deep down he must be happy for you both x x x
- CommentAuthorEriksfjord
I am sure your Mum would've wanted you to go ahead. I don't think it is too soon and although your brother is dealing with his grief in a different way this may be because you have the wedding to focus on so that is a good thing. Your Mum doesn't sound like someone who would have wanted you to be sad - she wanted you to be happy.
Your brother will come to see this in his own time. Best of Luck xx

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