What are you doing with people who dont RSVP but show up anyway? I really hate having to badger people about their RSVP, to be honest the only people who arent bothered about giving them back are his side of the family/friendship so its like getting blood out of a stone when I ask OH to chase them up. My friend recently made badges of shame and although it was funny I dont have the bottle to make them myself.
So my question is, our venue is a pay upfront thing, basically we need numbers so we can cater for everyone... btu what about the people who dont bother to RSVP? Do we assume they arent coming and pay for those who have RSVP'd or assume they are coming and pay for them anyway so we have enough food for everyone.
Met 2004
Engaged 2014
Getting Married 2016
CommentAuthorEmily17
If they haven't RSVPd even if you have chased then I would assume not coming. They know to tell you, especially as you have chased them so no excuse.
Met in 2009
He proposed Jan 2014
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CommentAuthorLeanneR0186
If they have been chased and still noting I would assume they aren't coming. I think its so rude of anyone who didn't rsvp to the day event to just show up, lots of planning goes into table plans etc never mind the food. I suppose if it's an extra couple to the evening reception its not the end of the world xx
The Richardson's 31/12/16
CommentAuthorNicoleW665
i know i won't be paying for people that don't RSVP, i don't see why I should lose out on cash cos they are lazy :')
When we met: August 2009
When we announced engagement: December 2015
When we will get married: September 2017
CommentAuthorNicolaB7220
We asked people who didn't RSVP in time and thankfully they all did when chased. Had they not RSVP'd after we'd chased them, we would assume they weren't coming and not accounted for them.
Thanks ladies. Were meeting our wedding coordinator at the end of July and we have to have a list. And although it seems like a while away i know it will come around auper fast.
Met 2004
Engaged 2014
Getting Married 2016
CommentAuthorStephH96
I will be assuming any one who doesn't bother to rsvp will not be coming. You don't need to fork out cash for people who cant send a simple message. If they turn up then tough if there's no food they should have replied!
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Chase everyone. Then after that they just don't have a place. We only had a couple who didn't rsvp, they basically were assumed as not coming so we didn't pay for a meal and if they did turn up they would basically have been turned away.
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CommentAuthorAnikaM60
I would assume theyre not coming as well. Otherwise you might end up out of pocket catering for people who dont show
CommentAuthorDanielleG93
Luckily I'm having a vintage style wedding (like a garden party sorta thing) so if people turn up to mine anyway their should be extras for them to eat but if it was a sit down meal then i would assume after not R.V.S.P and then being chased up and still not answering that they would not be coming to the wedding and wouldn't book or pay for them to have any food. If they turn up it's just tough luck.
