I'm new to the website and planning! We're just beginning planning our wedding and working out the guestlist. How have you all worked out plus ones? Do I have to allow people to have plus ones or do I only invite them? We don't have the biggest budget and I don't want to actually have people I don't know there but I'm not sure if it's the "done thing" to invite someone and have them come by themselves.
Thanks in advance
CommentAuthorFlossie
Don't invite them if you don't want them there! Luckily for us most of our family are already coupled up and a part of the family, so plus ones aren't really an issue for us... I wouldn't want people I hardly know at my wedding though and would save plus ones for the evening only. I would generally only give plus ones to close family or friends who have been with their partners for a long time - i.e. it's a serious relationship. If your budget won't stretch that far then just say that if anyone has a problem with it xx
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
If you don't know their partner or they don't have one then just invite them. We are only inviting people we know and only people who will get plus ones will be a friend or two who won't know anyone else who's there but tbh they'll be at the night I think. Maybe write a list of everyone you know that ur inviting and see what your numbers are before deciding on plus ones. If we invite friends with partners they'll have their names on the invites rather than plus ones but obviously if they split we'll tell them they can bring a plus one instead but only if they have already been dedicated a place x
CommentAuthorT-Nicole
It's stressful! We've come up with the plan that they can have a plus one if they are in a long term relationship if not then no plus one otherwise it all starts to add up. Good luck!
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
Were doing exactly the same - if their long term partners and their invited to the wedding we've already more then likely met them and know them well enough, one of my BM's however has asked if she can have a space for her plus + (I need to stress that at this moment in time she is currently single!) so yeah... haha! most plus 1's will be invited to the evening only I cannot justify it otherwise and theres family/friends that are more important then a potential partner !! xx
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If you don't have a big budget just invite those who are in long term relationships and close friends partners as it soon mount up good luck
CommentAuthorEmily17
We have taken it as if its a long term relationship then they should be invited whether we know the +1 or not.
for example, my cousin down south, rarely see her (once every 2 years I'd say) but speak often so want her there. we have also invited her fiancé despite us not knowing him.
Other cousin a lot more local, see often and her boyfriend of 2 months but he's not on the list at the moment unless they stay together. if they are still together when we send out invites will include him.
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
We only invited people who we wanted there and only invited their partners if they were engaged or had been with them for 6 months or more x
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CommentAuthorLadyJ
we inviting most of them with plus one, but at the same time I know many of those most likely will come alone.
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Engaged 3.09.2014
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
We just invited the person, most were a couple anyhoo, but the girls from uni just came on their own. No way I could have invited plus ones anyway with the numbers.
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CommentAuthorMelty Cat
I'm only allowing plus ones to people who are married, or are in long term relationships/have kids together. There's no point in having people you don't want/know bumping up the price.
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
we are inviting plus ones if they are in long term relationships, living together etc. also i tried to think how would i feel if i got invited to a wedding without my other half. only exception if inviting a group of people from work etc dont need to ask plus ones as they can come in a group anyway x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
We applied the following criteria to determine if someone got a plus one invite:
Had to not know any other guests so would feel uncomfortable being alone at the wedding with no one really to talk to.
If they did know other guests but was in a relationship for over 1 year then the partner would be included on the invite, they couldn't be substituted for someone else though.
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CommentAuthorGemmaB596
We have only done plus ones for a couple of people who would not know anybody else at the wedding. Other than that, we are only inviting partners if we know them. I don't see the point in inviting somebody who I have never met just because I know their partner. My OH has been invited to a friends wedding in the past, and I wasn't because I had never met the people getting married. I wasn't bothered in the slightest - in fact, I was relieved I didn't have to go. Weddings are a very personal and momentous moment in a couple's life together, and I would feel so awkward being there watching it between two people I have never met!
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
The rule we have set is that if we haven't met them they must be in a long term relationship and/or living together. If we do know them they must still have been together at least 6 months. As a result only 1 person is coming during the day that we haven't met before and that's my OHs cousins boyfriend.
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