Just out of wondering, any of you ladies who have or are planning on having your ceremony done a venue with a registrar, rather than a church wedding. Did any of you have those special ceremonies, the sand, candle and whatever else they were? We're going to have a candle ceremony as it sounds so romantic and gives us a chance to include both of our mams in a different way (they'll be the ones lighting the candles) We're also not sure whether to do our own vows or not, I like the idea as its personal, but at the same time we're both fairly shy so worrying we might freeze lol
CommentAuthorKayleighS46
Didnt want to read and run but sorry i have no idea - I cant even mention what I need to do as I cant even meet with the registrar untill 12 months before the wedding so i'm having to wait until next May lol! Were getting married in a Hotel and I wish I had more information about whats going to happen etc lol xx
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CommentAuthorSydnieH
We had that Kayleigh, hated having to wait. The registrar we met with to give notice was awful and made it feel like such a crap day. But the pack they give you has a good amount of detail in. The candle ceremony is basically where you have 3 candles, 2 of them represent your life as individuals and then the 3rd is your life together. " people close to you light the 2 of them and then at the end you light the 3rd one together and have the option to blow the other 2 out but we're leaving them lit to represent the fact we're still individuals and respect that about each other. The sand one was similar with 2 different colours of sand or something along those lines
CommentAuthorKayleighS46
Aww that candle one sounds so lush - makes it very intimate as well! Also love the fact that 2 other people light the candles, its going to make them more involved too! I'm really eager to see what the costs will be - apparently at the moment in my region its £500 plus for us to get married lol!! I need to budget for it haha - do you know what happens with the vows etc - like is there some options we can pick from? i dont want to write our own but wondered if there were any diffeent versions lol xx
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Will Be Mrs Brookes 2016
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CommentAuthorJennK
It varies quite a lot by area, we have standard lines we have to say, then options and suggestions for other bits. We have a form to send back at least 8 weeks before the wedding, and the registrar will phone us a few days before to go through our options :)
We're getting married in a castle and the registrar comes to us too. I remember reading about it briefly in the ceremony choice booklet where you choose your vows and everything. Sorry I can't really help as I don't really remember much about it as it was only a little bit about the candle ceremony. I think we decided against it because we weren't really sure and it seemed a bit random
I think having a candle ceremony would already make it more personal without needing to say your own vows, however it's untimately up to you. We have chosen from the optional vows to makes ours a bit more personal without the stress and nerves of writing our own.
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorSydnieH
There are options for different things you can say and different wording but can say your own vows. I think you're right about the candles making it more personal alone so probably go with the vows that are already wrote. Ours is £400 for our registrar in this area.
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
We could of had our own vows had we wanted to and also had we known about it, so we just went for the normal ones. When you give notice, or some time prior to the wedding, ask the registrar about the vows to see if you can have your own. It was on the day for us they asked if we were happy with the usual ones or had something different, we has not been told about this even though we should have,
