We thought we'd make it easier if we didn't have a table plan and just let everyone sit where they wanted - apart from one table in the middle where we'll sit. We can't work out who else should be on it and I would really like some help! These are my problems:
My mum and dad are divorced and mum remarried. They kind of get on and would probably be ok on the same table. I can't stand my mum's new husband so don't want him anywhere near me. My mum and sister really don't get on and will probably end up fighting if on the same table. I don't want to separate bridesmaids from their boyfriends, or mum and dad, depending on their ages.
Sean doesn't see his dad so it'll just be his mum. We both have a sister and a brother each. I'd like my auntie who is my witness to be on the table if possible and she doesn't have a partner.
Each table seats 10
CommentAuthorCeCe
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OK..I will have a think....lol tis like a bloomin brain teaser!
CommentAuthorauntiewoo
Why don't you just have the two of you? x
CommentAuthorGoff
Could you have 2 tables? One for those who get on and one for those who dont get on with the ones sat on the first table - if that makes sense lol?
Although if they have any kind of respect for you honey they should behave themselves and put their differrences aside for the day x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthorCeCe
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Table 1:
Bride Groom Bride Mum Bride Dad Groom mum Groom brother Witness Auntie Chief BM CBM partner Best friend ??
apparently, yeah the good book, the traditional line up for a top table is and i quote 'It is traditionally a long table with seats down one side, facing out to the rest of the guests. The bride and groom sit in the center of the table with the groom to the right side of the bride. To the bride's left, the remaining order is bride's father, groom's mother and then best man. To the groom's right are the bride's mother, groom's father and then maid of honor. The dates or spouses of the best man and maid of honor are not seated at the head table.' i am going with this (and my MIL agrees with me which is the only thing so far :)) and it works, that way your mum and dad are apart - i have the same problem with them both having new partners (who will be seated amongst the common folk - mum's new hub next to my mum's mum and my dad's gf next to his sister - happy families), but getting on okish (until mum has a drink so someone is on mum's glass duty) you could sub the groom's dad for your aunt. if your bestman and chief bridesmaid's partners meet before hand they may be happy with a buddy system until the wedding breakfast is over - mine are both single so i'm a happy bunny - though they do have two years to not be single :) hope that helps hun, with me i am saying 'that's tradition' sorry folks, as my excuse for everything :)
CommentAuthornewmrshartley
also hun, everything i have read on tables, and i read a lot :) says the same . . . Though it may seem like a daunting task, particularly if you are having a large wedding, creating your seating plan is relatively simple with a little forethought. Though you might be tempted to allow your guests to sit wherever they like without a seating plan, that's generally a bad idea. Guests will take longer to get seated, delaying the reception events. People will rush for the good seats and typically it will be very disorganized. So instead, create a seating plan to make things easier on you and your guests.
especially if you have friends and family like mine who if left to their own devices will wonder round like chickens with no heads! x x
CommentAuthorShellster90
Were just having to two of us at our table :)
CommentAuthornewmrshartley
and there is a tool on here to do that! maybe use that to play around with things and see how you like the look of a plan :)
CommentAuthorCeCe
I say FECK what is supposed to happen...these so called 'rules' are out dated and made for nothing less than a 100% perfect family..they are rare.
CLOSE all books on Wedding Etiquette and do what is BEST for YOUR individual wedding party.
ALSO...if folk whom do not 'get on' cannot be civil for one day..then I WILL be seriously telling them to think if they should be in the same room.
CommentAuthor
I like your suggestions and we getting there - thanks - keep them coming though! I like the idea of us sitting on our own table but they've already put in an extra table of 10.
I hadn't thought about Sean's brother taking the place of his dad and including one of the bridesmaids and her partner. Best friend is a good idea as well.
CommentAuthorCeCe
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Glad I could help a bit..I think having Seans bruv at the table gives him an equal family number..
