"Hey folksys, those who haven't rsvp'd to our evening doo as of yet we need to know by 31st march (stated on invite) many thanks! Also can any of the fellas invited to chris's stag get in touch ASAP as things HAVE to be booked by the end of the month... the groomsmen have txtd around! xxxx"
Put as fb status x
Ill marry my hero
CommentAuthorMrsH
I would probably take out the "stated on invite" bit but I think that sounds fine. If there's not many people to chase up (which is highly unlikely as guests are a nightmare!) could you do it via text or face to face? x
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Personally I really dislike FB reminders; someone on my Facebook did this and I don't know, it just really bugged me; I was like, why can't you just speak to those who haven't RSVP'd directly?
So personally, I would call or email those who haven't replied directly, and I'd be fairly blunt and to the point: 'Hi there, our RSVP deadline has now passed, and we haven't received your RSVP, so we just need to know if you're coming'. If they're non-committal/don't give an answer I'd just say 'OK, we'll have to take that as a no then I'm afraid'.
IMO the danger with public announcements like this is it can come off as a bit attention-seeking, not everyone might see it, and you probably still won't get responses from those people so are better off with a direct approach.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I have to agree, can you not just either text or pm the individuals who have not rsvped?
Met June 2009 on my Birthday,Met again July 2009 and got
together, May 2010 Moved in,Jan 2011 got pregnant,
August 2011 Got our own place, 2011 Had our Baby Girl,
Dec 2011 Got engaged, July 2015 Getting married! Yay!
I agree, FB can be useful sometimes, but I agree with the girls above. It is much better face to face or via a phone call. I may write down Barbie's sentence of "OK, we'll have to take that as a no then I'm afraid." as a nice way to stop those who dither. My RSVP deadline is the 16th of April (went out 7th March) and I am waiting on 70 people to RSVP...They have exactly 3 weeks left before I have to start asking them for their reply so I can get final numbers and possibly invite more local people!
CommentAuthorSJJ
I just sent everyone a text saying "Hi <name> Just texting as we haven't received an RSVP from you yet, and we need to know by next Saturday at the latest! I hope you can make it!!xx"
I agree with mrs H, I would take the stated on invite out. I don't think you should have to call everyone to chase--you have enough to do I'm sure! Xx
CommentAuthorSJJ
I'll be completely honest, 75% of the missing RSVPs were 'no's' - why do people assume they don't have to respond if not coming!!! The rest were evening only guests who said "oh do I have to RSVP" - read the invite lol!! B*tch over now haha!!! Xx
CommentAuthorMel D
I sent emails or texts, saying I'm sure it had just slipped their minds, but we needed a reply by (gave them a week) or we would assume that they weren't able to join us.
Got married Sat 28/05/2011
Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
We're planning WELL in advance!!
CommentAuthorFranM76
God aren't people rude!!! Don't you just feel like saying "are you bleeping coming or not!?!?" I simple rsvp isn't rocket science is it. I do agree about not chasing on fb though - I know it kills 2000 birds with one stone but it's very impersonal and seems to suggest that person isn't important enough for a personal message xx
CommentAuthorbarbie86
SJJ: TECHNICALLY no RSVP should be taken as a 'no', and TECHNICALLY it shouldn't be chased up (according to etiquette). So, it's not strictly speaking wrong for people to assume that their non-response will have been taken by the couple as a no.
Of course, that's all well and good, but some people DO plan on coming but don't have the manners or decency to reply within the deadline, meaning that you're left having to chase people up. We need definite answers as we're super limited on space, and plan on bumping people up to the day if we get declines, meaning that if someone who hasn't RSVPd shows up we're screwed; so, I'll have to chase anyone who doesn't reply :-s
