we are getting married at 11.15am and we are wondering whether we need to have an afternoon meal or could we get away with just having a buffet at the evening do???? Opinions please B2'B's...............
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
thinking that most people would have eaten last a breakfast ..it would be a long time to go un ( i presume ) 7 ish for something else to eat ... id be off to the local chippy
That's a really long time to expect your guests not to have food for. It's far too early a start to have anything other than breakfast. You're likely to end up with a lot of grumpy (and quite possibly, pi$$ed!) guests!
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CommentAuthorAnnF53
The guests would be able to go off and do their own thing though and then just get ready for the evening do
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
If you have your wedding that early then you need to feed them in the afternoon too, most people would have eaten at around 9-9.30 to give them time to get ready and get to your wedding so you would be asking for them to go without any food for around 10 hours or more! If you had a 3 or 4pm wedding then that would be different as they wouldn't have to wait very long for the buffet and they would have all had lunch before coming. Also if you are going to do this make sure your guests are aware as I often skip breakfast and if some of yours do too it might be 24 hours since they last ate when you open your buffet! Xx
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have you got guests travelling to your wedding ? what are they going to do where you say "The guests would be able to go off and do their own thing though and then just get ready for the evening do"
just thinking that i travelled last year from my god-daughters wedding if she had done like you my only option would have been to go to my room in the hotel for several hours as there was nothing else about ( would have still been hungry )
That's way too long not to serve food for. If your ceremony is at 11.15am, guests will likely be seated by 11am at the latest. Factoring in travel time and also getting dressed/ready (most people will eat breakfast before getting ready for something like a wedding), most people will probably eat breakfast at around 9am. That means that even if you served your evening buffet at 6pm, people will have gone for 9 hours without anything to eat, which is a long time.
If you can't/don't want to have a sit-down meal, I would move your ceremony to a later time and then go straight into the evening reception.
CommentAuthorFranM76
I've got to say I'd be pretty pi$$ed off if I went to a wedding at that time in a morning and didn't get any food until evening. That's purely the reason why our ceremony is at 17:30 - so we can skip the meal and go straight into an evening do with buffet. Have you got the option to move the time of your ceremony?
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Your guests will be hungry so are likely to expect a meal in the afternoon as well as an evening buffet.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I would say you definatly need to feed people with that big of a break, unless you can move your ceremony to a later time x
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
We had our ceremony at 1.30pm, served canapés at 3pm at the drinks reception, followed by wedding breakfast at 4.30pm and then evening buffet at 9pm, everyone ate! Guests get hungry, especially when drinking.
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I think if you want to skip the meal you should move your ceremony until later.
It's okay saying they can go and do their own thing, but I wouldn't know what to do if I were invited to a wedding like that.
I just mentioned it to my fiancé and he says if he was invited to a wedding like that he'd feel like it wasn't a wedding we'd been invited to and would be tempted to not go to the ceremony. I don't know how I'd dress for the ceremony if I was invited to a wedding like that as I wouldn't want to be sat around ''doing my own thing'' in my glad rags all day.
CommentAuthorRachelE118
I agree with everyone. You can't get married that early and not feed people. I'd be fuming!! We're having afternoon tea and Pimms which everyone likes and keeps the costs down xx
CommentAuthorMegs84
My ceremony is at 12.30pm, and I wouldn't dream of making my guests wait until 8pm for food!! I definitely recommend moving your ceremony to later in the afternoon e.g. 4.30/5pm otherwise you could find yourself with very hungry and possibly drunk guests!
CommentAuthorBecky1608
I'd definitely expect to be fed in the afternoon. If you don't want the traditional breakfast, you could always have something like a hot buffet in the afternoon and the sandwiches, quiche and cake in the evening? Xx
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CommentAuthorLauraF89
Food drives me crazy, it's the biggest expense when it comes to a wedding and i constantly think of ways to save money with food but i want a full day wedding so i know that my pennies will have to disappear here to be able to keep my guests happy. I know it's not always about what the guests want but when the majority are starving they're either going to disappear to get food or slog it out and just drink and you'll have an extremely drunk party on your hands very early on. I would feel awful if my guests had no food up until 9ish if i got married that early, they would probably leave to go get food and i do not want that to happen..what about your own belly..will it not be empty?
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
I agree with everyone else - even if you could do some canapes?!
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Sorry but I agree with everyone too; it is a bit unfair expecting guests to 'do their own thing' for that length of time. I'd suggest having later ceremony if you want to skip the evening buffet.
We are having our ceremony at 12:30pm then photos then wedding breakfast at 2 or 3pm then evening buffet at around 7pm - 8pm :)
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
To be honest if I was invited to a ceremony at 1115 and not getting food until after 7pm id simply not go to the ceremony and just join the evening do. I suffer from IBS so cant go that long without food as id probably not have breakfast if I was having to get ready so early to leave the house.
Im getting married at 2pm and having drinks with canapés with the food being served at 5pm. evening guests arrive at 730 and buffet will prob be at 9-930pm.
You run the risk of people falling about drunk and leaving your evening do early
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Our ceremony is at 12:00, and then we'll have a wedding breakfast for full day guests and a buffet for them plus guests who are only evening do. However the evening guests are all local, and would probably go home in between.
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CommentAuthorAmyP5
Is there anyway you can delay the wedding until the afternoon? Either way I would let guests know what you assume they can do ie go off and please themselves. My friend went to a wedding that was held early in the morning like yours and had to wait till the evening buffet... She said she was hungry and got soo p****d as there was no food and not else to do.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Are you not having a day reception then...is that what u mean? I would say it's quite a stretch for ppl to wait x
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CommentAuthorbeximo86
Sorry but I agree with the other ladies on here - a ceremony at 11:15 is a bit early to not have food in the afternoon. We went to a wedding last year at 1030, dinner wasnt served until 130 and I was in such an ar$e because I was hungry, especially as someone that doesn't eat breakfast. We are having a later ceremony and having a BBQ and then a smaller buffet later in the evening - have you considered changing the ceremony time? x
CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
I agree with the others. It may sound Harsh but If you really didn't want to feed people you should have a later wedding. Also expecting people to occupy themselves for a whole afternoon is a little odd. I know I'd just get bored of killing time and would probably end up not going back for the evening as basically you are asking your guests to keep the whole day/ evening free for the sake of a morning ceremony and evening reception. Also people wouldn't need to get ready for the evening as they would already be dressed from the morning.
I am attending a wedding later this year where there is no official wedding breakfast but we are going straight from the ceremony to the reception where we will have access to a BBQ and there will be an additional buffet in the evening.
It's probably not what you want to hear but I think you should try and change your wedding time of provide some type of food. X
CommentAuthorclairenina
I think your guests will be hungry if you don't. We're getting married at 3pm, and having a wedding breakfast. We are also having a hot buffet at night
CommentAuthorAnnF53
we can't change the wedding time as we can't afford to pay the extra to get married in the afternoon, but you will be pleased to know that we are having a 2 course in the afternoon and an evening buffet as well!!
CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
Oh that's good, I'm sure your guests will appreciate it and also you won't have to put up with there rumbling tummys lol x
CommentAuthorFranM76
Good decision hun. Does it cost more to get married in the afternoon??
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
only extra cost for afternoon would think would be £10 admin fee to change time.
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