Wedding Forum - Top table stress!! :(...

I know it's a long way yet, but my h2b and I have been trying to work out how to do our tables, and its a nightmare! As some of you may already know, I lost my mom a few years ago, and in my opinion, only have the one dad (which some may from up on also), but it was my grandparents that basically raised me as a kid, so I wanted them with my dad on the top table on my side and have our daughter between myself and my h2b and my h2b was going to have his mom and both of his dad's on his side...However, my Grampy is 100% against this wedding. I love my Grampy dearly, and I've always been a Grampies girl, so when I mentioned the table plan to them, my Grampy straight out refused the idea and said that I shouldn't even expect to see him there. He looked like he was having a coronary attack just thinking about it! :( am I being unreasonable in being so upset by this? :( xoxox

May just be that he expects it to be done as tradition. Old fashioned in his thinking .