we r a bit late wiv these invites. got them today so hopefully when my oh gets home this fri we can get them filled in and sent off. im putting in a little note with our contact details and when to r.s.v.p by. but our venue wants our final payment and nos 2 months b4. so really need a yes or no by 1st may so only gives people just over a month. howlong did u give people?
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
We have a while yet but I think we'll give people about 6 months; my cousin sent theirs out in January and get married in September. I'd just include a note saying; sorry for the short notice but we need to know asap e.t.c but be aware that some people might not be able to book time off work but I'm guessing most people knew when the date was anyway :)
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
I've not sent mine out yet but asked for RSVPs to be back by 5th July (2 months before the big day) x
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I think with only 4 months to go they should know if they can come or not, max people need are 2 weeks if they need to get the ok for time off work. I would give them 1 month as some people leave it and forget then you have time to chase people.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
We get married 2nd August, we're picking up our invitations tonight and sending them tomorrow, and have given a deadline of May 1st.
Our reasons for this is that we have already sent save the dates, and most people should know by then if they are coming (most have already said they are; we have a few uncertainties on H2Bs side due to some family problems), and it allows us to send a 'second wave' of invitations with an RSVP of June 15th if we get any declines (we are limited on numbers and so haven't been able to invite everyone we might like to, so have a B list of sorts), or ask some of our evening guests if they would like to attend the full day.
Personally I think that 1.5 months is more than enough time to RSVP; I tend to think you can either come or you can't/want to attend or don't want to, and so it shouldn't really matter if the deadline is in a month's time or 3 month's time. I also think a shorter deadline might make people less likely to put it in their 'to do' pile and forget about it; if I saw a deadline of a month away I'd probably RSVP straight away.
tbh though i have had a discusion wiv my mum n htb coz i sed i dont c the point in sending out invites really coz every1 who nos us is coming n most is family to the day so we r only sending them coz people want them. extra £50 i cud have spent on something else really lol. that barbie86 was exactly my thought, if i have a wile to do something i always leave it to last min but if it needs doing asap i do it. fingers crossed x
CommentAuthorStephHsoon2bBodkin
October 31st is my cut of date. It give me time if people cannot make it for me to fill their space :) sending invitations out in May/June x
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CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
We'll probably ask for RSVPs 2 months before, as our venue requires an indication of final numbers 6 weeks prior anyway. Were sending save the dates soon so one would hope its a mere formality with the invites and people will ensure they are free. Having said that, we got an invite yesterday for a friends wedding in August, they have asked for RSVP's by 14 March, so 1.5 weeks! Luckily they had text us a couple of months ago putting us 'on notice' of the date, and as its so far off would think most people wouldnt have a problem anyway, but a week to respond is cutting it fine lol
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
Charlie: yeah, that's a bit ridiculous! I think people should allow about a month to give people time to receive them, respond, and send them back. With 1.5 weeks you'd practically have to send it back the next day!
CommentAuthorDrewM
as most of ours are family that live within 10 minute drive, we are going to send the invites with a 2 week rsvp (it's a bit of a lastminute.com).
We aren't worried about a formal yes/no, a text will suffice. again, its mostly for catering numbers etc. personally, I don't feel the need for official invites as we are arranging the entire wedding in around 17 weeks. (19 weeks from her saying "yes" to "I do") so we don't have the chance to give much time.
I would say 5-6 weeks rsvp time is plenty though.
CommentAuthorJuly 2014 bride
i am getting married 5th july and i have not sent out the wedding invites yet.as i am waiting for the menu cards as soon as i recived them i am sending out the invites with R.S.V.P 24th of may or it should be long enough for people to reply.
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CommentAuthorJadeH41
thanks peeps, feel better now x
CommentAuthorLaurajanevintage
My aunt and uncle who I never see haven't replied yet.. My dad has chased several times and I've left a message last week but still nothing! What should I do?!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
We've started sending ours with a RSVP of 14th June which is 3months before the wedding, just so we've got a bit of time to chase any stragglers x
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CommentAuthorJadeH41
laurajanevintage, i dont really no what to tell u tbh. maybe if ur dad has even tried calling and they still havent replyed mayb its a no? i dont no. do u no where they live i wud go round there if u havent heard anything in the nx few wks x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
We sent ours out in April and asked for rsvps to be in by 15th July. This then gave me ten weeks before the date to get numbers sorted. We had to give final numbers 6 weeks prior.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
it always amazes me that people need a month to decide if they are coming to a wedding .... lol ..... are they wondering if a better event might come up ?
Ppl do forgot to reply tho...don't know how but they do especially if they have to pick something food related x
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CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
I am guilty of not replying to rsvp's I would look at the RSVP date & think I've got ages to reply & then forget!! Now that I'm planning our wedding I feel really guilty about it & will always RSVP straight away in future.
CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
Laurajanevintage send one last message saying that the venue or caterers need final numbers by ?? (Maybe give 48 hours) & if they haven't replied you will have to take that as a no.
CommentAuthorbarbie86
Laura: I would try calling once more, and leave a voicemail, and I would also send them an email. In both messages say that you need the final numbers by x date and that if you have not heard from them by then, you will assume they are not coming, and that unfortunately there will be no space for them. Make sure you make that last point in case they think they can just show up anyway.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
see your all nicer than me .. i would love to call andsay " we sent you the invite on ..... its now ....... quite frankly if you can be to reply then we cant be to pay out a ridiculous amount of money to feed you , if we dont hear from you with in 24hrs ....YOUR OFF THE LIST "
lala: that's essentially what I would say, only more politely. If I got through to them, I would ask for a response there and then; if they ummed and ahhed I'd say that I took that as a no. If I couldn't get through, I'd leave a voicemail AND send an email as I said, with a tight deadline (probably 24-48 hours max), and make it clear that if I hadn't heard it would be considered a 'no', and there would be no space/food for them; and I'd follow through.
The only reason I would go to that trouble would be to avoid the awkward situation of not knowing 100% if they were/weren't coming, and not knowing whether to cater for them, and risk losing money, or not cater for them and they show up, as while a mean part of me would LOVE to say 'Oh, sorry, there's no space' in reality that would cause a scene and wouldn't be worth it :-s
CommentAuthorMegs84
I sent out STD cards back in July. Posted my invites on wed, got my 1st rsvp today!! (with menu choices too!!) I've given people until 30th April (5 weeks before) to get back to me, as my venue needs numbers 10 days before. Because i sent STDs, my guests should already have the date booked off, so it's just for formalities.
CommentAuthorVelcro
I've still got a few to hand out but I've been sending them out since mid February, to RSVP by 1st July.
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I would look at the RSVP date & think I've got ages to reply & then forget!!
to reply then we cant be 
