Wedding Forum - Niece as Bridesmaid am I making a big...

I wouldn't have her! Immature little cow! I'm 21 and don't act like that there's no excuse for it
Just tell her you've thought about the whole bridesmaid stuff and with the immature threats she's made you feel it's best if she is no longer a bridesmaid xx

Thanks katielea. In order to avoid upsetting my mum I could say that I've looked at the budget and it won't stretch to three bridesmaids and in fairness both her and her sister can't be bridesmaids. I'm sick of the family that live up north,( I'm in the south west) would stop telling me to be the adult and take whatever is thrown at me because she's young.

No don't take it! Tell them what she has said if they don't accept the budget idea,
Silly little girl
Good luck Hun xxx

If shes being like that, then I would just bin her. but, as petty as it sounds. I wouldn't tell her. id wait for HER to bring up dresses or something and just point out from what she had been saying and not like OH etc, you took it as an assumption that she didn't want to play a part in your day.

I would only ditch the one who's being horrible, I don't think its fair to ditch the other one. If anyone gets upset then all you have to say is that you don't want someone who is openly saying they want to ruin your day on your bridal party. Let them know she's lucky to still have an invite to the wedding

I absolutely agree, if it was happening to me then I wouldn't even be inviting her let alone allowing her the privilege of being a bridesmaid. I wouldn't make excuses about it either - it's because of her behaviour and that's not going to change unless people tell her how inappropriate her behaviour is. If she's acting like a child then treat her like one... channel your inner Super Nanny and put her on the naughty step! (Metaphorically that is, although I think I might actually pee myself if you physically placed her on a naughty step).

she need s to be told straight ... sort your behavior or your sacked DONT pussyfoot around making up excuses ... if she old enough to be so stupid she is old enough to take the truth

Definitely get rid and I don't think I'd be inviting her either incase she kicked off in the day

How will you feel if you let her carry on and she does ruin the day or make a scene?
Have a word with her and tell her straight, she either changes her attitude and stops being a cow or she cant be a bridesmaid or even come to the wedding. She's old enough to know that this is your day and that she needs to act as you wish, if she's out to "tell things like they are" then she needs to grow up, adults do not act like that and i certainly would not take the risk of having some little brat trying to upset people on my wedding day.

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Definitely it's not as if she's a child/teenager

Yeah, keep us updated hun and good luck talking to her :)

Hi all,

I spoke to my niece last night. Apparently she wasn't aware she was being out of order (wtf)!, some of the things she said were in her opinion truthful. She said that some of the comments she made were out of envy and jealousy. I apparently have it all, no kids no debt no responsibility for looking after my mum or ill sister because I left my responsibilities behind in the north when I moved south and dared to have a life of my own. I was shocked and told her straight that I have enough responsibilities and I don't live up north so I can't help as easy. I told her bluntly that when she's older she will have a life of her own and the priorities will change. She is so closed minded. She was looking forward to being a bridesmaid and I said she could still be one but she had to have more respect and being truthful is not the same as being a bxxch.

Oh dear. Well I am glad you had a chat with her, but it sound slike she was making sly digs in her "apology".

At least it was an apology of sorts I guess. She knows the score now so its up to her if she chooses to continue acting like a b**** towards you or if she's willing to accept that she needs to grow up by recognising has no business making snide comments about your life.

Glad you sorta got somewhere with her, hope she decides to grow up a bit and consider other peoples feelings a bit more.

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Woohoo! You go girlfriend!! << Don't think I've EVER said that but glad that you've got her toeing the line, nicely done! Fingers crossed that's the end of it and it will all be hunky dory from now on :) xx

Lol! Good on you!!! About time they heard it :)

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