A fair few things have been going on and although they can kind of be classed as "sorted", I have just been left feeling blah about it all.
Firstly, one of my bridesmaids, who I love dearly, has been changing plans which were made in August/September time last year. I had arranged, through thorough discussion with the two girls, for them to share a twin room in the Inn for the Friday, Saturday (day of wedding) and the Sunday nights and I would have a room to myself on the Friday night only (our wedding night being at our own house on our own). This was agreed, and they were happy. Early morning Wednesday, I get a FB private message from one of my bridesmaids saying that she no longer wanted to share a room, wanted a room of her own because she gets grumpy if she doesnt have time to herself. Nevermind that this decision DOUBLES what the other girl will now pay for her rooms, and has a very less paid job. :( There are only SEVEN rooms in the inn, and I arranged with the bridesmaids what they wanted early on so that we could give the rest of the rooms to family members if they were able to book there. So, I spoke to the Inn, found out there were two other rooms free, one next door to mine which is lovely, and another downstairs which is also nice...but next door to Dave's brother, wife and seven kids. I chose that room for the bridesmaid who has not only been changing these plans for me, but has been pushy about her hair, about the dress which was chosen, the jewelery which I bought for them, has gone behind my back to speak to the other bridesmaid about what they should choose for their nails, even though I had told her that plain or french was preferable (because we live in middle of nowhere and there wont be that many choices of colours here if we have to start touching up the nails). She changed the plans the other bridesmaid made for traveling here for the wedding because she cant possibly drive up here on her own. ARRRGHHH. I love this girl to bits, but I cannot take this side of it any more. I have put my foot down, I have let her know that I am not happy she has left this so late to want a room to herself, that I cannot make any more changes. So I have dealt with it, she has her own room, and my other bridesmaid has her own room too. And yet, I am still sitting here almost fizzing about it!! If it had just been one thing, it wouldn't have been a problem, but even the dress situation was a lot more involved than I have mentioned. It was a big to-do. Ugh, deflated is a good word for it.
Secondly, some of you might remember a post last year I wrote about the band I have hired and paid a deposit for. I emailed the band today (not naming them, because if I do and they g0000gle their name, this post will appear) after not having had a reply from them to my email I sent 4 weeks ago. This is the band who have had great reviews, and 4 bad reviews saying they havent turned up to people's weddings. When I emailed a question in August, it was weeks before I got a reply, and it was only after I wrote a post on here asking for advice, that they got back in touch trying to allay my fears although didnt answer my questions. I have had an unsettled feeling ever since. I emailed again on the 10th Jan, asking what time they are planning to arrive to set up, and if they need an accommodation list. No reply, until I forwarded it onto them again today, whereby I had an almost instant reply suggesting 4 pm. Very short email, again not answering everything. So I have replied and said, perfect and which door is easier for them to come in, and that they can help themselves to the buffet too can they tell me when they need the DJ song list by. Why am I still unsettled!!?? I could just be an over worried bride to be, but I feal like my confidence has been thrown out the window after reading the reviews which said he never showed, and after dealing with the problems and neurosis of my bridesmaid, Im just feeling flung about as though I have no control over our big day. UGH!!! H2B is mega chilled about it all, but I did have a bit of a heart to heart with him about everything yesterday when I finally burst into tears while putting yet another load of washing on.
He doesn't start back to work until the season starts 7th of March, by which point, he will have been off four and half months with no pay. Which means it has been my wage going towards our living expenses and towards the wedding, the car, the MOT, the tax, the fuel for the car to go work in other practices. The expenses department haven't paid me the fuel from the past four months, my practice manager hasn't put it through, nor has she put through the correct forms for me to be paid the correct amount. This has left us high and dry because I was relying on that reimbursement to pay the rest of the photographer and fuel for the car so we can go for our fertility treatment on Monday.
So money worries...band worries...bridesmaid woe...and am just generally knackered, fed up of dealing with all I have to do at work, but with reduced hours (after colleague retired March last year the hours were slashed by 17.5hours) and then come home and find that he hasn't done even the dishes, or maybe just put away the washing once it is dry, or maybe ball up some socks. I am at a point where I just want to say, F*** it, F*** off and do everything yourself, why am I bothering to accommodate everyone?
Arrrgh. So that is what is going on in our little world. I guess the band could or couldn't turn up. My other bridesmaid could, or couldn't change her mind, or demand something else, and pigs could or couldn't fly by the time my husband to be actually balls up the socks which I put beside his chair two days ago...
Until then Ladies...I am going to go pour myself my second southern and coke!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
what does your hubby do ?
as for the band i wouldnt wory any more you have emailed them regarding accommodation , so they now need to sort it for themselves
you bridesmaid .... want me to slap her ?
now go run yourself a hot andbubbly bath ...sit in that and have your drink
Dave is a chef. Unfortunately he works seasonally because of how rural we are, but I dont think we can do another winter here with no money. We are considering moving away next year, which would be better for us financially, especially given we are trying for a baby.
Haha, If I didnt think I would have to listen to her upset because she had been slapped, I would say yes Lala, please slap her lol
Ooooh there is nothing more I would love than having a bath, we only have a walk in shower. If we do move, the one thing I will insist upon...is please can we have a lovely big bath!
I know there is nothing more I can do about any of it, so going to have my toffee crisp and watch some comedy I think :) If I can distract myself for a bit, the blah feeling might go away for a while. xxx
CommentAuthorBethanyS
And take a breath! It sounds like you have so much on your plate which must be so hard, but try not think too much into it. The band has replied, which is better than no reply at all, so take that as a positive. Think positive! Your bridesmaid is just being awkward ... there is always one! I'm sure things will be fine, try not to stress too much. x
CommentAuthorMarrying.Ryan
Oh no. You really need a break. Have you tired asking the band outright about the reviews? I am sure they have seen them, too. Ask them if it normal for them to reply so slow and point out that you are concerned about the negative reviews you found.
