Rite.. where do I start?? Well I came off my pill bout year and half ago. And I had problems with my period as in I only had bout 3 in that time. Well I started to worry that somethink was wronge and want to check every was ok and if I could have kids. Well last friday I had blood test and I had a phone call on tue saying that it come back pregnant. Of course I was shocked!!!! So I take some pregnancy test and they come back that I bout 3weekes!! I not told anyone apart from my h2b and now on here... I just dont no what to do. I not making plan untill my scan but working it out I am due near my wedding day. What the hell do I do!! My h2b over the moon but I confused but I all ways belive every think happens for a reason! So may b my dream wedding was not meant to be. But Iam old fashion and want to b married b4 having a baby. So what do I do....?
CommentAuthorBlue
around 15th October you'll be due? Whens the wedding? If it were me i think id bring it forward a month or 2. But a friend of mine got married at 8 months and 2 weeks and she said it when really well. x x
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CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
20 of September. It just the money side that I worried bout, still got a bit to pay for venue and dress and every think
CommentAuthorNearlyMrsFountain
Congratulations!!! I'm not sure what to say... I guess u really have to think about what's important to u and h2b. They r 2 of the biggest things to ever happen in a lifetime. I personally would postpone the wedding as a baby is a major blessing also a massive life changer financially physically and personally. U have to change the birth certificate now once you are married as the baby is a product of your marriage, we have a 2 yr old so will have to change his when we are married, I always said I didn't want him going to school with me having a different name. Sorry I haven't been much help Xxxxx
CommentAuthorLauraK7
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Congratulations I personally would postpone the wedding for just a few months until after I'd had the baby x
Congratulations!!! That is amazing news, even if unexpected :) Some big decisions have to be made now. But some good decisions! Did it show up as 3 weeks on the test? Because then your actually 5 weeks. If you are due end of September, beginning of October and you dont mind having a bump on your wedding day, you could maybe bring your wedding forward just a little bit. Or if you prefer to have no or a small bump, bring it forward to spring and have a slightly smaller wedding. What better reason is there to have a smaller wedding than because of a baby??? You can still have a bigger due next year, maybe or even the year after when you LO is a toddler *whipe-tear-from-eye*
CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
Yer it said 3week on test! Thanks everyone I think I am still shock bout the whole thing
CommentAuthorDocMrsA2014
Congratulations ! My sister got married at 32 weeks pregnant so it can be done. I helped her out with loads for the planning and she had little breaks in between on the day. As you've said that you'd like to be married before having the baby, bringing the wedding forward a month or two before won't hurt.
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
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Congratulations on your news and If you don't mind having a baby bump on your wedding day bring your wedding forward make it a bit smaller but it will be 100x more intimate as you have a little mini you on the way two of the biggest decisions in your life happen at the same time I say its meant to be as you want to be married before you have a baby then bringing the wedding forward your only option =D <3 X
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CommentAuthorShowgirl
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First of all huge congratulations to you both! I was talking to a friend the other day about getting my implant removed so we could start TTC after the wedding (worried about how long it will take for fertility to return so want it removed now) and she was saying that she stopped having her injection 4 months ago but is still waiting for her first period and I joked about this exact scenario - that she'd maybe ovulate and conceive before she gets her period so doesn't realise she's pregnant for a little while. As for the date, personally I would leave everything as it is except for the dress depending on the style you've chosen and if it could accommodate a bump. I know this won't be a popular opinion but my thinking is that your families and BMs will really step up and do whatever they can to help anyway but... a) you may be overdue so the wedding will go without a hitch - just sit down as much as possible and let your guests come to you instead of circulating. You can even do the ceremony sitting down if you wish.
b) With all the excitement of the day you could very well go into labour on your wedding night (I'm told not many couples get to DTD on their wedding night these days anyway) and so your baby's birthday could be the day after your anniversary (or on the same day if its a quick labour) so the milestone events would call for big celebrations down the line. Plus it would certainly make your wedding the most memorable any of your guests have been to.
c) If the baby comes early then you'll have lots of help and support in taking care of the little one on the day (and running up to) so it'll be a day when you can relax a little from being parents for the few hours where you'll be having the ceremony and are required for photos, cake cutting and first dance etc. Yes you'll be tired but a bit of concealer will make sure it doesn't show on the photos and I believe you'll have a few days' grace to register the birth so if you do it after the wedding (depending on how close the baby is born to the date) then the baby will share the same surname without having to change the name later on.
d) You said you believe everything happens for a reason, which is another reason I would leave things as they are and let fate take its course.
CommentAuthorluratraloora
Congrats on your pregnancy! What lovely news for you! You can still have your dream wedding you just have to decide whether you want to bring your wedding forward or put your wedding back until after the baby is born. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and planning my wedding and we decided to just put the wedding back a few months after baby is here so it gives us time to save and enjoy time with the baby and to make it less stressful too... also I think the baby being involved being their on your wedding day is a lovely idea. We are having our baptism incorporated into our wedding day as we want to make the day about the 3 of us. :)
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Wow congratulations! That's the first thing .... Second...I had a feeling this would happen with me so I went on the pill after having my implant out as I was very fertile when I fell pregnant with my three girls, I know no fertility issues like yourself,but it's obviously happened now! Have u got any options in bringing the wedding forward a few months? As even with you being due near the wedding nobody knows what will happen with pregnancies and you could be early?! Normally venues will let u move it forward with no problems as long as the date is free and you can obviously afford to bring the payment schedule forward...and I agree with others regarding the dress,that's gotta fit you, otherwise you'd have to factor in getting a different dress... I would have put the suggestion in of you moving it back but as you've said you want to be married before babies,that's the only bits I can really think of.... Perhaps sit down with h2b and go through your options, see what he thinks ... But big congratulations,especially if you've had fertility problems anyway ...
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CommentAuthorNicky2988
Congratulations hun, what a wonderful surprise! I have a nearly 8 month old son and love being a mummy.
I would also move the wedding forward if possible. You probably won't want to do it just after baby arrives. Could you either move it forward or maybe wait a year? Xx
CommentAuthorRachelE118
Congratulations! Such happy news. So you'll be about 35 weeks getting married? Don't worry about money, prioritise what's important and you could ask for money for wedding presents? You'll never afford children (I know I have a 16 and 17 yr old) but what babies need is love, not designer outfits. Hope you're feeling ok xx
CommentAuthorNicky2988
And as for the money worries, don't worry hun. Most of the stuff they tell you you need, you don't! I haven't used half of it and my son has a lot of second hand clothes, they grow so fast there's just no point spending a fortune. He's almost 8 months and has been we'll into 9-12 month clothes for a few weeks! Message me if you want to chat to a new mummy :) xx
CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
Thanks eveyone just going to wait for my scan and go from there! Thanks nicky I do that it still not sunk in yet lol
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Congrats sweetie, same thing happened to me with pill, I never has any TOM. even tho I kept forgetting to take it. So i came off it and took ages to get back on track. but then it turned out I was preggers.
If i were you I would see about brining it forward! what style is your dress? would it accommodate a growing baby bump?
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CommentAuthorMrsManiatt
Congratulations!!! I would bring the wedding forward a few months if I were you, and if you want to save money for the babba you can always renew your vows in a big fancy way when the baby is born (or older?) xxx
CommentAuthorSonya
Congrats!!! I would bring the wedding forward and just have a smaller wedding!!
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
congratulations thats fantastic news i would definitely not change anything until at least your first scan but after that if you don't want to risk giving birth on your wedding day i'd bring it forward a few months xx
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CommentAuthorBethanyS
Congratulations firstly! I agree with the others, bring the wedding forward, but make it a smaller ceremony. x
CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
Congratulations x
CommentAuthorBecky1608
Congratulations!!!! I agree about bringing the wedding forward if this is a possibility. You can still have an amazing day but maybe cut a couple of the non essentials out if you're worried about the money side. Oooh and DIY decorations are a good idea too and save lots of money! Xxx
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
Congratulations. If you really want to be married before the baby arrives why don't you have a small wedding sooner rather than later, you could always have a larger blessing at a later date xx
CommentAuthorPang
Congrats! Such exciting news. I would bring the wedding as forward as possible if it was me and have a smaller wedding! People will understand when you tell them. :)
