Wedding Forum - Formal-ish wedding in a social club?...

I put my deposit down for a lovely social club. It's in a historical village, lovely old building and a room, that is going to get redecorated before our wedding. I was really excited about it even though it comes with the typical social club features such as games machines, which are right outside our room, but the more I plan things around the venue, the more I feel like it wasn't such a good idea after all. I do want it to be a formal-ish wedding, even though I am not on a big budget. The first issue was the top table. The way the room is layed out at the moment, we can't really have a top table unless we put it on the dance floor and then move it after or have it on the backwall. I also wanted to do a seating chart, but H2B said he doesn't think people will take any notice with it being a social club. Also, we are having a cold buffet and a hog roast to eat, which obviosuly requires getting up and even outside and I am worried people will end up eating standing up or outside!
I am basically worried it will end up being more of a party than a wedding.

I wouldn't worry too much. If there's a seating plan people will respect it. You'll work out a way to set the room up, just be creative xxx

sounds a bit like my wedding hun, its a marquee room at a rugby social club,the room looks exactly like where youd have a weding ect but then because its a club i think people wont treat it like a wedding lol
were having hot food served but theyll get up to serve themselves
im not having a table plan, but myself my family and bridal party and ohs immediate family will have designated tables xx

Don't be put of a table plan because it's a social club Hun . Ours is going to be in a community type centre and we are having a table plan x

I have had several comments now from H2B and his family, that they think it is daft and that noone will stick to it... I'm thinking of just leaving it now, because not having the in-laws on my side is one thing, but H2B doesn't even agree with me.

I think it would be rude of people to completely ignore a table plan.... I wouldn't dream of it myself :/

I agree with making a mock one, maybe speak to him by yourself to explain your ideas-he's probably got his family telling him how noone will stick to it, but how many people are you inviting? By the sounds of it, it just sounds like they're not planning on sticking to it.

I wasn't having a table plan but now I'm thinking about everyone going up for the buffet at once :/
I might not have a plan but table numbers and each table go up at a time? Xx