Ok so we have our home and everything in it we need so i'm wondering what your thoughts are on asking guests to gift us money as our wedding gift (should they want to give us one) to help pay for our honeymoon?? If this is normal how could we go about asking without sounding offensive to our guests?
CommentAuthorkatielea100
alot of couples do this now, its not rude, i know alotputit into a little poem, were asking for money for our honeymoon too xx
CommentAuthorStephanieM71
My friend did this at her wedding - she had a little poem in the invite about asking for honeymoon money - there was a thread on here recently with poems about this. Me and h2b are considering it too as we have very little in the honeymoon pot after the cost of the wedding.
I personally wasn't offended by it at all, and would rather give money for that that then some gift they would never use :)
CommentAuthorChanelP
i have done this and have sent out a poem with the invites. My cousin also did this and we did not take offence. The poem that we used was: We have dishes and towels for two, Pots and pans and a toaster too. Knives and forks and spoons galore, There isn’t much room for anything more! So if for our wedding you’d like to bring us a gift, A cheque or cash would give us a lift. Perhaps you could help towards our honeymoon spends, Or where our home is in need of a mend, Please don’t be offended with this type of request, As our day will be complete with you as our guest. x
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I love this poem, what we are planning on using! We know it’s not traditional It’s not the way it’s done But instead of a wedding list We’d like a bit of sun.
Please do not think of us as rude Please do not take offence We do not want to upset you That’s not the way it’s meant.
We’ve lived together quite a while And all the bills are paid We’ve got our plates, our pots and pans Our plans have all been made.
So if you’d like to give a gift To help us celebrate Some money for a honeymoon We would appreciate
Met June 2009 on my Birthday,Met again July 2009 and got
together, May 2010 Moved in,Jan 2011 got pregnant,
August 2011 Got our own place, 2011 Had our Baby Girl,
Dec 2011 Got engaged, July 2015 Getting married! Yay!
No this us what we will be doing as me and h2b will have been together 11 years when we get married and lived together for 9 plus have 3 kids lol
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we said to people that any money that had been kindly given would go towards doing extra things on honey moon , one thing we did was to go whale/dolphin watching
we are going to ask for travel agent vouchers or my cousin had a link on an estate agents website where people could pay money directly under their name
CommentAuthorEmma_Michelle
I think it is a brilliant idea and is something I think we will be doing. Love the poems! x
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
Thank you ladies, I feel better now knowing it's done a lot by others. The poems are great and think we will include one in our invites :)
CommentAuthorInDreamland
It's quite common these days to ask by having a poem like the others have said.
We had a traditional wedding list but many of our guests gave us cash and cheques instead which was very much appreciated as it helped with all the honeymoon excursions we had.
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorMarrying.Ryan
We are going to do this, too. I think it's a lovely idea. Quite common these days, too.
CommentAuthorclairenina
When I first saw this a few years ago, I thought it was cheeky. But after some thought, it makes sense. Nobody needs 5 toasters. We will be biting the bullet and doing the same. I do still feel a little bit cheeky, but who cares. After all We are paying a fortune for the wedding to entertain and feed our guests lol
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
we are doing the same! weve been together 10 years and lived together for 5.... we have everything we need.... xx
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CommentAuthorMrs C to be!
not at all, we have been living together now for 6/7 years and hae our own home, hvaent been on a holiday in 5 years, so this is special, i made our own poem, and asked for contributions....
Your presence at our wedding is more important than any present. Because we are becoming a Mr and Mrs you may want to give us as gift. For this we ask… a contribution to our Honeymoon fund, which will enable us to have lots of fun. With many sights to see and things to do, we would love to have some memories as a married couple, which come from you.
CommentAuthorprincesspixie
i think a lot of couples do this these days theres not many people who get married without having lived together first to be honest i quite prefer this idea to wedding gift lists xx
Officially married my best friend 2/5/2015 (secretly)
Big wedding 18/06/2016
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
We got cutlery for our engagement...clearly we had been eating with our fingers for the previous 2 years lol. While sat in my aunts the other night we were talking about wedding invites (big family dinner) so one aunt brought out the neighbours invites...which were horrible lol but inside was a money poem. My other aunt said she thought it was really rude to put one of those in...i said well i am gonna be rude cause i am putting one in...i dont need new cutlery or new wine glasses or a new toaster. She reckons that people will automatically give money to couples who hav ebeen living together for a while...they dont so just do the money poem and maybe put in a little gift list for th epeopel who would rather buy you an actual present. i knw we dont get married for the gifts but people generally buy one and i definatley prefer a helping hand when it comes to weddings. For our friend we bought from their gift list. We didnt have money to buy the big things but they had lots of little things like herb planters and coasters and salt and pepper shakers etc that were between £5 and £10 so we spent £25 on 3 smaller items rather than buying the £50 crytsal whickey glasses. Guests prefer a little help so give them a choice xx
CommentAuthorShowgirl
We're asking for money towards the honeymoon but we're thinking of skipping the poem. Its a nice touch but we've been to loads of weddings and all of them had a poem asking for money and in all honesty we didn't read them properly. Upon speaking to the other guests at the weddings we found out most of them hadn't read them properly either. That may just be indicative of our friendship circles though. In the invite samples we received (printed with the details of previous couples who had chosen those particular stationary styles) they all had a line simply saying "no gifts please". I get the impression this is standard for an Indian wedding invite but it seems a bit too blunt so I was just going to write a couple of lines explaining we have lived together for a while and have everything we need but if people would like to get us a gift then a contribution towards the honeymoon or their time would be most appreciated. We recently bought our first house so as our wedding gift OH's aunt will be doing up the garden for us and we've had lots of offers of help redecorating from a friend who is trying to save up at the moment so we are thinking of accepting her offer as a wedding gift.
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
Hmmm now I'm not sure if I should put a poem in or just a short note saying that we've lived together for sometime and there's nothing homely we need so any contribution to honeymoon would be appreciated? I'm not to good at wording things and certainly don't want to sound cheeky to family and friends!
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
A lot of people do this and it is not uncommon. Myself & H2b have lived together a while now but we are getting to the stage where things need replacing so we we are combining a Wedding List with a Honeymoon Contribution (the 2 companies are linked) and that way IF a guest would like to purchase a Wedding present of some kind then they have a choice of what they would prefer to do.
Started Dating: 25th September 2005
Engaged: 26th September 2012
Getting Married: 25th May 2014
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
We've doing this too as we live together so don't really need the traditional things; I don't think it is rude if worded right; surely it would be better to get a gift that could be used and enjoyed rather then some fancy glasses e.t.c which will just be stored away :S
Met in 2009
Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
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CommentAuthorAllishiaW
We r doing the poems in some invites and not in others :) that way we are fortunate enough to get a few things brought for us AND have some spending money!! I'm lucky enough that my dad is paying for our honeymoon!! But as we are paying for everything else,we havnt got much funds for day trips when we go!! So it will give us a helping hand :) x
