Wedding Forum - FUMING!!!...

My beautiful BMS have organised a lovely lakeside cottage for my hen do for a weekend away with champagne and wellies!

Exactly what i was after. However, this morning I emailed my manager and asked for the Friday and Monday off only to be told no!!

I work in finance and yes it's year end but FFS it's my hen party and it's TWO days!!!

So upset, i just don't know what to do! xxx

could you put in extra time and then take the days off

trouble is if you call in sick on a Friday / Monday and then any pictures of you hen weekend come to light showing you enjoying yourself this could be grounds for a disciplinary, also the fact that you have already asked for those days off ... i would see if you can move the weekend .

I know exactly how you feel. I also work in an accounts office and we are never allowed time off when its month end let alone year end. its frowned upon evening asking for 1/2 day during then.
Surely your friends would have known what your job is like, unless its our first yr end with your company. Presumbly jobs are talked about when you are all together?
try and compromise and see if they will allow 1/2 off on the Friday pm and the Monday am off.
could the weekend be changed.
if all else fails its just one of those things.

argh! work sucks and ruins everything.
I understand the dilmena as now you have asked and they have said no, if you call in sick they will know why and technically could do you for misconduct.
I suggest you go to them again with receipts or evidence of the weekend and explain how much it means, how much you would lose and offer to work later on thursday or tuesday to make up for it?

I hope the understand
xxx

I have been looking into moving my hen do but the problem is, I get married at the beginning of May that means my hen do will be well over a month before my wedding!

I'm not into the idea of throwing a sicky and it would have thought that because it's my hen do (which she does know about) then she could have made some allowances! It's not like I have ever got married before nor taken time off in that period!

I wouldn't mind but io've worked there seven years!!!! xxx

Have you explained to them it's for your hen do? Find out if you can make a compromise with them like someone said earlier about doing a half day on Friday and half day Monday?

is it worth appealing to her & telling her that you respect her too much to just take sickies off for it, instead of asking properly?

Do you work in a company where there is a boss above her or a personnel manager. If so I'd go to them. I work with a girl who's sister us getting married the same day as me and she asked for a certain day off as her sister told her they are all going to London and her manager said no. She went to personnel and they have said she can have the day off. They said its an exceptional circumstance and shouldn't have been refused. X

We're allowed to appeal under exceptional circumstances too if there's a staff member off or it's an important work time of year . Ie in may for us it's our yearly relaunch so we're not allowed holidays then but they should listen if you appeal x

Hope it works out but would suggest re-asking and explaining why and maybe cancel a couple of days of leave in the new year if you have any, to "make up". Don't pull a sicky... It'll be obvious and get you in to trouble as they will find out. Social media and the world is a very small place is how!

Does it say in your contract that holiday can only be taken at certain times? Dig your employment contract out and have a read of what it says.

If nothing is there then she has no basis to refuse your annual leave which is a contractual right of employment.

Most employment contracts will have a clause about not clashing with other members of staff but that is not her arguement........

I've changed my date to March now as it just wasn't worth the hassle, the girls have decided we can have a night out in town in April just so we can have a get together the month before wedding. xx