Hi So apparently my H2B father expects to do a speech at the wedding and he and his wife claim that this is the norm in all the weddings that they've ever been to and that their families would expect to see him do a speech. What are your thoughts? My mum and I are worried that my dad's speech will lose it's importance with H2B's dad doing a speech... I know it's my wedding but what can I say and how can I compromise so that my mum and I are happy as well as H2B's family?
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
have whoever you want to do speeches ..... could FIL2B do one at the evening do ?
My other thought was to do the 3 normal speeches before dinner, and then FIL2B could do his between main course and dessert? X
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Cousin's wedding last month and FIL2B did a speech and it was great actually.. We didn't really have a FOB speech just the usual groom one plus his Dad and that worked quite well :) xx
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CommentAuthorShazk
I think you should have whoever you both feel should do a speech, What does your H2B think about his dad doing one?
Personally if he feels like his dad should be included and wants his dad to do one then his wishes should also be respected xx
My FIL2B is doing a speech, as well as my mum (instead of my dad). It's really important to him and its great that he's wanting to be involved and contribute. We are going to do his first and then my mum's then the grooms and the best mans. We ordered it that way because apprarently the best man normally goes last, and having my mum go second gives her a chance to have a little bit of a giilge and relax, so it is less daunting than being the first to go, and my FIL2B could do it with confidence
So maybe you could have them both do one but have them ordered so that your dad got to go first, as it might then have the biggest impact and stand out the most. Then the second one might not seem to stand out ish. It would also let your dad say all the thanks yous and acknowledgements first so it would seem like a bigger thing?
CommentAuthorKistHall
*giggle
CommentAuthorTamaraA56
Groom obviously wants his dad to the speech, and so do I, my only concern is that my dad will be overshadowed (he's Serbian and his English isn't the best so it'll be trickier for him to get it write but he's really looking forward to doing it) Thanks for all the advice ladies, I think it will all be about ordering them correctly... I also don't want the speeches to go on for ages as everyone will be starving by the time we finally eat!! X
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Have who you want, if you're ha[[y with it, go with it. It's not "traditional" though. Good suggestion of doing it at the evening do though!
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I think its up to you, if you want traditional: Bride's Father The bride's father is called upon by either the toastmaster or best man to propose a toast of "health and happiness" to the happy couple. Before the toast is made he would normally welcome all the guests at the reception, say a few words about his daughter and then welcome the groom into his family. The Groom The groom would reply to the bride's father's speech on behalf of himself and his new bride while also thanking his own parents for their care and love in his own upbringing. The groom will also thank the guests for the presents bestowed upon bride and groom. If any family members from either side be unable to attend the wedding through illness then the groom would mention them and wish them a speedy recovery. As a conclusion the groom would propose a toast to the bridesmaids and thank them for a job well done. The groom may also present any gifts that the happy couple have for those who have helped with the wedding planning and preparation. The Best Man The best man's speech is the most light-hearted and humourous of the speeches and is usually expected to be the high point of the reception. The best man is often chosen on his ability to make this speech with both humour and integrity. It is also the best man's responsibility to reply to the groom on behalf of the bridesmaids
This is basically because in the old days men would speak for woman, as they belived women had very little to say that was worthwile and was a mans place to speak for woman, unlike now adays.
We are having MOB , Groom, BM, MOH, and then ME! more women than men.
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CommentAuthorTamaraA56
Oh wow that sounds amazing! I want to do a speech too! And I might ask one of the bridesmaid's to do a speech too! I love love love the idea of having more girls than boys doing the speeches!! X
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
If you're having lots of different people doing speeches, make sure they don't go on too long!
We went to a wedding a while ago where they seemed never ending, all the speakers were good but it came to over an hour, and of course, during that time you can't go for a pee or go to the bar - plus it was kinda repetitive, thanks to the parents, thanks to the guests, doesn't the bride look lovely (which of course, she did), doesn't the groom look smart...I'd certainly be tempted to split them if having more than three or four people...that way, the speeches will have a bigger impact, too.
Also, I think if you're happy for your fil to make a speech, and it's something he is happy to do, go for it! No, it's not traditional but who cares? It's your wedding!
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Could your Fil2b do a reading instead? Xxx
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CommentAuthorNataleeM
you can have whoever you want hunny xx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
I think a good idea is to say to be people speech only around 5 mins little over little under fine, I think its plenty of time. I would die if i was sat listening to one speech for a hour, I also think its cute idea for MOH and BM to do a joint one
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CommentAuthorTamaraA56
I agree, will definitely be asking people to keep their speeches to around 5 minutes! X x
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Have whoever you want doing speeches hun, have everyone if you want!! Everones speech will be unique! xx
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I wouldn't say it's the traditional way of doing it.... Brides dad,groom and best man only....I've never been to a wedding where the grooms dad has made a speech... Guests get bored of hearing them x
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