Have you lot seen the new Strongbow advert where the groom stands up to do his speech and the words fall off the paper and he looks out to a crowd of judge and jurors !! I'm almost 100% sure this is what my H2B thinks is going to happen to him !!
He is so nervous about his speech I don't think he's looking forward to the day at all because of it... I've said jokingly about me doing a speech instead but he said no, sort of anyway....
I don't know what I can do to help him get over the public speaking thing.. Will he just flow into it on the day or is he just going to be thinking about it and it take over his whole emotions until its done ? Xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorJoanna
Obviously I don't understand just how nervous your h2b is but I can say that when my hubby was a best man last year, he was ridiculously nervous about making his speech, and I know that our best man felt nervous too (both of them did great jobs btw). Hubby was nervous about making his speech at our wedding but on the actual day, he wasn't nervous at all. He was just enjoying the day and then when the time for speeches came, he simply stood up and made a speech, no nerves whatsoever. So I think that once your day is actually here, he'll be too happy and busy enjoying his day to be too nervous about his speech :)
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Thanks Joanna, I really hope you're right.. He's so worried its going to be boring and he hates his voice too and thinks people find it hard to understand him cause he has a bit of a lisp sometimes.. Hardly ever and only very very mild, but he notices it so thinks everyone else does.. Before I realised how nervous he was he said about just thanking people and that's it.. Thinking he was joking I said no don't be stupid you've got to make me cry with a gorgeous romantic speech !! If I'd have known then he wasn't joking, then I'd maybe not have said it and just let him thank people and that's it... :-/ xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
have you thought about bringing the speeches forward to the beginning of meal? that way they are over and done with and if he is nervous then it wont last all through meal and he can relax then. i think thats what my H2B wants to do - i said that its up to him x
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Oh wow, no I hadn't Becky ! I'll suggest that to him ! Thank you :-) xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
no probs. i think my H2B is a little nervous so ive suggested it to him too - he trying to make me do a speech too but ill just end up crying lol! they did speeches first at wedding i went to few weeks ago - we were a little hungry but there were short speeches so it wasnt too bad xx
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Ahh see I know my dads and the best mans won't be short lol... However, after the wedding and photos at around 3.30pm, there will be canapés floating around.. Do you think that'll keep the hunger away for a couple more hours ? Wedding is at 2pm.. We were going to start the food at 5.30, but would probably be 6.30 ish if we did it that way and then night do starts at 8pm... Are we going to be squished for time ?? Hmmmm... Xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorJoanna
I don't think that you'll be pushed for time or that people will be too hungry. Personally I love speeches at weddings so I wouldn't mind waiting for food to hear them. Also, if you have canapés then that will keep your guests going x
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
We could probably start the speeches a bit earlier than the food actually... Definitely going to mention this to H2B then :-) xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorCatherineR
My cousin got married last month and he was SO nervous the poor thing couldn't enjoy the day properly until he'd done his speech so what they did was, they did the speeches BEFORE the meal! Have you considered that? :) xxx
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CommentAuthorValentinaK
i want to see this! Its how I feel every time I have to give a brief!
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Utube it Valentina ! Xx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorSJJ
Oh bless him, I know my OH is nervous too but not to the extent it will ruin the day, we have moved the speeches to before dinner as otherwise we think he will be too nervous to eat! My OH was best man last year and the groom didnt make a speech due to nerves, and the bride didnt do one, honestly noone judged him at all it was barely noticed, no point following etiquette if it will take some of the magic of the day away (In my opinion) xx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
He could look at getting some lessons in public speaking from an acting coach. The other thing is to practice it in front of a few friends.
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CommentAuthorElle23
My Hubby was far too nervous and uncomfortable about making a speech on our day so decided against it I was fine with that, it was his day too and the thought of him dreading it and feeling stressed about it was awful No one mentioned the lack of his speech nor did it stick out that he had not done one.
He tells me lovely things all the time so I did not need him to tell me in front of everyone else
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CommentAuthorTanya83
My husband was really nervous about his speech, but he said afterwards if he'd have known how easy it would be, he wouldn't have worried so much. During the speech, he had to keep taking sips of water to calm himself and stop him from crying, but it added to the charm of the speech (especially when my daughter piped up after him taking the third swig with "you're gonna get drunk!!") Just remind your H2B that everyone in the room is there willing him to do well, and not wanting to heckle or think badly and they will love whatever he says.
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
Thanks guys :-) Ill have a word with him. I thought it'd be noticeable if he didn't do one but maybe not.. I really wanted him to do one but I guess it won't be so bad if he doesn't.. Xxx
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4th July 2015 <3
CommentAuthorCatherineR
Maybe just ask him to say a few thank you's and leave it at that.... 'My wife and I *insert cheers!* would like to thank you all for coming and hope you've had a lovely day! Short and sweet :) xx
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CommentAuthorVickyB70
My h2b and dad are so nervous about their speeches I've given them the option of having no speeches at all but neither will give in! Adams best man said about the strongbow advert and said he keeps dreaming about his speech going wrong! The thing is everyone knows how nerve racking it is do get up in front of loads of people and I'm exactly the same which is why I've said what I've said. Jar tell him to have a few drinks beforehand and he will be fine!!! x
