Wedding Forum - Difference between moh and bridesmaid, who...

I only have 2 adult bridesmaids so I haven't picked either! They are both my best friends and I didn't want one to feel left out so I am just doing everything with both of them :) They are more than happy just to be a part of the wedding, they don't care about what title they have :) xxx

I have three adult bms, two of whom are sisters. I get on with one sister much better than the other but I didnt want to pick one or the other. The sister I want to pick one over the other, but in the end thats what I did. My other two bms have been brilliant and so supportive I neednt have worried!

I dont think you need to pick one, many people dont.

Personally, if you only have two bms you probably don't need a maid of honour - I believe it's an American thing...American weddings tend to have a larger number of bridesmaids than ours, so the maid of honours role was to 'organise' them and take the lead in the bachelorette party, wedding shower, organising shopping trips.

We have three bridesmaid - two of which are h2bs adult nieces, one is my best friend since primary school. We have given her the title 'maid of honour' because, erm.....it sounds nice, and to be fair, when I asked her to be it, I thought it was just an extra-special bridesmaid - kinda like the female equivalent of a best man compared to ushers.

She hasn't had any 'special' duties, I think I'm quite laid back lol. She's always here for me when I need a Weddingy chat though and is really excited about the big day and has gotten involved where she can, which is difficult as she lives away.

My two other bms have also been fairly helpful, however they are 17 and a young 19 so in a practical sense are limited to what they do...which we expected, and is cool, they always remember to ask me about the wedding and drop in any wedding related tit-bits they may have seen on telly etc xx

Traditionally it is actually the two fathers who sign the register, not the MOH and best man, this is another American thing xxx

How about a moh and a chief bridesmaid - they will both feel important then :)

maybe one can sign the register and one do a reading or a speech?

You don't need either of them to be named as maid of honour. You just need to split the duties equally. Anyone can sign the register for you; I'm going to ask my aunt to do it. My bridesmaids will all be involved in the choir at that point,apart from two little ones and one with cerebral palsy who can't use her hands. There's one other who I will get to help me with my bouquet and train at that point, but I like the idea of a family member signing for me.

I've got 2 adult bridesmaid, both of whom I would class as 'best friends', and decided not to pick a MOH as I didn't want one to feel more important than the other. They are both people that I love equally, and they were just happy to be asked to be part of the wedding party. Luckily, despite the distance they get on well, and with the joys of FB they can contact each other freely on there, without me knowing. Apparently plans for my hen night are well under way thanks to that! Maybe thats something you could look into if they don't know each other yet?

I've split other duties amongst them equally, ultimately it's up to you but I think if they're happy with 'bridesmaid' then why complicate things? x

I was told MOH was for the unmarried, Cbm was for married ladies x

Im not having one.
I Have a few bridesmaids and there all my best friends, I couldn't choose. Id feel that I was saying that friend was more important then the others.

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I've decided im not having 1, both just having the title bridesmaid, im doing most of the organising anyway including own hen do so have decided i'll either have my aunt or mil2b to do the signing Xx

I have 3 bm's the youngest is my 13 yr old daughter, were having 2 readings which my daughter and son will be doing, none of the older bm's are really helping a lot but used to doing things myself anyway, so thats why thought mil2b or my aunt sign because my aunt only 4 months older than me but been there through thick and thin, and mil2b, well she hasn't got any daughters so thought i could include her in that way, i will make a decision just not sure when lol Xx